Chapter 8 7.housework

After Sheng Xuanhuai died of illness, his family spent 400,000 huge sums of money to buy foreigners from the Ministry of Industry and Commerce Bureau, and they were allowed to carry the coffin to the main road (Nanjing Road) for a turn. The funeral was unprecedentedly grand and caused a sensation in Shanghai.Zhang Jian happened to be in Shanghai on business, so he went to the Sheng family to express his condolences, who knew that all the people in the Sheng family were relatives and diners. After asking, he found out that all the family members had gone to see Mei Lanfang's play.Zhang Sui smiled wryly.

More than a month before Lu Xun's death, that is, on September 5, 1936, he wrote an essay entitled "Death", in which a passage is generally regarded as Lu Xun's will: "I only thought of writing a will, thinking that if I Zeng Gui was a public security officer with tens of millions of dollars. My son, son-in-law and others must have forced me to write a will, but now no one mentions it. But I will keep one. For relatives, some of them are: 1. Don’t accept a penny from anyone because of the funeral.—But old friends, this is not the case. 2. Hurry up and bury it. 3. Don’t do anything about commemoration. 4. Forget about me and take care of your own life. ——If you don’t, you’re really a fool. 5. If your child grows up, if you don’t have talent, you can find some small things to make a living. Don’t be an empty writer or artist. 6. Don't take things that others promise you seriously. 7. Don't get close to someone who hurts others' teeth and eyes, but opposes revenge and advocates tolerance."

When Hu Zongnan was the commander of the First Army, he was stationed in Xuzhou.One day, Hu's father came to visit him from his hometown in Xiaofeng, Zhejiang.The guard went to report, and said nonsense: "I don't know this person, tell him to go back." The guard came out to report Hu's father, Hu's father was very surprised, and said to the guard: "He is my son, I am his father, how could he not know me?" Go and tell him again, tell Qin Zhai (Hu Zongnan) to come out and see me.” The guard had to go in and report again, Hu Zongnan immediately turned his face and said, “Where is the old bastard, such a rascal, drive him away!” Then He also sent a confidant adjutant to follow his father and find out the hotel where he was staying.That night, Hu Zongnan changed into casual clothes and went to see his father in the hotel. He gave the old man 300 yuan and said, "In the future, don't just come to the headquarters to look for me, go home." Father.In a rage, he didn't ask for any money, so he borrowed some money from his fellow villagers and went back to his hometown.

The number of concubines that Duan Qirui has begged for seems to be the same as that of the warlords and politicians at that time. The difference is that Duan already has the consciousness of respecting women. .His fourth concubine was frowning when he entered the house, but when Duan inquired, it turned out that she already had a lover, so Duan ordered his wife to fulfill her marriage with the lover like marrying a daughter.Duan Qirui let his concubine get married, which became a good story for a while, and it can more or less reflect Duan's more disciplined side in private life. The warlord Fan Shaozeng's family is a veritable big family, with only thirty or forty concubines and wives.Fan Shaozeng specially set up a chief steward and a few stewards, and under him there are car drivers, soldiers, gardeners, street runners, handymen, Chinese cooks, western cooks and breeders, etc. There are all kinds of people, no less than a hundred people.After the outbreak of the Anti-Japanese War, the Kuomintang government moved inland to Chongqing, and the rich and powerful gathered there for a while.In order to keep his wives up to date, Fan Shaozeng specially hired a group of teachers from Shanghai to train his wives and concubines to learn Western culture.The wives began to westernize, and the two concubines, Zhao Yunhua and He Shuxi, who were more educated among them, immediately became the flower envoys of Chongqing's upper class, and played a big role in Fan's later success.Fan especially dotes on Aunt Seventeen, and the two often chase and play in courts, swimming pools and other places.There are quite a lot of rumors about the seventeenth aunt's romantic affairs. Those who have good things wrote "Seventeenth Aunt Biography" and published it. At that time, "Luoyang paper was expensive" in Chongqing.

In the spring of 1933, Fan Shaozeng's concubine Ziju (formerly the girl in Zhang Shaofen's house), had an affair with the unmarried principal Wang Shijun while studying in Chongqing Kaiming School.After the incident came to light, Wang Shijun was caught by Fan and locked up in Fanzhuang. Seeing that the two of them were in a catastrophe.At this time, Wang Zanxu and Chen Lanting, two in-laws invited by Zhang Shaofen, begged Fan to spare their lives, and the Queen Mother kowtowed to plead for mercy.Although Fan Shaozeng is a rough person, he values ​​human feelings and loyalty, and has fineness in roughness.After pondering over and over again, he decided to follow through on favors to the end.Announced in public: 1. Accept Ziju as a goddaughter and Wang Shijun as a godson; 2. Prepare a few tables of banquets for the two to celebrate;Everyone is happy.Wang Zanxu repeatedly praised: "Fan Hagong, you did a beautiful job!"

