Chapter 99 marriage

Wang Guowei has been married twice.The first time was in 1896, when he was 20 years old. Stimulated by the defeat in the Sino-Japanese War, he wanted to study in Japan.But his father firmly disagreed, saying that the most important thing now is to "seek food and clothing", and as for studying, that will be ten years later.Wang Guowei had no choice but to obey his father's order to "get married and start a career"—he got married and went to the Shen family in this city to work as a school teacher. Wang Guowei's new wife's surname is Mo. Her family has been in business for generations, and her family seems to be better off than the Wang family.The Wang and Mo families had already been engaged. When Wang Guowei became famous in the village as the first of the "Four Talents of Haining" at the age of fourteen, his father-in-law was full of praise for this future son-in-law.Of course, Lao Taishan would not have imagined that after his daughter got married, his son-in-law would go to Shanghai to work in the "Current Affairs" office two years later because of "poor family and could not afford to study abroad with funds". Year "Cowherd and Weaver Girl".

Wang Guowei has a very good relationship with this Mrs. Mo. Although we can’t find any direct written evidence, we can still see from the tender and lingering words he left behind that this cowherd in a foreign land is very fond of Mrs. Mo. The ardent thoughts of the weaver girl at home: At the bottom of the cherry blossoms, meet each other in a bun.The silver jar has unlimited meaning, and it disappears into a deep sleep with clothes on. When Wang Guowei was teaching in Suzhou Normal University, he often "entertained himself with lyrics", and often expressed his wife's four sides in his lyrics, such as Sandie's "Xihe":

Since Wang Guowei left his hometown at the age of 22, he has traveled from east to west, from north to south, and rarely returned to Haining.The longest time I stayed at home was to "watch" for my late father - from August 1906 to April 1907, a total of eight months.At that time, the elders in his hometown had jointly invited him to serve as the director of the academic affairs of the Haining Prefecture Persuasion Institute, but he resolutely declined.Unexpectedly, only three months after he returned to Beijing, he got the news that his wife was critically ill, and hurried back. Ten days later, his wife passed away.

After his wife died, Wang Guowei wandered by the river, facing the ebb and flow of the tide, his heart felt empty, but his eyes were full of scenes of his wife dying, so he wrote "Poppy": Mrs. Mohs left behind three boys, the oldest was eight years old and the youngest was only three years old.Wang Guowei entrusted the children to his stepmother, Mrs. Ye Tai, and temporarily returned to the school where he worked, but he still couldn't cheer up. Wang Guowei wrote many condolences for his wife: Don't cry when you are in the middle of the year, the wax torch in the west window is still there.Ten years of unbearable dreams.

In the setting sun, thousands of mountains cry Du Yu, and if they are sent back to others, they will not be left to live in. On the lonely side, tell the traces of ten years. Tired leaning on the railing, embracing the bun low, plumping the cheeks and trimming the eyebrows, it's still the time of the year. Hu Shi once said that after reading Wang Guowei's poems, he thought he was a romantic and talented man at first, but after meeting him, he realized that was not the case.Most of Wang Guowei's poems are dirges from the heart. A few months later, Wang Guowei's stepmother Mrs. Ye Tai also passed away, and this time no one took care of her children.Relatives all advised him to remarry, but he himself could not make up his mind.In the end, his mother-in-law, Mrs. Mo Tai, made the decision to renew the marriage for him.

Wang Guowei's second wife, surnamed Pan, was a distant cousin of his ex-wife Mo Shi, and according to Wang Dongming, Wang Guowei's daughter, she was Mo Shi's cousin.This Mrs. Pan is like Su Dongpo's second wife. She has worked hard all her life, managed housework and raised children for her husband. She is a standard good wife and mother.In addition to the three sons born to his ex-wife, Pan later gave birth to three more sons and five daughters (two of whom died young).Wang Guowei didn't care about housework all his life, and everything in the family was handled by Pan's family.From Wang Guowei's letter to Luo Zhenyu, we can see that the Pan family is really a pillar in the Wang family.Once she had a toothache, which was terribly painful, but when the children had a fever one after another, her dental disease "healed quickly"!

When talking about the Wang family affairs, Luo Zhongan said, "When there is a dispute in the family, the husband does not influence Mrs. Pan, and people call him a 'golden man'." silent. Pan treats the three sons born to his ex-wife as if they were his own.When Wang Guowei committed suicide at the age of 50, his third son, Zhenming, was not yet old enough to marry. Later, Zhenming's marriage was also arranged by Pan.The second son, Gao Ming, once warned his wife: "My brother, he was brought up by his stepmother, and he took great pains. You must do your best to be a son-in-law, and you must not be slow!"

This unfortunate but strong woman supported a family with many children after her husband died. She lived nearly half a century longer than Wang Guowei. According to Chen Hongxiang's "Wang Guowei Biography": "Mrs. Died at Taipei Hospital."