Chapter 66 Use humor to strengthen the appeal

Humor is a manifestation of wisdom, and it must be based on a wealth of knowledge.Only when a person has the ability to assess the situation and extensive knowledge can he be able to talk richly, make witty remarks, and make appropriate metaphors.To cultivate a sense of humor, one must study extensively, enrich oneself, constantly collect humorous waves from a vast number of books, and extract humorous gems from the essence of celebrity anecdotes. Humor is a special kind of emotional expression.It is a tool for people to adapt to the environment, and it is one of the ways to reduce mental and psychological pressure when human beings face difficulties.The Russian writer Anton Chekhov said: "He who does not know how to joke is a hopeless man." It can be seen that everyone in life should learn to be humorous.A little more humor and a little less extreme paranoia.

In many cases, humor can dilute people's negative emotions and eliminate depression and pain.People with a sense of humor live full of fun, and they can deal with many seemingly painful and troublesome things with ease.Dealing with troubles and contradictions with a sense of humor will make people feel harmonious and happy. In addition, humor can show the speaker's enthusiasm, kindness, intimacy, relaxed and cheerful mood, etc., so that people like him and are willing to get close to him. Come and accept his influence. Humor can also show that the speaker has full confidence and is a strong person who is in a dominant and active position.Because if a person is a weak person who has lost confidence and is in a passive disadvantaged position, then he is not in the mood to laugh.So humor is a powerful weapon to boost morale and boost confidence.In times of crisis, humor is often more important than food and water.A person with a sense of humor tends to make people feel that he is more powerful, more trustworthy, and can get more comfort from him, so he is more attractive to people and can exert greater influence.So there is a proverb that says "Laughter is the brother of strength".Some people also said that "there is no great revolutionary or artist in the world who has no sense of humor".

For a person who lacks a sense of humor, it is impossible to become a sense of humor as easily as a person who is sitting and wants to stand up. The effort of time can still achieve great results. For people, when using humor, it requires the unexpected and the reasonable.In other words, Lenovo's span is large, but clever and reasonable. The witty humor of the famous American novelist Mark Twain is well-known for a long time.Once he went to a small city, and before he left, he was told that the mosquitoes there were terrible.When he got there, when he was checking in the hotel room, there was a mosquito circling back and forth in front of him. When the owner was embarrassed, Mark Twain said nonchalantly: "The mosquitoes here are much smarter than the legends. It will pre-watch my room number so that it can visit at night." Everyone couldn't help laughing after hearing this.So the whole staff was mobilized to try every means to prevent the writer from being bitten by the mosquito that had predicted the room number.

Mark Twain's humor, first of all, is that it is beyond people's expectations. No one would have thought that he would say that the mosquito came to check the room number in advance; I feel that this metaphor is really reasonable and wonderful, so people can't help but laugh.Obviously, the various functions of humor we mentioned above have all received results.People feel that this great writer is kind and amiable, has a strong appeal, understands his tactful criticism, and immediately corrects it cheerfully. To influence the other party, infect others, and change other people's attitudes, you must be sensible and emotional.However, general principles and abstract arguments lack persuasiveness and appeal if there are no specific examples.

Emotion is an important factor in the composition of attitudes.If we want to influence a person's attitude, we must first affect the attitude.Emotions are always associated with concrete things, and it is difficult for abstract things to touch people's emotions.So if you want to be moved with emotion, you need to have specific examples and personal experience.In addition, even in the aspect of "knowledge with reason", it is difficult for people to understand thoroughly only by relying on general principles and abstract arguments.Understanding is closely related to examples.If you can't give an example, you don't understand.

So we can say that examples are blockbusters that influence others.A proper example is more contagious than a hundred abstract arguments and explanations, more able to gain people's trust, and more able to give people wisdom and enlightenment.