During the Anti-Japanese War, the sisters and brothers of the Song family were all in Chongqing for a time.Chiang Kai-shek said to Soong Meiling: "I want Ziwen, Ziliang, and Zi'an to invite my elder sister and elder sister to Huangshan for dinner." Soong Meiling called Soong Ching Ling, but Soong Ching Ling refused. I have a party at home, but no one else..." Soong Ching Ling hesitated after hearing this, and said, "No, I've been ill for the past two days, and I'm not feeling well." Soong Meiling immediately said, "I'll send a doctor right away. Take a look." Soong Ching Ling said, "No need, I'm taking medicine." Soong Ching Ling did not go to the family banquet proposed by Chiang Kai-shek this time.

Although Lin Sen is the head of state, his life is so simple that he gets by.Lin's wife, Mrs. Zheng, died early, and Lin never remarried for life. Therefore, the family had no immediate family members and was single for many years.This is in sharp contrast to the presidents and prime ministers of the Beiyang government who often have wives and concubines in groups.Lin Pingsheng was not addicted to smoking and drinking, and he was not close to women. He often went shopping alone.During the Anti-Japanese War in Chongqing, Lin passed the Shangqing Temple by car, and there was a peddler selling wooden barrels on the side of the road. He got out of the car and bought a footbath to take back into the car.

In his later years, Kang Youwei had a complex family. Except his wife Zhang Yunzhu, who died in 1922, he had five wives and concubines and six unmarried children. There were 10 maids, more than 30 male servants and Employees such as cooks.There are also two Indians guarding the door in his family, with rolled up white cloth covering their heads and beards all over their faces.In addition, there is an endless stream of old students and diners who come to live here, ranging from more than ten people to more than 30 people at most. Kang treats them like guests, imitating the ancient style of Lord Mengchang in the Warring States Period, and is called "Nurturing Scholars".

In 1942, Mrs. Chiang Ching-kuo gave birth to a child, and Jiang Tuo's attendant doctor Wu Linsun was looking for a nanny.Wu didn't dare to find someone casually, so he called his daughter who graduated from a midwifery school to work as an errand.Afterwards, Chiang Ching-kuo reported the matter to Chiang Kai-shek, and Chiang Kai-shek said, "How could Dr. Wu have such a big daughter?" After Chiang Kai-shek and Song Meiling got married, they had a strong relationship and rarely quarreled.When Song Meiling lost her temper occasionally, Jiang laughed it off.There is no lack of self-cultivation at home for the two of them.One of Song's few "splashes" was just caught by Zhang Zhizhong.At that time, Song Meiling took off her high-heeled shoes in a hurry and "threw" Chiang Kai-shek, hitting Chiang's shoulder, and the shoes fell in front of the sofa.Zhang Zhizhong happened to go upstairs and entered the room. Seeing that Jiang was still smiling after being hit by the shoe, he hurried over to pick up the shoe and brought it to Song Meiling, which was a relief for Jiang.

In mid-April 1949, just over a month before the liberation of Ningbo (May 24), Chiang Kai-shek took Zhang Qun, Yu Jishi, and Chiang Ching-kuo from Xikou to bid farewell to Ningbo. All bedding and utensils were carried by the attendants. Come.Next to Liuting Nunnery in the southern suburbs of Ningbo, there is an ancestral grave of Jiang's surname. Jiang once went to sweep the sacrifices, and gave Liuting Nunnery 50,000 yuan and asked him to take care of the tomb.Chiang Kai-shek also went to the Huamei Hospital outside the North Gate for a physical examination, and went to Tianyi Pavilion twice to browse the books there.

