Chapter 31 Where is the magic formula for overcoming worry

If you keep worrying, you'll probably never succeed.Because the worst thing about worrying is destroying one's ability to concentrate.Once worry arises, our minds wander and we lose the ability to make decisions. Do you want to learn how to deal with worry?A technique you can apply immediately after listening to this lesson?So let me tell you about this method invented by Willie Kestrie!Kesteri was a brilliant engineer who pioneered the manufacture of air conditioners and is now the head of the world-famous Kesteri Corporation in Serricus, New York.This is the best remedy for worrying that I know of, and I learned it myself from Mr. Kestrie when I had lunch with him at the Engineers' Club in New York.

When Kesterui was young, he worked in a foundry company.His task was to install a gas cleaning machine in a factory that cost several million dollars to remove the impurities of the gas combustion so that the gas would not damage the engine when it burned.This method of gas cleaning is a new endeavor that has only been tried once before - and the circumstances were very different. When he was working, many unexpected difficulties arose.After some adjustments, the machine can be used, but the effect is not as expected. He was so taken aback by his failure that he felt as if someone had punched him hard on the head.His stomach and his entire belly began to writhe.For a while, he was so worried that he couldn't sleep.

Finally, out of common sense, he realized that worrying cannot solve the problem, so he came up with a solution that can solve the problem without worrying, and it turned out to be very effective. His method of fighting worry has been used for more than 30 years.This method is so simple that anyone can use it.This method has three steps: The first step is to first analyze the whole situation without fear and honesty, and then find out what is the worst that can happen if you fail.He knew no one was going to lock him up, or shoot him, but he would probably lose his job, and his boss would probably tear down his entire machine, ruining the $20,000 that went down.

The second step is to find out the worst possible situation and allow yourself to accept it when necessary.Kosteri said to himself: "This failure will be a big blot on my record, and I may lose my job because of it. But even if it is, I can still find another job. Things It could be worse than that. As for my bosses - they also know that we are now experimenting with a new method of removing gas, and if it costs them $20,000, they can afford it. They can put this account Count it in research fees, because it's just an experiment." After discovering the worst that could happen and allowing yourself to accept it, something very important happened.Kesteri immediately relaxed, and felt a calmness he hadn't experienced in the past few days.

The third step, from then on, calmly devote your time and energy to trying to improve the worst situation you have accepted psychologically. Kesteri worked hard to find some way to reduce the $20,000 loss he was currently facing.He did several experiments, and finally found that if he could spend another $5,000 and add some equipment, the current problem could be solved.If this method is followed, instead of losing $20,000, the company can make $15,000. If he had been worried all the time, he might never be able to do this again.Because the worst thing about worrying is destroying one's ability to make decisions.Once worry arises, our minds wander and we lose the ability to make decisions.However, when we force ourselves to face the worst and accept it mentally first, we are able to weigh up all possible scenarios, putting us in a position where we can focus on problem solving.

The story of Kesterui happened many, many years ago, and because this practice is so good, he has been using it all the time.As a result, there were almost no more worries in his life. Why is Willie Kestrie's All Souls Formula so valuable and practical?Psychologically, it pulls us out of that big gray cloud that keeps us from groping blindly with worry, it keeps our feet firmly on the ground, and we all know He was indeed standing on the ground.How can we hope to figure things out if we don't have solid ground beneath our feet? When we accept the worst, we have nothing to lose, which means that everything can be gained back.After facing the worst, Willie Kestrie told us, "I immediately relaxed and felt a peace I hadn't experienced in days. Then, I could think."

Makes sense, right?Yet there are thousands of others whose lives have been ruined by worry.Because they refuse to accept the worst, refuse to improve upon it, refuse to salvage as much as possible from a disaster.Instead of rebuilding their fortunes, they engage in "a ruthless and violent struggle with experience" . Would you like to see how other people use Willie Kestrie's All-In-One Formula to solve their own problems?Well, here's another example.Here's what a former student in my class—now a New York oilman—has done: "I've been blackmailed," he said, "I don't believe it's going to happen—I don't Believing that this sort of thing happens in real life outside of the movies - but I'm really being blackmailed."

What happened was this: the oil company he was in charge of had several oil trucks and many drivers.During that time, the price control board regulations were very strict, and there was a limit on the amount of gas they could give to each customer. He didn't know the truth of the matter at first, but it seemed that some delivery men reduced the amount of fuel their regular customers had, and then sold the stolen goods to other customers.One day, a man who claimed to be a government investigator visited him and asked him for a red envelope.And he claimed to have evidence of fraud by their freight forwarders.The man threatened and said: "If you don't agree, I will transfer the evidence to the district attorney." At this time, he discovered that the company had such illegal transactions.

Of course, he knew he had nothing to worry about—at least not personally.It's just that he also knows that the law stipulates that the company should be responsible for the actions of its employees.Also, if the case went to court and the papers, the bad reputation would ruin his business.He is very proud of his business - the foundation his father laid 24 years ago. He was so worried that he fell ill and couldn't eat or sleep for three days and three nights.He kept going back and forth on the matter: Should he pay the money—$5,000—or should he tell the man, do what you want!He has been unable to make up his mind, and has nightmares every day.

Then, on a Sunday night, he happened to pick up a little book called "How to Stop Worrying," and when he read the story of Willie Kestrie, it said: "Face the worst ’” So he asked himself, “If I don’t pay and the blackmailer turns over the evidence to the D.A., what’s the worst that could happen?” The answer he came up with: ruined his business—worst of all.He won't be locked up.All that could happen was that he would be ruined by it. So he said to himself, "Okay, even if the business is ruined, but I can accept this psychologically, what will happen next?" After the business is ruined, you may have to find another job.Which wasn't bad either, he knew a lot about oil - a couple of big companies would probably be happy to hire him...he was beginning to feel much better.After three days and three nights, his worry began to dissipate a little.His emotions stabilized... and unexpectedly, he was able to start thinking.

He clearly sees the third step - to improve the worst situation.Just when he was thinking of a solution, he discovered a whole new situation: If he told his lawyer the whole situation, he might find a new way.It seemed stupid at first, because it hadn't occurred to him at first--because, of course, he hadn't thought about it at first, but had been worrying.He made up his mind right away and went to see his lawyer early the next morning. How did things turn out?The next morning the lawyer told him to go see the D.A. and lay out the whole situation.He did as his lawyer said.When he told the story, he was surprised to hear the district attorney say that this kind of extortion case had been going on for several months, and that the person who claimed to be a "government official" was actually a wanted criminal by the police.After worrying for three days and three nights that he couldn't decide whether to hand over the $5,000 to the career criminal, he was relieved to hear this. The experience taught him a lesson he will never forget.Now, whenever he was confronted with a problem that worried him, he used what he called "Willie Kestrie's formula." Kester's universal formula for overcoming worry: Step 1: Ask yourself, "What's the worst that could happen?" Step 2: Prepare to accept the worst.Step 3: Try to improve the worst situation.