Chapter 84 marriage

Mr. Qian Mu married three times in his life.Before that, Qian Mu had a fiancée.In Houzhai Town, ten miles away from Qian's house, there is a famous village doctor surnamed Shen, who admires the scholarly family Qian's family very much, and offered to betroth his daughter to Qian Mu.During the summer vacation of that year in Nanjing Zhongying Middle School, Qian Mu suddenly contracted typhoid fever. His condition was very critical, and his family was helpless.When Shen Weng heard that his son-in-law was seriously ill, he hurriedly said to other patients, "I must go to my son-in-law's house first."After many times of careful diagnosis and treatment, Qian Mu was pulled back from the death line.Unfortunately, however, the fiancée died early due to illness, and the marriage came to an end.

In the autumn of 1917, under the auspices of his elder brother Qian Shengyi, Qian Mu got married for the first time.After marriage, the couple lived in an old house on the east side of Sushutang. In 1928, Qian Mu suffered the biggest blow in his life. In summer and autumn, his original wife Zou and his newborn baby passed away one after another.His eldest brother, Mr. Qian Shengyi, rushed home to help with the funeral, but due to overwork and injury, he suffered a sudden illness and unfortunately died of illness.Within two months, there were three funerals in a row.The elder brother has the deepest relationship with him, and his name Mu was chosen by the elder brother.The eldest brother was only forty when he died, leaving behind his wife, two sons and two daughters.The eldest son was sixteen years old and followed Qian Mu in the first year of high school in Suzhou Middle School. He became the famous scientist Qian Weichang later.

The loss of three relatives in a row was an extremely serious blow to Qian Mu. In "Postscript of the Years of the Pre-Qin Philosophers", Qian Mu wrote: "A son dies, his wife dies, and a brother dies. Within a hundred days, weeping for the pain There are three things. The heart is broken, and there is almost no interest." After the death of his first wife, his friend Jin Songcen tried to help him everywhere.Jin Songcen used to be the first drafter of a book. He is highly respected and respected by everyone. He is Qian Mu's most admired senior and close friend. He has been a matchmaker for Qian Mu twice.It was his niece who was introduced to him for the first time, who was known as the school flower of Soochow University. The two had exchanged several letters.Jin Songcen recommended Qian Mu to one of his female disciples, and the female disciple wrote back: "Mr. Qian's zodiac sign is a sheep, and he is a tiger. A sheep is in the mouth of a tiger, so it is not suitable for marriage." I was very grateful, so when I got married for the second time, I still asked him to be the introducer, which was considered to have fulfilled his dream of a matchmaker.

In the spring of 1929, Qian Mu married Zhang Yiguan, and they had three sons and a daughter after marriage.Zhang Yiguan once worked as a principal in elementary school.In the second year after marriage, Qian Mu went to teach at Yanda University alone, and took his wife to Peking for reunion after his job at Peking University was stable.In an emergency in North China, Qian Mu moved south with Peking University alone. In the summer of 1939, when Qian Mu returned to Suzhou to serve his mother, Zhang Yiguan returned to Suzhou with his children from Peiping to reunite.A year later, Qian Mu returned to school alone, and has since traveled around the rear of the country.He is a well-known person who only cared about his studies and disregarded his family. He devoted himself to his studies and spent less time with his family.After Qian Mu left the mainland in 1949, his three sons and one daughter were all brought up by Zhang Yiguan.

After Qian Mu went to Hong Kong, his successor Zhang and all his children stayed in the mainland.Qian Mu lives alone without a partner, and his life is difficult.Because there is no one to take care of her and the lack of regularity in her life, she often suffers from stomach problems. On April 16, 1952, at the invitation of Zhu Jiahua, Qian Mu went to Taiwan to give a speech for the "United Nations Gathering". The views of Song history.At the end of the speech, while answering questions, a large cement block suddenly fell from the roof in front of the podium. The VIP audience in the first row, the host of the event, and Qian Mu were all affected. .When the accident happened, Qian Mu was hit on the head by a stone and fainted. He was almost buried alive by the falling rubble. They rescued him from the pile of stones and sent him to Taipei Central Hospital for emergency treatment. Fortunately, his life was not in danger.When Jiang Jingguo, Zhang Qun, He Yingqin and others heard the news, they rushed to visit immediately.Suffering serious injuries, unable to move and requiring treatment, Qian Mu could only go to Cunde Lane, Taichung to recuperate for April, and did not return to Hong Kong until August 1952.

The collapse of the lecture hall opened up another accident in Qian Mu's life. During his recuperation period, Hu Meiqi, a Xinya student who worked in the library of Taichung Teachers College, had a teacher-student relationship with Qian. She came to attend the library every afternoon after work and left after dinner. On Sundays, he accompanied him to the park for a walk, and accompanied Qian Mu to walk and travel around Taichung. He also assisted Qian Mu in collecting books and researching. Hu Meiqi came from a well-known family in Nanchang, Jiangxi. His father was Hu Jiafeng, the chairman of Jiangxi Province during the Nationalist Government. He and Qian Muben were old acquaintances.Hu Meiqi has special research on history and education, and later taught at the Cultural University, and her writing style is quite good. Qian Mu was unable to concentrate on writing due to eye disease in his later years, so Hu Meiqi edited and printed all of them for smooth publication.

