Chapter 19 6. The crux of listening and not listening

It is also a suggestion, why are there two different results?Everyone's attention is generally focused on Liu Bang and Xiang Yu, from which they draw the arbitrary conclusion that Liu Bang is good at accepting advice and Xiang Yu is self-willed.There is some truth to this, but it is a bit pale, because we have ignored another aspect of the problem, that is, the other party involved—the counselor, and ignored the two supporting roles of Li Shiqi and Han Sheng.The characters of these two supporting characters are very distinct: one is wily and scheming, and has his own little girl in his heart; the other is young and vigorous, with a fierce and public character.

Like Han Sheng, Li Shiqi is actually not a fuel-efficient lamp. He is more than 60 people. According to Confucius, he should have reached the state of "ear-satisfaction". I don't admit it, which is enough to show that his personality must be extremely strong.Although he is only a gatekeeper, his vision is very high, and there are many military leaders who have passed by here before, but Li Shiqi feels that they "can't listen to generous words", they are all narrow-minded and coaxing The master (who only dares to be mad at others), so he "hides himself deeply", did not come out to participate in politics, but still watched from the gate, drank a little wine, and nourished his life.When Liu Bang came, he heard that Liu Bang was "slow and easy-going, and very simple", and he was a gentle and generous leader, so he decided to take refuge in him.As a result, when we met, it was not like that at all, it was not gentle, but arrogant and disrespectful, so I was very disappointed, and the energy of "Crazy Life" was suddenly aroused.Let's be happy first, anyway, it's an old bone, so there's nothing to be afraid of.But even so, Li Shiqi still didn't completely lose his mind.

A very important reason for Liu Bang's change of attitude towards Li Shiqi is that Li Shiqi's words are angry, but there are foreshadowing and subtext in the words, which are similar to the slogan: Do you want to destroy Qin?Do you want to be king?Then please listen to my suggestion, Li Shiqi.Hitting a snake and hitting seven inches, Li Shiqi's subtext can be said to have caught the crux of the problem.What Liu Bang was most worried about at the time was how to enter Guanzhong as soon as possible. If he wanted to know Li Shiqi's strategy, he had to change his attitude.Li Shiqi had his little girl in his heart, and he was sure that this remark would attract Liu Bang's attention. It would not only save face, but also achieve his goal, and also show off his personality by the way, which could be said to kill three birds with one stone.

Even so, Liu Bang's transformation is not something ordinary people can do.If you want to change someone, let me show you some color first, let you know who is older and who is younger. As for whether Qin will be destroyed or not, you are not the only one who has the final say. Your dog may not be able to spit out ivory.Liu Bang was very calm about this. No matter in ancient times or modern times, people with a bit of ability have a little personality. They have personality but are not fools. Since he dared to speak like this, he must have a well-thought-out idea and brought some good ideas, otherwise he would be a death reminder Tired of work.Liu Bang is not a fool, he will not fail to hear, so he quickly made a choice, put the bad words behind him, and immediately forgot.As long as it can achieve great things, being robbed by a few words is nothing.

In contrast, Han Sheng is not just a crazy student, he is a bit fierce.You said that you are good for Xiang Yu, why don't you use arguments to convince him?An important responsibility of being a subordinate is to provide detailed information for the top leader to make decisions, so that his thinking can be consistent with your thinking.You, Han Sheng, have presented your reasons, and Xiang Yu has also presented his reasons. It is the wish of most people to honor their ancestors and return to their hometown. Even if they become emperor, they still have to go back to their hometown from time to time.This is normal, and there are many supporters in his hometown, and the regime is easy to stabilize, so it cannot be said that Xiang Yu has no ambitions.You, Han Sheng, don't want Xiang Yu to be like that, so you need to come up with a better strategy and tell Xiang Yu why you have to make Xiang Yu angry.

