Chapter 66 What if my husband gets transferred?

There are those who shake their heads and complain that women are often reluctant to leave their familiar surroundings, and as a result tie their husbands to a regular job.Mr. Vern L. Elliott, director of the Atlantic Refining Company in Philadelphia, called such wives "bad kids" and considered them a hindrance to their husbands' careers. Another director also told me that there was a young employee who was very promising, but his wife refused to move to a new environment, so he had to give up a promotion opportunity that he had worked hard for.What is his wife reluctant to part with?Her parents, friends, church and beloved living room!

It is not easy for a family to put down roots in one place, and it takes a lot of courage for them to give up all this and move to a completely unfamiliar environment.Marriage must have a good foundation in order to withstand this test.During World War II, there were many brides who could not adapt to the exhaustion of constantly moving between military camps, and they also lacked the necessary ability to maintain the stability of their families in a turbulent environment. However, if the wife has some adaptability, it should be easy to overcome these difficulties.Mrs. Reilendo Gessina, who lives in Fork City, Virginia, is such a wife."Two years ago, my husband went to the Navy. We left our newly renovated home and we traveled across the country with our kids, and I thought I was so unlucky," she wrote in the Women's magazine article. These two years will be bleak. I was very sad when we entered the first garrison point.

"Now that we've moved a few times, it feels like I was so childish! My husband is leaving the Army and we're planning on settling down - which is of course our wish. How I feel about it Excited, but I have to admit I'm a little sad because I'm leaving my old way of life. I've had a great time these two years because I've adjusted to living with many different types of people, and I've learned to tolerate and understand those thoughts I am also a person whose style of work is completely different from mine. I am also used to ignoring those unimportant troubles when my hopes fail. I deeply understand that the happiness of a family is not based on a lot of utensils. The important thing is to have love, thoughtfulness and warmth. No matter what the situation is, you have to do your best."

If you must move to a new place and leave your familiar surroundings, here are four tips you should keep in mind - The environment, work and people are the same, no one is exactly the same.Don't be disheartened if your husband's job is not as good as it used to be. The new job may have a better chance of success. As long as you work hard, you may get unexpected surprises. One summer, my husband taught a summer class at the University of Wyoming.Because the housing was very tight at that time, we had to live in a simple house, which was specially built for married veterans and their families to live in.I admit that facing such a residence, I really couldn't cheer up at the time.

However, it was that experience that became the most valuable and thought-provoking experience in my life.The house is easy to organize and the neighbors are kind and friendly.It didn't take long for me to be ashamed of my initial dislike, for I watched young couples go to school, make the most of their modest means of living, and happily raise their children.In that summer, we made many good friends, and at the same time, we also understood that such a person and such a standard of living are not necessarily related to success-as long as you can get by, life is also happy. I have a friend who moved to an industrial city with her husband, and this promotion was something her husband had been looking forward to for a long time.However, she only stayed in this small town for 24 hours before packing up her luggage and going back to their original home!Her husband's salary increase was only enough to hire a maid, and her husband had to apply to be transferred back to his original position.It's all because his wife doesn't try to adapt to the new environment here.

If you move to a new place, make an effort to make new friends and take advantage of opportunities such as attending church, joining clubs, and joining groups to immerse yourself in the new environment.Instead of complaining about circumstances, try to adapt to them! Mrs. Robert Watson's home is at 2641 East 23rd Street, Tulsa, Oklahoma. Her husband is a geophysicist for Carter Oil Company, so the Watsons and their four children have traveled all over the world.Having lived in the most inhospitable areas of the world, they have always maintained a relaxed and happy mood.Such a beautiful family is really rare.

In Mrs. Watson's view, the family is a resting place for the soul. "I'm always ready to go; everyone in my family knows that there are places in the world where we can learn and grow if we look for them. For example, when we were living in the Bahamas, we had a champion diving instructor there. Diving. This is a rare learning opportunity for our mermaid Susie. She has made great progress and finally won a medal in a competition. If we don’t go there, how can we have this good opportunity? Once, a manager He mentioned to me that his company needs to send several employees to work abroad, but the company must send their wives with them. According to my understanding, the best way to 'adapt' is to take advantage of various opportunities in the new environment. new knowledge; not complaining about the status quo or clinging to the past.”

Anyway, what's wrong with moving around?If you stay in one place for a long time, you will get moldy!So, if you have to move around because of your husband's job, you should happily go with him, keeping in mind the following tips: 1.Don't expect the new environment to be the same as the old one. 2.Don't scowl over the lost convenience, those things are not so important. 3.You should live in a new environment first, and then make a conclusion whether you can adapt. 4.Make the most of new opportunities and not get attached to the past.