The comprador Liang Yanqing had one wife and three concubines, and had 15 children.The Liang family has strict discipline and does not allow the children to get into any bad habits.The Liang family's children have received a good education since childhood, can speak fluent English, and have developed the style of British gentlemen in their speech and behavior.The entertainment of the Liang family's children is also Western style. They all like playing tennis and riding horses. Lin Yutang and his wife have three daughters.The second daughter, Yuru, followed her father and loved writing since she was a child.She once asked her father to give her a pen name, and Lin Yutang gave her the pen name "Wu Shuang", which means that she is unparalleled in intelligence and wisdom.But Yuru thought that "Wu Shuang" was unlucky, and she was always single, so she could still get married?When Lin Yutang was reminded by his daughter, he felt it made sense.One day when I was reading "Lu Shi Chunqiu", I suddenly realized that the word "Taiyi" was very good as a pseudonym, so I said to my daughter: "How about calling it 'Taiyi'?" Although Yuru didn't know why, she thought the name was very novel.Lin Yutang explained: "Look, there is the word 'Taiyi' in "Lu Shi Chunqiu Da Le", which refers to the vitality that forms the world." Yuru accepted this pen name. When Lin Yutang's daughters were three or five years old, Lin often took them to attend various social activities.At that time, literati gathered together to "call Tiaozi".Lin Yutang asked his daughters to mark the roster as escort girls.When the girl who was ordered came in, Taiyi said: "We called you here." Then the whole audience roared with laughter. Yu Hongjun served as Acting Mayor of Shanghai, Minister of Finance, and President of the Central Bank.During the Anti-Japanese War, someone went to his house and saw his wife was washing clothes.Although life in Chongqing was very difficult at that time, it was rare for a minister's wife to do laundry by herself. Ai Qing's mother said to him: "You write about Dayanhe, she is just your nanny, you don't write about your real mother." In fact, his mother didn't like Ai Qing, and she didn't treat him well, saying that she hurt her. Liang Bin, the author of "Red Flag Spectrum", grew up in a big family. He has five older brothers, four older sisters, and six sisters-in-law; I have a daughter.The older sisters are all married, as are the two eldest nephews.Nephews and nieces, nephews and nieces... There can be forty or fifty people when they get together.Liang's father formulated the following iron-clad family rules: no gambling, no god-in-law, and the door is locked after dinner. The richest day of the poet Zhu Xiang's life was when he was teaching at Anhui University, with a monthly salary of 300 yuan.At that time, he was married and even had spare money to collect some antiques, such as pottery horses and ink marks of Zheng Banqiao.He and his wife Ni Jun often quarreled and threw things at home. The next day they reconciled and went to buy a new set. On the evening of October 17, 1927, a car drove up to the door of Zhang Yuanji’s house on Jisfeer Road, Shanghai. Five men jumped out of the car. After knocking on the door, the servants just opened the door, and the group rushed in, armed with guns. up the stairs.At that time, Zhang Yuanji was having dinner with his family on the second floor. He saw a group of people coming up and was about to ask questions, but a kidnapper had pointed a gun at his nephew Zhang Shuyuan beside him.Another leader who looked like a leader pointed to Zhang Yuanji and said, "It's not that, it's this." So the kidnappers set up Zhang Yuanji and left without saying a word.After getting into the car, the kidnappers covered Zhang's face with a black cloth. The car drove to the suburbs. Zhang was locked in a dilapidated house with three guards.Zhang Yuanji stayed here for six days. The kidnappers initially offered 200,000 yuan to redeem him. After repeated negotiations, the kidnappers gradually realized that this gentleman did not have much money to squeeze, and finally redeemed the ticket with 10,000 yuan.Zhang Yuanji wrote ten Qijue poems while in detention, always with a calm expression, insisted on leaving privately, and finally returned safely. After Ye Qianyu and Luo Caiyun got married, they had no common language.The most common exchange between them is that Luo said to Ye: "The money is running out, bring the money!" Ye replied: "The hard money is hard to come by, so save it!" Scholar Xie Liuyi married the daughter of Bao Xianchang, one of the founders of the Commercial Press.Ms. Bao is a music teacher at Shenzhou Women's School, and her English is very good.Their married life is simple but full of fun.Xie likes children very much. There are many children. He prepares small tables and chairs for them. Every weekend, he will watch cartoon movies with his wife and children to enjoy family happiness. Once, Zhou Fujiu, a rich man in Shanghai, went to his daughter's house and took a rickshaw.When he got there, he only paid two cents.The driver naturally quarreled with Zhou.When the in-laws heard someone quarreling at the