Chapter 5 resolve to succeed

Once, a radio host asked me on the show to describe the most important lesson I've ever learned in three sentences.I said, "The biggest lesson I've learned is that what we think matters. If I know your thoughts, I can understand who you are because your thoughts make you who you are. By changing your Thoughts, we can change our lives." Now you've set yourself a goal of increasing your confidence and having effective conversations.From now on, you must think positively rather than negatively, and your efforts will eventually succeed.You must allow yourself to maintain a light-hearted and optimistic outlook when speaking in public.You must put your resolution into every word, every action, and cultivate it with all your might.

Here is an anecdote that serves as powerful proof of the fact that sheer determination is required for anyone who is to meet the linguistic challenge of brevity.I'm about to tell about a man who had climbed high up the career ladder and became a legend in the business world, but who, in college, failed every time he stood up to speak because of his slow speech.Less than half of the 5-minute speech assigned by the teacher, he turned pale and hurried off the podium with tears in his eyes. Although this young student has had such an experience, he is not willing to let such a failure knock him down.He made up his mind to be a good speaker, and he put it into real action for a long time, and finally became a world-renowned economic consultant. He is Clarence B. Nandall.He wrote about his speaking experiences in one of his many thought-provoking books, "The Faith of Freedom":

"I have a full speaking schedule every day, at manufacturers' association dinners, Commerce Department, Rotary, foundation and other fundraisers, alumni associations, and other occasions. I have spoken at Eskena, Michigan Patriotic speeches, impassioned commitment to World War I; I've gone to the country with Mickey Looney to give charity lectures, with Harvard President James Blount Conan and University of Chicago President Robert M. Huchin I went to the countryside to preach education; I even gave an after-dinner speech in very broken French. "I think I understand what the audience wants to hear and how they want the speaker to express it. The trick for someone with a serious career is this: There is nothing he can't learn if he is willing to learn."

I feel the same way as Mr. Nandoyle.One's will to succeed is what makes or breaks one's success in becoming an effective speaker.If I can read your mind, the strength of your will, the lightness or darkness of your thoughts, I can accurately predict how quickly you will improve your communication skills. In one of my classes in the Midwest, a guy stood up on the first night of class and said "without shame" that he wasn't content to be a home builder, he wanted to be a spokesman for the National Association of Home Builders.What he wants most: to travel the country telling people about his problems and accomplishments in the homebuilding industry.The man's name was Joe Haversty, and he really did what he said!He was the kind of student who made the teacher happy, and he had a kind of desperate fanaticism.He wants to talk about not just local problems but national ones, and he is not half-hearted about those desires.He fully prepared his speech and practiced it carefully. He never missed every opportunity to attend class. Even in the busiest time of the year, he unequivocally demanded himself according to the standards of a student. As a result, He improved so fast that even he surprised himself.In two months, he had already become a leader in the class and was elected as the monitor.

About a year later, the teacher who led the class in Norfolk, Virginia wrote: "I've completely forgotten about Joe Haversty in Ohio. One morning at breakfast I opened the Virginia Guide and there was a picture of Joe and a story praising him. The night before, He speaks at great gatherings of area builders, and it seems to me that Joe is not just a spokesman for the National Association of Home Builders, he's actually a president." Therefore, in order to be successful, the necessary conditions are to use your desire to increase your enthusiasm, use your perseverance to smooth the mountains, and at the same time believe that you will succeed.