Chapter 39 Text teaching: successful life, starting from the first job (2)

what is a genius Never change your direction.There is a saying in China, three hundred and sixty lines, the number one scholar.I know a pedicure in Yangzhou, you might think, what can a pedicure do?However, he became the number one scholar in the world, and he became a representative of the National People's Congress after a pedicure. The most famous entrepreneur in Hong Kong took him to Hong Kong for a pedicure. I heard a story in the United States, which moved me very much.There is a waiter, this person is a natural waiter, his service quality is very good, very appreciated by customers.Later, he opened his own catering company. Because of the good service, his company is very popular. As long as there are catering activities in the homes of all politicians and rich people in the United States, no matter how far they are, they will take him and his catering company by plane. The team comes to cook. American politicians and rich people like to hold private parties. They will definitely invite catering companies to hold parties. There are many such companies in the United States, but his company is the most famous, and American millionaires always invite him pride.And this person is also very business-minded, he opened a catering school, and then took his disciples to various parts of the world to contract the catering services for the most expensive and tasteful banquets.He ended up buying a Boeing 737 and flying around to help people cook.Many people think that it is a miracle that a waiter becomes a billionaire who buys Boeing airplanes. In fact, he just loves this industry and has done it to the extreme.

Many people envy geniuses. Being a genius is actually very simple. It is to be so proficient in one thing that no one can surpass it. People will say that this person is really a genius in this respect.Nie Weiping is a genius at Go. He plays Go for 10 hours a day. He has drilled and understood Go thoroughly. He is a genius at Go. Liu Xiang is a genius, but if Liu Xiang stops running one day, he can still be a genius. Genius?Tiger Woods who plays golf is a genius. He has been playing golf since he was a child. He has played golf to perfection. This is genius. If you put your work into a very good state, your supervisor and boss will like you, and you are indispensable.I often say to my employees, what is the job done well?It is not enough to just complete your job, you have to do this to the extent that you can't do it without you, you are the most powerful person.At that time, your salary will definitely increase, and your honor will definitely come.

For example, for a while, the person I couldn't live without at New Oriental was the aunt who cleaned the office.She was past retirement age but I kept her because no one could clean better than her.She knows where things go, she knows which slots a book should go in, and when I take the book down, she can put it back the way it is.She even goes to the point where she can understand where everything of mine should be put, and it's the easiest way for me to pick it up. How hard do you think she is.When you have such an aunt to clean for you, you must be reluctant to replace her, and you will feel that it will be more troublesome to work without her.

Doing things to the extreme is genius. arrange a good time Another very important point is the planning of time.When I started New Oriental more than ten years ago, I always felt that I didn’t have enough time. I was so busy every day that I couldn’t get things done.Although I am still busy every day, the efficiency of using time is already many times higher than that of ten years ago, because now I use 24 hours to do things that I used 24 hours a decade ago. The things done in an hour are no longer the same.Ten years ago, I managed a small school with an annual income of hundreds of thousands. Now I manage a listed company, whose scale has increased dozens of times compared to ten years ago.Why am I still so busy?The reason is simple, when you are too busy, you will know how to arrange your time, and you will know what is most important and what is not.So, in this process, the most important thing I learned is to grasp the most important things.

The most important thing in my life is not to manage New Oriental but to read. I read two books every week and I feel that this week has not been wasted.Then, do one thing every day, so that I feel that because of doing this thing, I have not been in vain today.Every night before going to bed, I used to ask myself, how many things did I do today, which ones did well, and then think about what I will do tomorrow, so that when I come together the next day, I will know what to do today, That way you won't get confused.As long as you do one thing well a day, you can do many things well in the long run.Therefore, I have the habit of writing a diary every day, not writing about feelings, but writing about what I did today, listing them one by one, two by three, and four by one, and then marking them with asterisks according to their importance. Five stars indicate that this matter has been done very well. Well, one star means that something wasn't done right, or shouldn't be done in the first place.In this way, I know what is more important and what is not, and I have a plan for my time.

Arrange your own time effectively, put the most important things first to complete, and the speed of your life progress will be accelerated.Do remember that time must be squeezed out, as long as you want to do this thing well, you will be able to squeeze out time. self restraint Success requires self-discipline.Many people think that in order to be successful, they have to rush forward desperately and desperately, and eventually fail.Many entrepreneurs, because they rushed forward with one heart and one mind, rushed forward too fast, and finally fell down. For example, the capital chain was broken, or the company rushed too fast, too out of line, or the entrepreneur's personality was too flamboyant, and the company fell with others. down.This is the lack of self-discipline. Some people do not have enough restraint on their own personality, and some people do not have enough restraint on their own desires.A lot of people who are officials have been killed because they lack the ability to restrain themselves. China's anti-corruption policy is very clear, and batches of people have been investigated, but when they see money and status, they are still I couldn't help wanting it, so I rushed over desperately, unable to restrain myself, and finally fell down.Young people let go of their hobbies and can't restrain themselves. For example, they play games for 10 hours a day, and finally become mentally disturbed. They play poker for several days and mahjong for several months. They all sink into it .