door, they concluded that Zhou had come, so they asked the accountant to give the driver one yuan, and the driver left happily.As for Zhou Wang's daughter, what she brought was only a bag of peanuts, which was far from a dollar.Every meal of the Zhou family must be eaten together, with Zhou at the head and children and grandchildren accompanying them.As soon as the old man put down the chopsticks, everyone went back to their rooms to eat in their respective kitchenettes.Zhou built a wall in his bedroom, and put in gold bars from the upper hole every night, and his children and grandchildren dug the gold bars from the bottom.By the time he died on Monday, his family wealth was gone. Fu Sinian's wife, Yu Dacai, recalled: "If you want to compare knowledge, I really dare not raise my head in front of him (referring to Fu Sinian), so I am willing to sacrifice all my hobbies and enjoyments, follow him, accompany him, and help him. After marriage, he did not stop me. Any social activities, but I completely voluntarily gave up, our economic situation has been very difficult for more than ten years, but we still live beautifully and happily." Feng Youlan's brother-in-law Zhang Dainian said that no one can compare to Mr. Feng at home, and Feng Youlan has never bought vegetables in his life. Scholar Mei Guangdi once held a grand banquet at home to entertain Wu Mi and other colleagues.During the dinner, Mei asked his wife to treat the guests with fruit.At that time, his wife did not know how to peel and remove the core of the fruit, cut it into thin slices, put a toothpick in it and serve it.Instead, the fruit was washed and stacked on a plate and served.Mei felt very humiliated, and then sent his wife back to her hometown. During the Anti-Japanese War, Li Changzhi met a girl in Chongqing through someone's introduction. He heard that this girl was very filial, he was very satisfied, and soon got married.Unexpectedly, family wars continued after marriage, from Chongqing to Peiping.Li and Ji Xianlin have a good relationship. One day they visited Liang Shiqiu together and asked Liang to mediate Li's family dispute.The cause is of course trivial things: Li's wife went out to buy vegetables that morning, and Li Fu was writing at his desk.Li's wife came back and threw the vegetable basket on the table, and the bean sprouts and cabbage in it were just thrown on Li Changzhi's manuscript paper, wet and dirty, and a mess.Li Changzhi was furious and started a dispute.Liang Shiqiu persuaded: "It's hard work for my wife to go out to buy vegetables in the heat of the summer. If you accompany her to the vegetable market and wash together when you come back, it will be a rare joy in life. You must concentrate on learning, and you need to be considerate between husband and wife." Yu Dafu recalled: "Not long after I met Lu Xun, I heard the news that the Zhou brothers turned against each other from Zhang Xu (referring to Zhang Fengju and Xu Yaochen) in Lumi Cang. The reason is very complicated, and others finally don't understand What is it for? But in the end of Lu Xun's life, he and Zhou Zuoren had no chance of reconciliation." In the 1920s, the family of Zhou Bianming, the chief affairs officer of Xiamen University, lived a rather Europeanized life.For example, when eating, the housewife will ring a small bell at the dining table a few times before family members or guests come to sit down. Lu Xun once said to Xu Shoushang about his first wife, Zhu Shi: "This is a gift from my mother, so I have to support her properly." When Hu Feng went to Lu Xun's house once, he saw Lu Xun binding a package of books for mailing.Lu Xun told Hu Feng that this was sent to his mother.He added: "Her level is just enough to read this kind of book." Then he smiled and said: "This is how my royalties are spent..." In Lu Xun's later years, every Saturday night was when he reunited with his third brother Zhou Jianren.At that time, Zhou Jianren and his wife had three daughters, and each time they brought one to Lu Xun's house.Wang Yunru, wife of Zhou Jianren, recalled: "I always take the children to Lu Xun's house first, and Jianren comes directly from the Commercial Press after get off work. Sometimes Jianren comes late, and Lu Xun always runs upstairs and downstairs several times anxiously. He said, "Why doesn't the third child come?" He didn't feel relieved until Jianren came. After Jianren came, the two brothers would go upstairs to chat, and we would help Xu Guangping cook downstairs. Dinner, cooked by Xu Guangping A few Cantonese dishes, stewed chicken, always eat crabs when there are crabs. The two brothers always have a glass of wine and talk and laugh. After dinner, go upstairs to have snacks and fruits. While drinking tea, chat. Talk. Major events in the world, local conditions and customs, and things about Shaoxing when I was a child. When I talked about interesting places, I laughed. It was always after 11 o'clock, and the tram was gone. Lu Xun went to call a car, paid the fare in advance, and took the We send it home." After Hu Shi returned to Peiping from Shanghai, the family had a concierge, a cook, two housekeepers, a maid, and a driver.Hu Shi's wife, Jiang