Hu Meiqi once said that the relationship between the two is not romantic. Because she admires Qian Mu's personality and education, she is willing to commit herself to marry and take care of Qian Mu who is troubled by stomach problems from time to time. After graduating from Normal University in 1954, Hu Meiqi returned to Hong Kong, and the two met often.Once, Qian Mu's stomach disease recurred, and it could not be cured for a long time. In order to take care of her, Qian Mu proposed to her, and Hu Meiqi agreed. In the spring of 1956, 62-year-old Qian Mu and Hu Meiqi, who was 35 years younger than him, got married in Hong Kong. The two held a simple wedding at the Rehabilitation Club in Argyle Street, Kowloon. Only a dozen of colleagues and family members of New Asia were invited to attend the wedding.The wedding room was a two-bedroom apartment rented in a slum in Diamond Hill, Kowloon.Although the conditions were poor, Qian Mu was very happy and wrote a couplet himself: "The strong grass does not go away for the wind, and the phoenix comes to the eucalyptus."

After marriage, Qian Mu and Hu Meiqi still temporarily live in Diamond Hill, Kowloon. Although they are not rich, their life is full of fun. The couple must walk hand in hand every day. Qian Mu and Hu Meiqi got married and began to live a stable life.Hu Meiqi also took good care of Qian Mu's daily diet.The husband and wife are deeply affectionate, old and strong, which is amazing.Even the martial arts novelist Jin Yong specifically mentioned Qian Hu's "teacher-student relationship" in the epilogue of the latest revised edition, pointing out that their union was criticized by some Hong Kong literati at that time, but he witnessed the marriage of Qian Mu and his wife. After a happy life, I deeply admire them.

Hu Meiqi once recalled her married life with Qian Mu: Our house in Diamond Hill is only about 20 square meters, and there are nearly a hundred pots of flowers and plants, all over the window frame, cabinet, desk, coffee table, and balcony.He replaced part of the study activities with planting and viewing flowers.He always maintains an optimistic mood, which makes the family full of vigor.He likes to be close to nature. When we were in Hong Kong, we could watch the moon and the sea in two homes successively.When he is free, he likes to watch the sunset over the sea from the top of the Hong Kong mountain, watch the night scene, or roam the countryside in Kowloon.He feels infinitely meaningful about the change of cloudy, sunny, cold and warm throughout the year.He likes drinking afternoon tea and playing Go.But he doesn't like playing chess with others. He thinks it takes time and nerves, so he prefers to play chess.When I feel depressed, he often said, let me play a game of chess for you.Occasionally, the husband and wife talked to each other, and he said: "Only in this way, whether you win or lose, you don't need to hurt your spirits."

I love listening to his blowjob.During the days when we lived in Sha Tin, Kowloon, every moonlit night, I liked to turn off all the lights in the house and let the moonlight shine into our entire corridor. I sat cross-legged on the corridor and listened to his singing under the moonlight Blowing the flute, the surroundings are silent, only listening to the sound of the flute echoing in the air, it makes people feel relieved and feel at ease. ...After moving to Taiwan, all his teeth were pulled out, and he had no interest in playing the flute anymore after he had his dentures installed. Mr. Qian Mu wrote many works in his later years, including: "History of Chinese Thought", "Ten Essays on Life", "Zhu Zixin's Learning Case", "Shuangxi Duyu", "Song Dynasty Learning Three Books", "Late Learning in Blind Words" "Wait.The reason why Mr. Qian Mu still has so many achievements in his later years has a great relationship with this marriage.

He Zeheng, a disciple of Qian Mu, said: "Everyone who has been to Su Shulou recognizes Mrs. Qian's contribution to Master Bin. To be precise, without Mrs. Bin, there would be no old age for Master Bin." Qian Mu himself also expressed his gratitude to his wife in his letter to his young daughter Qian Hui: "I have been blind for several years, but I can still write manuscripts, and your stepmother will first copy them and correct them. She, I will not be able to write so many manuscripts in the past two years." After a serious illness at the age of 73, he accelerated his plan to write a book, and by 1971 it took seven years to complete the masterpiece "Zhu Zixin's Learning Case".This book is his masterpiece in his later years.After reading the book, Yang Liansheng, an international critic of Sinology, was full of admiration. He said that Qian Muzhi's history of Chinese academic thought is "broad and profound, and no one in the world can surpass him." Qian Mu was completely blind later, so his wife helped him look up old books and quote idioms.After the article was written, I asked my wife to read it and dictate corrections.This is how his last book, Learning Blind Words in the Late Period, was born.The last article written by Mr. Qian in his later years was dictated three months before his death and compiled by his wife’s records. This just confirms what Qian Mu said to Hu Meiqi when he was just married: “I don’t want her to be a woman who only knows how to manage housework. I hope she will be a confidant who understands him and understands him.”