Chapter 13 mother's faith

My mother has always followed her faith, and she believes in the power of simplicity.Whether it's filming, attending a party or dealing with interpersonal relationships, when she needs to make a decision, she always says: "Do what needs you to do the most, and know exactly what you want. If you want too much, not only You get nothing, and it complicates and tires your life." My mother loved to walk wherever she went, it seemed to be the most important part of her life, and she walked so fast that we always had to jolt along with her.One day I couldn't help asking her why she always walks so fast, my mother replied: "I just want to reach the destination as soon as possible, so I speed up my pace unconsciously." Later, my mother told me that it might be because of her mother Walking is always slow, which makes my mother unbearable.So when she walks, she deliberately walks very fast.

I remember talking to my mother once about a girl I liked who unfortunately preferred another guy, or maybe she liked both, and it bothered me, even though it wasn't the first time Such a thing is troublesome.My mother listened quietly to the whole story, thought for a while and said to me, "You'd better focus on your studies, because if you don't pass the exam, you're likely to get hit twice." The principle that my mother believes in most is simplicity, and this belief can restore everything to its essence: sincerity, kindness, and love.This is the code of the mother's soul, and she brought this belief to the family, infected each of us, and let us touch the deep hidden emotions in the heart.

In the movie "Love at Dusk," the mother and Gary Cooper play a couple, Cooper's character is a rich playboy who is unwilling to stop for a woman and is always eager to find the next prey.Although the two still love each other deeply, they had to break up at the train station.She was very calm before the breakup, because she wanted to convince him that she was as strong and independent as him and would not feel pain because of the breakup.Tears welled up in her eyes as the train moved slowly away, but she kept telling anecdotes about the other men who had courted her, how they fell under her skirts, and in fact Those people simply don't exist.By this time the train was going faster and faster and she was running on the platform with tears streaming down her cheeks.The train whistle was so loud that she had to yell for him to hear her, and she was still trying to convince him that she was going to be fine, even though everyone knew it wasn't.He ends up carrying her onto the train, they hug, and the movie ends.

The script is written like this, but what really makes this scene shine is the mother's excavation of lines and characters.You can feel more if you are willing to feel deeply. In the movie, she sincerely hopes that he can continue the prodigal life she loves and be himself, but on the other hand, she hopes that everything can start again.When she said goodbye, she wanted to make a decision while trying to hide her despair and sadness.The mother's performance was very successful, and this scene became a classic in the hearts of many film critics.She found a way to connect the pain that didn't exist in the script with her own experience, to achieve unprecedented integration, and to do this, you need a good script, great understanding, great acting skills, and maybe a great character. Facial muscle control ability, but for the mother, it is not difficult.As long as you have experienced and felt it, you can act it out.Life is a drama full of emotions.

Although my mother was not a fanatical follower of any religious sect, she had her own beliefs and remained very religious throughout her life: she believed in love, in the miracles of natural forces, and in the beauty of life.After her retirement, she became a UNICEF Goodwill Ambassador, a job that allowed her to bring her beliefs to life in her work. Day after day, life will slowly put shackles on us and make us tiptoe, but the experience of "dead once" can help us break free from such shackles and let us understand what is worth paying for , nothing worth it.Although my mother didn't leave any memories of dying in her childhood, she remembered the experience from her grandmother's account. I think this is the root of her mother's humility in treating others all her life.

I've never heard her say: "I've done this!" "I've done that!" In the last part of her life, working for UNICEF, the most I heard her say was "I can do a little..." I never heard my mother say that she likes one of her roles the most.When people pressed her on this question, she always seemed very shy, and every time said that everyone's hard work brought the ultimate success. Bessie Anderson Stanley once wrote: "Smile often, win the respect of wise men and the love of children, gain the admiration of the harshest critics, bear the betrayal of those so-called friends, learn to appreciate beautiful things, discover The advantages of people around you, when you leave this world, you can leave behind a healthy child, a small park, or have made contributions to the social environment. Knowing that your existence can help at least one person live more easily, this is success It's gone." By Ms. Stanley's standards, my mother's life was quite a success.She chose to be an actress and gained the appreciation of the public and critics; then she chose to start a family, leaving two healthy children and good memories for those who loved her; When she grew up and started her own life, she chose to help those unfortunate children in the world and chose to give back to the society.This is an important choice, through which she healed the scar that followed her life-there will always be sorrow and pain in the world.