Dongxiu, took care of the housework every morning, went to play mahjong with relatives and friends after two o'clock in the afternoon, and picked her up by car at ten o'clock in the evening, and then went to pick up Hu Shi.Luo Ergang, a disciple of Hu Shi, said: "Hu Shi lived in the house of Rice Grain Depot, which was much more comfortable than living in No. Dongchang Hutong, which used to be the residence of President Li Yuanhong after the victory of the Anti-Japanese War." After Xu Zhimo became a professor at Peking University, he came to Peiping in early 1931 and stayed at Hu Shi's house.At that time, Wang Yuanfang also lived in Hu Shi's house. Fu Sinian was still single and bored at night. He came to Hu's house to play mahjong almost every night. Luo Ergang also often participated, but Xu Zhimo never joined.In addition to teaching, Xu Zhimo is working. Luo Ergang said: "I never thought that this great poet who is famous in the literary world is similar to a nerd." Ten years after Xu Beihong left home, he returned home with his wife and children to visit relatives. The next day he bid farewell to his mother and returned to Shanghai.Jiang Biwei recalled: "The old lady sent us to the boat and saw the boat slowly leave with her son, daughter-in-law and grandson without saying goodbye. Even Mr. Xu and Shou'an (Xu Beihong's younger brother) never said goodbye. I said a word about when I will come back. Knowing a child is like a mother. Based on her understanding of Mr. Xu, I know that she will not have much hope in her heart; As well as the short and fat figure standing by the river, I seem to see that she has regained the sad face that has lasted for decades. She is happy and surprised. The happy climax of her life is only the one that welcomes us to arrive and has a feast and drink. Three or four hours." Xu Beihong's eldest son Boyang was deeply loved by his father when he was a child.One day when Boyang was sleeping, Xu Beihong took out a pen and paper and drew a sketch for his son. Jiang Biwei said, "The brush of magic made Boyang, who was sleepy, come alive on the paper." In the early 1930s, Xu Beihong's family moved into their new home.Jiang Biwei said: "A magnificent new house, a beautiful courtyard, capable servants and a comfortable environment. Mr. Xu is engaged in the art education he is interested in, and has also gained a high reputation in painting. It is said that the sun is in the sky and the future is bright. I arranged for him a warm and happy family, so that he would not have any internal worries. Under his knees, there were a pair of lively and lovely children laughing and laughing. For a Chinese painter, his situation at that time should be It's the best." But soon there was a relationship crisis between the two, and Xu Beihong said to Jiang Biwei: "I know, I should be satisfied to marry a wife like you, but you are too picky about things, and I can't handle it. .” In December 1934, when Lu Xun answered some questions from Xiao Hong and Xiao Jun, he said: "My child's name is Haiying, but when he grows up, he wants to change it. His father even changed his surname." On June 7, 1935, Lu Xun sent a letter to Xiao Jun: "Everything is fine in the apartment. The child is also fine, but he has grown up and made more troubles. If he goes out, he will cause trouble. I have accepted the warnings of the three neighbors,—— But naturally, this neighbor is also a neighbor who is good at warning. But at home, he makes me restless, I hope he will be over twenty years old and run away with his lover." Qian Changzhao had been Chiang Kai-shek's confidant for many years. He met Chiang for the first time just in time for Chiang's divorce and remarriage. Qian Changzhao recalled in his later years: "When the Northern Expeditionary Army arrived in Shanghai, Huang Yu became the mayor of Shanghai. When he took office, Chiang Kai-shek led the National Revolutionary Army. I attended the speech as the commander-in-chief. One night I had dinner at Huang Yu’s house. Apart from Huang Yu and his wife, there were Huang’s daughter and son-in-law, Xingyuan (Qian Changzhao’s wife), me and Xingyuan (Qian Changzhao’s wife), Chiang Kai-shek and Chen Jieru. This is my first When I saw Chiang Kai-shek for the first time, I felt that he was a man of great power and didn't talk much. At that time, Chiang had decided to marry Song Meiling, and it was agreed that Chiang would pay for Chen Jieru to go abroad. Chen never cared about politics, and everyone called her Mrs. Jiang. On the night of dinner at Huang's house, Chiang Kai-shek sent Chen Jieru to a place where he never saw Chen again. A few days later, I went to the photo studio to get a photo of my engagement with Xingyuan, and I met Chen Jieru, who was with Zhang Jingjiang's daughter. She took pictures there. She told me that she was preparing to go abroad, and went to Canada first. After Chen Jieru went abroad, Jiang and Song Meiling got married in the Dahua Hotel." Shortly after the writer Lini got married, his wife became pregnant. Because they were too poor to support the child, they decided to have an abortion on their own.After taking quinine, his wife suffered from unbearable abdominal pain, while