Chapter 68 The art of expressing one's eloquence

Using one's eloquence to influence others and conquer people's hearts is the key for many successful people to establish good interpersonal relationships and overcome communication difficulties.An important part of the positive energy of eloquence is to use charm to influence people. The sum of the full use of body language, plus everything good in this world, constitutes an important part of "eloquence". The good or bad of "eloquence" lies in the good or bad of a person's language art. A person's usual words and deeds, every gesture and gesture, will reflect his quality and self-cultivation, and will affect others.It can be said that this factor accounts for a large proportion of other people's evaluation of him.

When we get along with people, although some people don’t talk much, we like to stay with him, because he can make you feel relaxed and happy; On the contrary, it makes us very annoying, and we always want to distance ourselves from it.In some companies, the employees and cadres are sincere and united, and the company is booming. They respect their company leaders and are willing to work hard; in some companies, the employees and cadres are not active in their work.What is the reason for these differences? This is mainly a matter of human quality cultivation. Temperament has nothing to do with good looks.The key is to see if you can show your charming personality through your facial expressions, body movements, language, etc.It is the temperament that can really impress people, not the beauty of appearance.

In real life, some people speak energetically, expressively, eloquently, and express themselves freely, showing superhuman talent and temperament, and winning the love and favor of the audience; Big disappointment.These two different temperaments can be said to be quite different. Everyone has an ideal self-image, which is called "ideal self" in psychology. "Ideal self" is often given a high value.Although these people come from different places, grew up in different environments, and have different self-images, they may have some things in common, such as handsome appearance, rich emotions, quick thinking, and fluent language. The other party left the impression of kindness, kindness, intelligence and integrity, and profound knowledge.However, no matter how perfect the "ideal self" is, it must be reflected in every word and deed of one's own, and strive to give full play to it in expressing one's own charm.

An important aspect when it comes to being attractive is confidence.Confidence is the foundation, it is the core of one's emotional orientation, and it is crucial to whether it can function.When the two sides face each other and stare at each other, maybe because of the change of the environment, some tension is more or less aroused.But it helps to sharpen your focus and think hard. If you are overly nervous, it will often affect your performance and make you unable to fully express your meaning.In this case, self-regulation, emphasizing self-confidence is very important.At this time, we must fully see our own advantages, keep a clear mind, and never show any anxiety or timidity.Later, this sense of tension will gradually disappear, so you should pay attention to adjusting your tone and rhythm with your expressions and movements at any time, so as to freely display your charm and leave a good impression on others.

In our daily life, we often find these two opposite phenomena: people who are good at communication, no matter where they go, no matter what kind of environment they are in, they can talk eloquently and endlessly, and win the favor of strangers ; People who are not good at communication often feel that they have nothing to say after a few words with others, and they can only be relatively speechless and extremely embarrassed. American interpersonal scientist Albert Edward Wigan pointed out in his research report "Explore Your Psychological World": "Of the 4,000 employees who lost their jobs within a year, only 400, or 10% of the total 90% are fired for not being good at their jobs, and the other 90% are fired for not being able to handle relationships well."

After analyzing and studying the records of 10,000 people, the American Technology Association also came to a similar conclusion: 90% of people failed because they could not communicate successfully.Human communication is so important, so necessary, how can we ignore it? There is no doubt that communicating with people is not an unconscious behavior, but there is always a certain motivation, either to obtain information, or to win others' understanding of their opinions. In the final analysis, it is to protect their own interests. In order to meet their own needs.