Chapter 23 Chapter 21: Give him the life he wants

The kids were young and we were young I stayed with you for more than a year, and I didn't shoot a single movie, and I was exhausted.At first I was going to stick with it, because I thought I was paying for my mistakes, and there is no mistake in life that I don't need to pay for.Later, I couldn't take it anymore, and I found that I could neither support him nor myself if I continued like this.I contacted him with a middle school in the UK and sent him away. Children who don’t like studying will be happier abroad.He had just turned 14 at the time. He went to school in England on the first day, I sent him to the dormitory and then back to the hotel.It takes more than an hour to take the train from the school to the hotel.As soon as I got to the hotel, I got a call from him.

"Mom, I'm hungry, and I miss you so much." Batu cried on the phone. I couldn't cry with him, so I had to tell him calmly: "Batu, you go to the teacher in charge of life, ask him if he has bread for you, and then call my mother back and tell me if you have eaten ." After a while, the phone call came. "Mom, I'm full. The teacher not only gave me bread, but also butter and jam." It seems that he seldom calls me after that.He quickly adapted to life abroad, and he couldn't think of me unless he was hungry. It is conceivable that if a foreigner comes by our side, we can politely chat with him about the weather and news, but it is difficult to become a confidant with him.To his British classmates, Batu was just such a foreigner, not to mention that group of little boys didn't even have polite manners, they liked to play tricks very much.

At the beginning, when Batu entered the bathroom, someone always turned off the light with a "snap" outside, so he had to put on his clothes, go out and turn on the light, but there was no one outside.Then he went in again, just as he was about to turn on the water, the light went out again with a "snap", he put on his clothes and went out to turn on the light, but he still couldn't find who did it.It wasn't until those kids saw that Batu was being tossed and tossed without being in a hurry or annoyed that he found it boring, he could take a bath in a down-to-earth manner.

But he quickly became friends with them. I don’t know what methods he used. When he was a child, the trick of “bribing” his classmates to solicit votes would still work abroad. I just think he is a genius in interpersonal communication, maybe It has something to do with his happiness and cheerfulness. Since my daughter and all our friends are in the US, I transferred Batu to New York after less than 3 months in the UK school. Batu's oral English is really good. When he first arrived in the United States, the teacher hardly believed that he was a foreign child.But when he was actually in class, he was stunned, especially the biology class, liver cirrhosis, lung lobes, myocarditis-many words that he couldn't understand could be guessed, but these words couldn't be learned without a teacher.So in the first year in the United States, Batu got D in several courses, which is called "hanging the red light" in Chinese.But by the second, third year, the letters on the report card stopped worrying me.

Batu's first Valentine's Day in the United States is very special (in China, no adult thinks that "Valentine's Day" is related to fourteen or fifteen-year-old children).He told me that on that day, the teacher, as a "messenger of love", may knock on the door of the 305 dormitory, bring a bouquet of flowers, and tell them that it was given to Johnson by Helen from 407, and you are willing to be with her tonight Want to see a movie? So I asked Batu: "Did someone send you flowers?" "Not yet, Asians don't get flowers." Batu said in strict terms, emphasizing that this situation may only be temporary.

"Then did you send flowers to other girls?" I asked with a smile. "Not yet, I don't even like those girls." This time his answer was much more confident.According to my guess, if this kid has money, he would rather spend it on "pizza" than please any girl. As my son grows up day by day, I am also learning not to give my full attention to him, otherwise I will be tired and my child will be even more tired. I had nothing to do that day, so I called Batu, and it was a recording message. After the beep, I happily said to the phone: "Batu, mom is calling you. Mom misses you very much. Can you call at your convenience? Goodbye!"

After waiting for two hours, there was no response, so I chased the phone again and left a message: "Batu, mom has been waiting for your call, why didn't you call back? Can you call me back?" I pretended to be pitiful look. After another two hours, I was a little sullen, thinking that this kid didn't think much of me. "Batu, why haven't you called? Let me tell you, mom is very angry? What are you doing? Call me back!" By the time I made the fourth call, I was already emotionally out of control. "Batu, let me tell you, mom won't sleep tonight! Let's see when you call!"

A woman who puts all her mind on her children is like this, and it is easy to get into a dead end.In fact, how many mistakes can a child make?Maybe he was playing with friends when he heard the first phone message and didn't have time to talk to me.When I heard the second message, I felt that my mother was old-fashioned again, which was meaningless.Then I received the third and fourth messages in a daze, and my mother was already mad, so how can I tell him to reply?When you call back at this time, you have to make up nonsense, why you didn’t call back just now, what you were doing, and who you were with; in the end, it became that you can’t afford to be provoked and can’t hide, no matter how much you shout and scold, I simply won’t call back, and it’s comfortable for a while. for a while.