Lini panicked and was at a loss.At this time, the wife said: "Get a pen quickly, I wrote the will, you didn't poison me to death!" Fortunately, someone came in time and sent the patient to the hospital for emergency treatment. Lin Yutang's daughters often said: "There are no two people in the world who are more dissimilar than parents." Lin Yutang said: "Cuifeng is extroverted, I am introverted! I am the balloon, she is the ballast, and we compliment each other like this She is organized, serious by nature, always dressed neatly, and likes to do what she should do." Lin Yutang is just the opposite. He gave an example: "At the dinner table, she always chooses square legs and breasts. I don't eat gizzards and livers. I've always liked wings, livers, necks... I'm crazy, optimistic, with a naughty view of life. I hate all symbols of formality, ties, belts, and shoelaces. " Fu Lei has a violent personality, but he was fortunate to marry a good wife who "can go up to the hall and go down to the kitchen" - Zhu Meifu.Yang Jiang, a friend of Fu Lei and his wife, said: "Mei Fu is not only a gentle wife, a loving mother, and a beautiful lady in the salon, but also a very capable housewife. Fu Lei concentrates on his work, and she is Fu Lei's secretary, making cards for him, copying manuscripts, and receiving unexpected guests. If Fu Lei didn't have such a good logistics and assistant, his work would have to be discounted at least three or four times, right? " Pan Guangdan is an expert on eugenics and family issues. What does his own home look like? There is a passage in "Pan Guangdan's Biography": "The family is very harmonious. The husband and wife are very respectful, and they openly address each other as 'third sister' and 'Guangdan'. The daughter was never beaten or scolded by her parents at home when she was young. The father was sometimes beaten unavoidably. , caught her daughter's little fist with one hand, and laughed straight away. The whole family is always close and respected among relatives, friends and colleagues. It is a rare family that has never had family problems. It is really like a research and lecture on 'family' problem' family." In 1935, a student reporter from "Tsinghua Summer Weekly" went to interview Pan Guangdan's home and wrote an article "Professor Impressions", which said: "Mr. Pan now has three daughters, all of whom are very intelligent. First-hand good pattern. Mr. Pan specially bought her colorful colored paper in Shanghai, and Mrs. Pan specially prepared a pair of scissors for her. Mrs. Mei, seeing her good cutting skills, gave her two postbooks. If you arrive In Mr. Pan’s home, if you are lucky enough to meet her, she will show you her grades. You flip through the pages, and there are always beautiful, finely crafted, rectangular, four Square, circular, octagonal, hexagonal, human-shaped, animal-shaped, all kinds of cute patterns." In March 1927, Kang Youwei celebrated his 70th birthday in his Shanghai mansion "You Cunlu", and congratulatory guests gathered from all walks of life.The birthday couplet presented by his disciple Liang Qichao is: "Recounting the profound meaning of the sages, the whole family is not uniform, and the next year is 70 years old! Serve the beans to the old man in the country, and cheer you on the spring wine. Those who receive the business will cover three thousand Yan!" It is composed of sentences in the Quanlian collection "Historical Records", "Hanshu" and "Zheng Kangcheng Collection", comparing Kang Youwei to the sage of Confucius.Qing Xun Emperor Pu Yi sent someone to send a plaque of "Yue Zhi Yuan Qing" inscribed by him and a jade ruyi as birthday gifts.This made Kang so flattered that he even reorganized the former upright official uniform, paid homage to God from a distance, and wrote a "Thanksgiving Book" with a brush. Mrs. Mei Yiqi, the principal of Tsinghua University, called Pan Guangdan's three daughters "like the three sisters of the Song family".Later, another daughter was added and became four sisters.One of them, Pan Naimu, recalled: "Parents treated us equally, without preference. Naigu recalled: The most interesting thing is that when my mother distributes candy to us, the principle of ordering the elders and children is adopted. The average is four, and the eldest sister comes first. Picking. Naigu still thinks it is fair and reasonable. For example, when the bonus (shaguo) is distributed, the eldest sister picks the red ones, and she is not afraid of the small ones; I'm happy. Xiao Si finishes eating first, and then asks Eldest Sister for more, and Eldest Sister always gives her some. Therefore, every time I share the food, everyone is happy." During the Anti-Japanese War, Song Meiling and Chiang Kai-shek had an awkward relationship, and once refused to return to Chongqing on the pretext of recuperating in Hong Kong. On October 31, 1940, Chiang Kai-shek wrote in his diary: "Ling Wei'er came to see me. I took today as Yu Yangli's birthday, and I had dinner with Yu. My wife was supposed to come back today. I haven't seen her yet, and I haven't sent a letter. I don't know why. "On November 9th, the diary records: "Both Jing and Wei saw their mothers in