Chapter 56 Post-part Practical Idea Communication Skills and Group Awareness

Any group must be formed, communicated, and standardized in order to achieve real maturity. During the formative period, being polite to each other, covering up problems, lacking consensus, and superficially whitewashing peace cannot solve the suspicion and conflict in the heart.Groups in the formative period seem to have nothing to do, but they are actually useless and inefficient. The most important thing in the communication period is to bring each other's different interests to the table and discuss them openly and thoroughly until all parties can accept them. At this time, there may be constant conflicts and scolding, but everyone is willing to complain to the group. This is the formation of group consensus. Some people call this period the group’s stormy period. Without this period, the rain will not pass, but if you cannot survive this shock, you may At this time, whether the leader can exert his cohesion is the most critical.

The main task of the standardization period is also communication. At this time, everyone has understood each other's position, and then seeks possible norms and consensus through communication. This is also the pre-mature stage of the group. A truly mature group lies in the ability to have mature communication. Anything can be brought to the table for discussion at any time without any anxiety or embarrassment. There are also conflicts in the caring mature group, but the members can bravely face the conflicts, and are willing to express their views with the most honest attitude and seek answers to the problems.

Perhaps a mature group looks messy on the surface, but it is still the most efficient group.However, from the formation to the maturity of a group, the most important thing is still communication. Although communication is most often put on words, it is usually the most difficult to achieve. The biggest difficulty in communication is that it is easy for us to regard "persuasion as communication, and the act of wanting to "persuade" the other party as an attitude of willingness to communicate with the other party." Treating persuasion as communication is almost doomed to failure.

Especially in the formative stage, hiding feelings from each other, and unwilling to accept each other's feelings, so that suspicion, distortion, and exaggeration are the biggest obstacles to communication. The most important thing in communication is to accept the feelings of the other party. Although acceptance does not necessarily require agreement, at least it must show that I know or that I am willing to listen. Only by accepting the other party can the other party accept us. Then we must express "my feelings" honestly, which can also be called expressing "my message". My message is not to criticize the other party, but to express my wishes rationally. The purpose is to let the other party understand you. ideas to avoid unnecessary distortion or rendering."

If you practice these two points frequently, you will be able to adopt the correct communication method, which will enable the group to get out of the immature formation stage as soon as possible, and will also help you successfully survive the stormy stage. Communication is the most important means of growth for the Group. In the early days of the establishment of the Han Dynasty, the group was still in its formation stage. Although there was nothing wrong on the surface, in fact, there were a lot of problems, and there was no channel for communication with each other. In the early years, these princes were often by Liu Bang's side. Although the communication was not good, at least sometimes they could still communicate. Opponent, in order to win."

As a result, the princes rebelled in a row, causing Liu Bang himself to be exhausted. Before enjoying the happiness of success, he became sick from overwork and died!Even if under the instigation of Empress Lu, the princes can be killed and replaced by the kings of the Liu family, if the communication channels are not resolved, the future chaos of the Seven Kingdoms will still be inevitable.