The important prerequisite for doing things is to restrain yourself so that you can do things quickly and well. I'm talking about my personal experience.I'm good at skiing, I learned it 5 years ago, and I also wrote an article called "Only when you can stop can you slide down".At that time, I didn't hire a coach, and I fell down as soon as I arrived on the snow. Later, I found that this was not possible. I had to learn how to stop first, so I observed how others stopped.There are actually two ways to stop in skiing. Beginners use the "outside eight-character stop" and use the blade to block the snow. However, in places with a certain slope, this method of stopping does not work. You must "stop on the side".So I spent a whole week practicing how to stop. First, I used the "outside eight-character stop" to stop, and then I learned "side stop".In the end, my "stop" was done very well, so I directly carried the skis on the intermediate track, and later on the advanced track, and they all skated very smoothly, because when I felt that I was about to lose control, Stop and don't rush up the tree.A friend saw that I was on the intermediate track after two weeks of skating, and he said, if you can do it, I can do it too.I said, it's dangerous for you not to go up, and he said, it's okay.As a result, after going up, there was a hillside on one side and a cliff on the other. He couldn't stop, and slid directly towards the cliff. walk.

I have a very deep understanding of this: Whenever you face wealth, fame, status and any other things that may tempt you, if you feel that you will not be able to stop, then you must not pursue it. Because you can't stop, you're bound to stumble in the end.Self-discipline is the most precious thing in life.If you cannot restrain yourself, then you should not try to have any ambitions, because the more you try to have them, the more dangerous they become. Many students said that this society is full of systems, constraints, and people who can't get along with you.I want to say that as long as you enter the society, there will be people who will make things difficult for you, because as long as you are a crowd, there must be various social traditions, and there must be laws and human relations.Relationships do limit you, but there are people who succeed in them, and those are "people who dance beautifully in shackles."

Some people complained to me that this society is so unfair to him. Other people's father is a minister, and he can find any job he wants. Other people's father is a billionaire, but I am penniless.In fact, there is no need to complain at all. People cannot choose their own births. Even people born on the same day will have many differences. You can't choose whether you were born in a poor family or a rich family, and you can't choose whether you were born in an official family or a commoner family.The starting point of life is different, but the end of life is chosen by oneself. Life is not a 100-meter race, which ends in a few seconds. Life is a lifetime. 60 years, 70 years, 80 years, now the medical science is advanced , There is no problem running for 100 years. In 100 years, you can completely ignore that you have more money and I have less money, and you have social status and I don’t, because both money and social status can be won.Among the first few hundred people on the Forbes list, 60% to 70% are from rural areas and poor families, but this has become their wealth, because they believe that there has never been a savior, and only themselves can save them.

Anyone who complains about his own birth will not be happy in his life; anyone who feels that he must force himself to strive for happiness will be happy.Now flying, I feel that the economy class is enjoyment, but if I have been flying business class since I was a child, flying economy class now will be a serious harm to me. You complain that you can't find a job, that no one cares, that the society is dark and ruthless, but in fact, the fault must be yours, not the society's.There must be problems in this society, but there is no society without problems. Chinese society has problems, and American society has more problems than China. Every society has its own characteristics, traditions and customs. You can't just because the society is not perfect, you The unsuccessful complained to the society.Chinese society is very complicated, but we are all in this environment, and you can do what Jack Ma can do.