Hong Kong, and returned to Chongqing to reunite with their father and son. , I really thank God for his endless blessings. But my beloved wife is sick in Hong Kong and cannot return as scheduled, which is a fly in the ointment." On the 30th of the same month, there was a similar passage in the diary: "My two sons are dear, and brothers are close together. This is the basis. The greatest joy of the month is also the hardest thing in the past 15 years. It is not the grace bestowed by the heavenly father to be able to consummate the Tuan Tuan today. We must not end here. Can we not thank God? My beloved wife cannot return to Chongqing as scheduled, it is a fly in the ointment! Jiang is a Christian. On Christmas Eve that year, he wrote in his diary: "In the past three years, on Christmas Eve, today is the most depressing day. Not being able to reunite with family affairs is the only pain in life. Fortunately, Weier was able to come back as a companion, which is enough to comfort the loneliness... ..." However, in the past few years, the tone of Chiang Kai-shek's diary has changed. On February 4, 1941, Chiang Kai-shek wrote: "When receiving the letter from his wife not to return to Chongqing, he replied with the husband and wife doing their own way. Indifferent and quiet, nothing to do Move too." It is said that Jiang Weiguo was not born by Chiang Kai-shek, but by Dai Jitao and Shigematsu Kaneko, a Japanese female nurse. After Jiang Weiguo was born on October 6, 1916, according to what the two had agreed in advance, he was brought to Shanghai by the Japanese Tian Junzaburo and handed over to Chiang Kai-shek’s then wife Yao Yicheng to raise him; , Jiang Weiguo may also be born of Chiang Kai-shek and Chongsong Jinzi.After Jiang Weiguo heard about his unknown life experience, he went to ask Dai Jitao for an interview.Dai Jitao took out a photo of Chiang Kai-shek and a mirror, and sat down facing Jiang Weiguo.He asked Jiang Weiguo to look in the mirror and compare himself with Chiang Kai-shek: "Are you like this side or that side?" Jiang Weiguo looked around, and replied that he still looked like Chiang Kai-shek "a little bit more".Dai Jitao laughed and said, "Then it's over!" Xu Guangping said: "When he (Lu Xun) is unhappy, he will drink a lot of wine in the middle of the night, when I can't see him. He will even run to the open space to lie down like Remus who was raised on the milk of wild animals. At least, or as he himself said, like a wounded sheep, it ran to the grass to lick and dry its wounds, and squatted or fell asleep in an empty place where no one was. I have seen these situations more than once...once After supper, I slept on the dark balcony floor, and was found by three or four-year-old Hai Ying, who also slept side by side without making a sound. Deliberately making trouble with me, he often said: 'Our relationship is considered good.'” American female journalist Xiang Meili lived in China for ten years (1935-1944), among which she lived in Shanghai for five years, and lived with Shao Xunmei most of the time.They bought a "not rich but ordinary" apartment on Joffre Road. It was a one-story house facing the street, separated from the outside by a bamboo fence.Shao Xunmei has a family for a long time, and their cohabitation is open, and Shao's wife Sheng Peiyu does not object. Xiang visits Shao's house from time to time, and Sheng treats each other with courtesy. Liang Yanqing, a Cantonese, later made his fortune in Tianjin and became a big comprador.Although he had four wives and concubines, he was not involved in the bad habits of foreign affairs.Liang never gambled, never extravagant, never smoked and drank alcohol, never prepared carriages and horses, and lived a simple life all his life. When the writer Wang Zengqi was a teenager, he sat with his father, drinking and smoking.When he was 17, he wrote letters to his first love, with his father helping out with ideas.My father said: "We have been brothers for many years." Wang Zengqi said: "His temper has also been passed on to me. It not only affects my relationship with family, children, and friends, but also affects my understanding of the characters I write. attitude and attitude towards readers." Xie Bingxin and Wu Wenzao returned from studying abroad and went to teach at Yenching University.When the two were about to get married, the school allocated them a small building in Yannan Garden.Xie Bingxin recalled: "In the spring of 1929, we all returned to Yenching University, and I was busy with all preparations for the family after marriage. He, in addition to asking a carpenter to make a wooden plank for the north wall of his study downstairs, Outside of the towering bookshelves, I was only busy buying a few half-new bookcases, card cabinets, desks, etc., and let me take care of the decoration of our new house and the planting of flowers and trees in the garden.” Chen Duxiu's two sons—Chen Yannian and Chen Qiaonian—lived in their hometown in Anhui when they were young, and were later brought to Shanghai by Chen Duxiu, but they did not live together.Chen Duxiu arranged for the two children to work outside during the day and board at night on the floor of the "New