Being a subordinate is actually knowledgeable and has routines.Subordinates need to understand the character of the superior leader. Different leaders have different ways of thinking and different temperaments. You can't let your own temperament act like you are the leader of others.They are all like Han Sheng, who think they are right and don't explain and speak angry words. What kind of organizational discipline is there?The combat effectiveness of the team will not form a synergy. Besides, why did you, Han Sheng, go there? When Xianyang was not burned, you didn’t suggest it. You said don’t burn it, let’s keep it for ourselves.It was all burned to ashes, and you just said to stay. You thought the post-disaster reconstruction work was so simple!Even after burning Xianyang Palace, it’s fine, but you have to tell me a way, right?For example, you said that it was burned, but the geographical location here is really good, easy to defend and difficult to attack, like what those military experts on TV talk about all day long, Xiang Yu may not refuse to listen to it.As a result, your old man pretended to be educated, and even invented an idiom, "Win the monkey and get the crown", who are you scolding?You can fly without cooking!

So Xiang Yu can't be completely blamed for this matter, Han Sheng also asked for it. As far as the speaker is concerned, Liu Bang's foot-washing and Xiang Yu's explanation are actually rejecting the other party.Comparing the two, Xiang Yu is actually more easy-going than Liu Bang, because he expressed his point of view to Han Sheng and explained it patiently.Liu Bang just ignored him, as if you were reporting to the leader, he just joked with others, and his attitude was very arrogant and frivolous.But in the end Li Shiqi was treated with courtesy, and Han Sheng was steamed and fried. This is really worth thinking about.

In order to deeply analyze the psychological activities of the four of them at that time, we might as well make this assumption: If it was Li Shiqi who advised Xiang Yu, and Han Sheng who advised Liu Bang, and the roles were reversed, what would happen. With Han Sheng's temper, seeing Liu Bang washing his feet, would he still wait outside the door like Li Shiqi did?Will you continue with his advice?The answer is yes: no.It's his personality.And with Li Shiqi's forbearance, facing Xiang Yu's explanation, he will definitely make further patient persuasion, and use his own reasons to dispel Xiang Yu's worries.Let's make another assumption: what would happen to Xiang Yu if Han Sheng was washing his feet and teasing the maids when Han Sheng offered advice?Definitely turn around and leave without saying a word.Maybe you have to say something worse than washing the monkey and getting the crown, and it will still be boiled by Xiang Yu, and it will be faster.And if Liu Bang was as polite and patient as Xiang Yu was to Han Sheng, then Li Shiqi probably wouldn't even say such provocative words.

It can be seen that the problem does not lie entirely with Liu Bang and Xiang Yu.Because they both offer advice, Li Shiqi and Han Sheng have different methods. We found that Li Shiqi had one more hand than Han Sheng, which was a foreshadowing. This is where Han Sheng is inferior to Li Shiqi.Han Sheng didn't consider Xiang Yu's feelings, he didn't think about the problem from Xiang Yu's standpoint, and he didn't think about the solution to the problem.You speak straight to the point, don't talk about methods, and don't have Xiang Yu's appetite. You, Han Sheng, think you are Xiang Yu's father, and he will listen to everything you say.This is the way of not paying attention to persuasion.Since you want Xiang Yu to accept your opinion, then what you should do is how to get him to accept your opinion, otherwise you might as well not talk about it, and the result will turn into a beast who doesn’t listen to you, and loves you If others don't listen to you and you scold the street, is it possible that you are the overlord of Western Chu?Even if this matter falls to Liu Bang, he may not buy it.

You must also pay attention to the method and method of offering words and suggestions. It doesn't mean that you are right and you can be adopted, and it doesn't mean that the other party does not adopt it or that the other party has no discernment. This is a process of argumentation and penetration.Since the two sides have different ideas, they must have their own reasons. If you want the other party to follow your thinking, you have to convince him and convince him. Only in this way can you achieve your goal.It is true that Xiang Yu has a bad temper, but he didn't show it this time, and he patiently explained to you, Han Sheng, that you wanted to insult and provoke him, and ended up losing Qingqing's life.

Character determines destiny, and Han Sheng's ending is actually like this.If Xiang Yu is not angry this time, what will happen?I think Xiang Yu's connivance will make Han Sheng lose himself even more, and he doesn't even know how much he is. If Xiang Yu is not as good as a monkey and he can be safe, then next time he dares to call Xiang Yu as inferior to pigs and dogs.There is no leader in his eyes, let alone colleagues and the masses. The result is: even if Xiang Yu doesn't deal with him, sooner or later someone will deal with him.