Chapter 29 Tell yourself "I can do it"

Big-thinking people are very good at creating an optimistic and forward-looking picture in themselves and others.This firm self-confidence is an important reason why they are different from ordinary people and good at creating brilliance. Many times, the biggest enemy is your own heart.Don't lose to yourself before you lose to your opponent, put all your worries and worries behind you.No matter how much pressure you face, you should easily cheer yourself up: "I can do it." To be an important person, we must first value ourselves, really value ourselves, and then we can earn the respect of others.Repeat the logic again: How you think determines how you act, and how you act determines how others react to you.

Like other requirements in your personal success plan, earning respect is easy to say.To win the respect of others, you must first have self-esteem.The more you respect yourself, the more others will respect you.Test this principle if you don't believe it: Do you respect a scoundrel or a drunkard?Of course not, because he lacks self-esteem and is self-deprecating, and others will not respect him. Self-esteem shows in everything we do.For now, let's focus on some specific ways that we can help us increase our self-esteem and thus earn more respect from others. Many philosophers have advised us: to know yourself.But most people understand it as recognizing only the negative side of you, and many self-assessments include too many shortcomings, mistakes, and incompetences.

Recognizing your flaws is all very well, but if you only recognize your negative side, you will be in a mess and make yourself worthless.The following exercises will help you measure yourself correctly: (1) Identify your own five major assets. You can ask some more objective friends to help.Such as your wife, your elders or professors, ensure that they can give advice wisely and honestly.The asset items that usually need to be listed can include education, experience, skills, appearance, harmonious family life, attitude towards life, conduct, drive, etc. (2) Under each asset, name three people who have achieved great success, but who are still no match for you in that asset.At this time, you will find that you are better than many successful people in at least one asset.

The only conclusion: You are greater than you think you are.So, to elevate your mind to true heights, never underestimate yourself.You too can be as successful as them. How much value you want to develop and how much achievement you want to achieve, you have to set up how much ambition and ideal.Achieving great things is incompatible with short-sightedness.Many people achieve nothing because they underestimate their abilities, underestimate themselves, and minimize their achievements. And valuing yourself is always inseparable from your personal persistent struggle.Being able to struggle unswervingly shows that you have strong self-esteem and self-confidence, and believe in yourself "I can do it".

Abraham Lincoln is one of the greatest presidents in American history, but his personal growth path was not smooth sailing, but full of hardships.It is with a positive and enterprising attitude that he moves towards the culmination of success step by step. In 1832, Lincoln lost his job. Although he was very sad, he firmly determined to become a statesman.Lincoln was unsuccessful in his campaign for state legislature.Then he tried to start a business for long-term development; but a year later, the business closed down.Since then, for nearly 20 years, Lincoln has been running around to repay corporate debts.

Later, Lincoln successfully ran for the state legislature, but suffered another setback on the road to running for the speaker of the state legislature and a member of the U.S. Congress.Facing the challenges of life, Lincoln did not give up, and devoted himself to his new work with a positive and optimistic spirit. In 1846 he ran successfully for Congress.Next, Lincoln's campaign for the Senate and the nomination of the Vice President of the United States suffered repeated blows. Through unremitting efforts, he finally ascended to the throne of the President of the United States in 1860.

He suffered nine major failures in his life, but still managed to aspire to the presidency. This is the positive and optimistic Abraham Lincoln.He has never given up on his pursuit, has always been the master of his own life, and has become a shining example of hard work and progress for future generations.It can be seen from this that it is not the best choice to surrender easily on the road of personal growth, at work, or in the face of failure. Only by cultivating an enterprising spirit and persisting in endless struggle can you lead to the other side of success. Ronald Peale, a graduate of Harvard University, often said to others: "As long as you persevere, things will get better one day." When he was young, whenever he encountered setbacks and disappointments, his mother would say: "If you Persevere, be aggressive, and you will have good luck one day. And you have to realize that if there is no failure and pain before, there will be no happiness and joy later." This is true, the lessons of failure, the suffering The environment sharpens people's will. Only with a proactive and never-say-die mentality can we become more courageous and achieve our lofty goals.

If you are troubled by the idea of ​​"impossibility" when facing a problem, you can conduct a realistic and objective research on the factors of so-called impossibility, and you will find that the so-called impossibility is usually nothing more than an emotional reaction to the problem That's it, and you'll also find that you can often overcome these so-called "impossibles" simply by looking at the matters involved with a calm, non-emotional attitude and wit.