Youth" magazine distribution office.Gao Junman, the stepmother (also aunt) of the two children, couldn't stand it anymore, and proposed to Chen Duxiu to let the children go home to live.Chen said: "You are really a woman's benevolence. Although that is good intentions, it is easy to produce evil results. In the life of young people, we should let them create their own future." Liang Shuming was unique in educating his children. His son Liang Peikuan recalled: "From elementary school to middle school, my father never asked me about my test scores, and never asked me for a transcript. In the first year of junior high school, the test scores were generally average, and my father did not raise higher requirements." "One year during the winter vacation, the school suddenly notified me to make up the geography exam. At that time, I passed 60 points and I got 59 points. When I came, my father happened to be next to me, so I showed it to him. After he read it, he returned it to me without saying a word. There was no expression of dissatisfaction or any criticism. I understand what he meant and how the failure was caused. , you know it yourself, you don’t need me to say it, and I can’t say it; you should know what to do after you fail, and you don’t need me to say more.” The painter Bai Jiao once quarreled with his wife and smashed an ashtray in anger.I couldn't help regretting it afterwards, and said: "There is no wife in the world." Cao Juren described his old friend Wu Zhihui in this way: "His personal life is simple and simple, beyond the expectations of ordinary people. It looks like an old cloth coat with a slit neckline, which looks like an old man. He lives in the third class. In a small hotel, take a fourth-class train, drink in small teahouses, eat in small restaurants, carry a paper umbrella, walk hundreds of miles a day, and even climb to the top of Mount Emei at the age of 70. He will never take a rickshaw ;someone gave him a new car, and he saw off the handle and put it in his room as a chair." Zhou Zuomin, general manager of Jincheng Bank, has a reputation for fear of guilt.Zhou once had a big banquet at his home in Beijing, and all the guests were crowned.During the banquet, someone knew his details, deliberately teased him, and proposed to ask Bada Hutong prostitute Tiaozi to accompany the guests, but Zhou couldn't stop him.When the wine is full, the meat and bamboo are played together, and there is a lot of noise.Mrs. Zhou was furious when she heard this, and ordered the servant to pull the main switch of the electric light, and it was pitch black, and the guests and prostitutes had to disperse in the dark.The next day, Zhou Zuomin apologized to the guests one by one. Xie Zhiguang was one of the three famous painters of month cards in Shanghai.Xie acted like a vagabond, but was afraid of guilt.A certain affair was detected by his wife and she rushed to catch the rape. Xie ran away as soon as he saw his wife. Seeing that his wife could not catch up, he was quick to wit, and repeatedly called for the robbers to be arrested and attracted the police.After Xie was arrested, his wife came over and said to the police with a smile: "He is not a real robber. Our husband and wife were noisy and deliberately falsely accused him. But I am sorry to trouble you!" During the Anti-Japanese War, the historian Hou Wailu once lived in the "Feng's Mansion" in Baihelin, a suburb of Chongqing, and lived upstairs and downstairs with the famous scholar Yan Yangchu.Although Yan Yangchu devoted himself to China's "village construction movement", he lived a life of complete westernization.Hou Wailu later recalled: "In Baihelin, Yan Yangchu maintained a fairly high standard of living. His family employed two maids who spoke a Beijing accent, and a Western food chef. According to his family, he rarely spoke Chinese at home. Basically, he doesn’t eat Chinese food. On the contrary, his Chinese-English mixed-race wife is willing to speak Chinese and eat Chinese food. When Yan Yang first moved in, my children were very excited, because the Yan family also had several children , they thought they had a partner from then on. But soon, they were disappointed because Yan did not allow the children of the two families to communicate with each other. Even so, a friendship was secretly established between the children, and they continued to communicate in secret until the Yan family moved away. Is it because Yan Yangchu didn’t know the heart of a boy? I’m afraid not. Yan Yangchu’s attitude of rejecting others is not accidental, because his living standards and style are far away from the common people.” Ma Yifu lost his mother at the age of 11, his father at the age of 19, and his wife at the age of 20. He was not married and had no children.The only family member is his elder sister, whose family has been living with him, and he will taste the medicine when the elder sister is sick.After the eldest sister passed away, Ma wept unceasingly.Xiong Shili called it "too much to be exempt from vulgarity".马一浮听后说：“人的悲伤，是本性的自然流露，谈不上什么过与不过，俗与不俗。”马后来搬离原住地，以免睹物思人。 曹聚仁说：“我和男女工人（指佣人）都是兄弟叔侄相称。除了戏台上，我们没听过'老爷、少爷、少奶、太太'的称呼。因此，我在上海、杭州、赣州……住了那么久，绝不让女工们叫我'少爷、老爷'，同桌吃饭，有如一家人。”