In this regard, I have a profound experience.There are two types of skiing, skiing and snowboarding.After two years of snowboarding, I felt that snowboarding was boring. I saw that children were riding snowboards, and I thought it was very good. I wanted to learn to snowboard, but snowboarding is several times more dangerous than double boarding. I am 43 years old and want to snowboard. My friends said you are dying, but I like challenging things, and then I started to learn to snowboard.However, when skating double boards, the two legs are free to retract and close together, but when skating single boards, the two feet cannot move at all.In the first year, I practiced for a long time but didn't learn it, and my nose was bruised and my face was swollen. In the second year, I also fell half to death.Until one day, I fell down when I stood up, and fell again when I stood up again. I stood not far from the foot of the mountain and thought, even if I fell to my death today, I would rush to the foot of the mountain, no matter what.As a result, the knot in my heart was let go, and instead I slid very smoothly, rushing all the way to the foot of the mountain, from the top of the mountain to the bottom of the mountain, I slid down smoothly, only hearing the whistling wind in my ears, and seeing pieces of mountains, There are forests one after another, that feeling is like flying.From then on, I can not only skate the veneer, but also jump, why?Because when I lock my feet to the board, the board is not a tool that locks me in, but a tool that makes me faster. My experience with this matter is: make good use of the restraints on your body, and they will often become your invisible wings, allowing you to walk faster and fly higher. Losing is not a bad thing Finally, I would like to say that most of this generation are only children. They have been cared for by their parents since they were young, and their life is not considered poor. Now that they are frustrated in finding a job after graduation, they are more likely to feel lost and feel that they have suffered a lot. In this regard, I would like to tell you a few points. First, for you, setbacks, failures, and suffering are all good things, because suffering can make you successful.Mandela spent 27 years in prison and finally became president; Lincoln is the same, why can he be president?Because his wife quarrels with him every day, life is very painful for him. Since staying at home is uncomfortable, he chats with friends all day long, and finally talks about a president. The suffering of the family has made a great American president; the same The story also happened to Socrates. He is a famous philosopher all over the world. Because his wife is a shrew, he can tolerate an unreasonable wife at home, and he may become a great man outside.This shows that a certain thing that makes you unhappy may, in turn, be the basis for your career success. In addition, we must exercise our mental endurance.Everyone will be frustrated, but when you are frustrated, you have to bounce like a spring.Put a pile of flour on the chopping board, and it will disperse when you pat it with your hands. This is like our current psychological endurance. If you add some water to this pile of flour, it will not necessarily disperse when you pat it again. If you continue to Add water and keep kneading. In the end, no matter how much you pat it, it will not fall apart.A person's psychological endurance must reach this level, so that he can survive in society no matter what difficulties he faces.If you come across a little thing and start to make a fuss, that is a person who has no guts, and a person without guts can't do great things. Also, losing something is not a bad thing.I often say that only when you are unemployed do you know the hardships of life, and only when you are broken in love do you know the preciousness of feelings.If you have never lost your job, you feel that this job is indifferent and you will not cherish it; you have never been dumped in a relationship, and the person you love has never been snatched away, and you will not know how to feel precious.Gains and losses, you must be gaining while losing. Good things must be pursued.For example, if a boy likes a girl, there will be two situations. One kind of person just thinks about it; What about dealing with?I'm not talking about love, I'm talking about two different mentalities.When I was in college, did I ever fall in love with a girl?I have taken a fancy to it.When I was in college, did I ever pursue a girl?No.Because I was very scared, I thought I was born in the countryside, I don’t look good, and my Mandarin is not good... It can only be unrequited love, and in the end there is nothing.Later, I became thick-skinned and more sensible, and then I realized that if I pursued it at that time, I might be able to succeed.In fact, if you tell any girl that you like her, even if you are just a toad, she will be happy, because it is always good to have one more person who loves her. What is pursuit?First, this goal is something you absolutely must.Second, you have to take action, and you have to let the other party know.Even if the other person doesn't love you, you have at least fulfilled one wish by telling her, knowing that the other person doesn't really love you.More importantly, if pursuing once is not enough, then pursue 10 times, so that the other party can truly feel that you really love her no matter from actions to words, maybe she will be moved and start dealing with you, and then become After a period of time, your friend finds that you are down-to-earth, sincere, and ambitious. Maybe she will fall in love with you, and your love will be successful.And, even if you don't pursue it, you haven't lost anything.Did she belong to you before?Does not belong; after chasing her, she did not promise you, does she belong to you?Still not yours.Since it didn't belong to you before and doesn't belong to you now, have you lost something?You have nothing to lose. Frankly speaking, the rewards are actually more than that.First, you have learned to give up face when faced with what you want.Second, if you are still brave enough to chase after being rejected, you will have the will to persevere.Third, when the other party will not love you anyway, you give up, and you have the courage to give up.Because there are countless good things in the world, when you face great temptation, when you face those things that should not belong to you, you know how to give up. Everything is gained behind the loss, and there may be loss behind the gain.How many people have gained fame, status, and wealth, but disappeared overnight; and how many people who once disappeared have gained the recognition of the world. For you, it's like you go for a job, get rejected the first time, never look again, then you will never find a job.For example, if a student writes a letter saying that he wants to see me, it is generally difficult because there are too many students.However, any student who wrote me a letter once and I didn't reply, and never wrote again, he would no longer be able to communicate with me. I also learned this from students. For example, I wanted to invite a very famous person to give a lecture to New Oriental. I finally mustered up the courage to call the other party. The other party said that I didn’t have time, so I wouldn’t call again. The phone is up.Later, I felt that this was not possible, so I made up my mind that if I wanted to hire someone, I would have to hire him three times. The first time he said he didn’t have time; , is very interesting, he will call me and say to arrange a speech for me.Why is this?Because he was moved by your sincerity. Anything can be done if you stick to it.New Oriental once had a student who was refused visa three times by the US embassy, ​​which was very painful.Tell me, Mr. Yu, I'm out of luck, and I refused to sign three times.Did I say they allow you to go fourth?Go if you will.You have to have such a mentality, I am here to refuse the visa, if you don't refuse the visa, I will not do it.In the face of failure, you are personable, and you don't turn against others.He was rejected again for the fourth time, and he said thank you, sir, and see you next time.The fifth time, the sixth time... until the eighth time, the visa officer already knew him and gave him a visa.He asked, why give me a visa?The visa officer said, because I don't want to see you again in my life.Of course, this is a special case.What I want to say is that if you stick to it, the possibility of success will be much higher.Persistence is strength.