Chapter 93 Marriage

Wen Yiduo's marriage was arranged by his parents.The mother of his mother and wife Gao Zhen (originally named Gao Xiaozhen) was a cousin sister, and Wen Yiduo called Gao Zhen's mother Ten Aunt. The Gao family is a rich family. Gao Zhenlie's father, Gao Chenglie, used to be the director of the Anhui Bengbu Ship Affairs Bureau and a judge of the Anhui High Court.Wen and Gao are from the same family, but Gao Zhen's mother was reluctant to marry off her beloved daughter at first. She said that her cousin was strict and she was afraid that her daughter would be wronged in the future.Gao Chenglie said to his wife: "I just love him! Mother-in-law, who cares? How long have you been with mother-in-law? In the future, you will spend a lot of time with your husband!" So the fifth uncle of Wen Yiduo and his wife was the matchmaker, and the two settled down. This aunt's cousin.Wen Yiduo was only nine years old at that time, and Gao Zhen was four years younger than him.

According to the old custom, a man and a woman who are engaged cannot see each other before marriage, but Wen Yiduo and Gao Zhen have met once.Gao Zhen once talked about this meeting with his daughter Wen Ming: "That day, I was playing around the table with some sisters in the main room of Jiujiu's house. Suddenly a boy came in. When my aunt saw it, she hurried over and pulled me away. Run. That child is your father! In the old society, girls were not allowed to meet their fiancé before passing through the door. I was only six or seven years old at the time, how could I know this?" After a while, Gao Zhen laughed again: " When we got married later, your dad joked with me: 'Why did you run away then?'"

Wen Yiduo yearns for free love and strongly opposes arranged marriages.On the eve of Wen's study abroad, Wen's father was worried that his son would change his mind after going abroad, so he insisted on marrying him before leaving.Wen Yiduo couldn't hold back his father, so he had no choice but to agree to the marriage, but he said that getting married was a "great sacrifice" for his parents, and he had to agree to three conditions: no ancestor worship;The Wen family made a compromise and said: "All three things can be agreed. If you don't worship the ancestors, we will do the sacrifices; kneeling is not necessary, but bow instead; we will make a fuss with the bride, but not too much."

On the day of the wedding, Wen Yiduo went into the study to read early in the morning, and his family asked him several times for a haircut, shower and change of clothes, but he actually asked him what he was doing for the haircut and change of clothes.The family members were afraid that he would read books again, so they asked him to entertain guests, but he sneaked into the study again.When the bridal sedan chair for welcoming the new couple entered the door and the newcomer got off the sedan chair, the family members were so angry and anxious that they found the study and found him out. During the honeymoon, Wen Yiduo was very indifferent to the bride, buried his head in the study every day, and wrote a thesis of more than 20,000 words "A Study of Rhythm Poetry".Soon, he returned to Tsinghua University, kept silent about his marriage, and just wrote poems desperately.

Frustrated, Wen Yiduo felt that "his newlywed wife in the country must be transformed", and he asked his parents to send his wife to study.After the honeymoon, Wen Yiduo wrote a letter to urge his wife to go to school, but Gao Zhen didn't reply a single word.Wen was very annoyed. In a letter to his younger brother Wen Jiasi, he called the family a "black cave" and said: "When I think about it, I can't help but gnash my teeth! I refuse to marry, force me to marry, and refuse to adopt a child." , forced me to adopt a son... Lin Hejing, a poet of the Song Dynasty, took plums as his wife and cranes as his son, and I will take poetry as my wife and paintings as my son... I know that the environment has driven me crazy; my life is over. I only write Just a crazy poet who is upside down! What else is there in the world? Live every day and count it!"

In January 1923, Wen Yiduo wrote to Liang Shiqiu after reading Guo Moruo's "Wei Young", saying: "Needless to say, you are happier than me, and even Moruo, who has Mrs. Anna, is happier than me. ... Oh! I really don't want to talk about women anymore! Shiqiu! I have to cry bitterly!... Shiqiu! The life of love is over, so there is no need to mention it. From now on, I just want to make up for it in terms of wisdom. I Said that I will spend my life in art in the future.... Now Yiduo has been exhausted and the pen is too dry to imagine." In 1926, Gao Zhen brought his eldest daughter Wen Liying to Peiping and lived with Wen Yiduo.In addition to undertaking housework, she reads Tang poems with her husband and amuses her daughter, which is a joy in life.The relationship between the two is also getting better.

When the Marco Polo Bridge Incident happened, Gao Zhenhao went back to his hometown to visit his relatives, and his family was separated.Wen Yiduo was extremely anxious, and he wrote letters to his wife on July 15, 16, and 17, pouring out his miss for her: "I am alone in the house, very quiet, I am thinking of you, my dear wife. I didn't know that I was such a useless person. Once you left, I felt as if I had lost my soul. I couldn't do anything. I scolded a student for not studying hard for love problems, and today I realized that I was the same. This I have been worrying about my country and my family for a few days, but the most unpleasant thing in my heart is that you are not by my side. My dear, I am not afraid of death, as long as we die together."

After Wen Yiduo went to Southwest Associated University, Gao Zhen took the children with his younger brother Wen Jiasi and his family from Wuhan to Kunming.After Wen Yiduo learned about it, he quickly wrote a letter and sent it to a friend in Guiyang, asking him to forward it to Gao Zhen. The letter said: "When I think of you these days, I feel terrified. Now I have finally left the dangerous zone. Be quiet. But when I think of you suffering on the road, my heart aches.... The past cannot be saved. From now on, I must serve you wholeheartedly and be your slave..." At that time, most of the professors of the United Nations University lived in the suburbs, and there were various means of transportation to the city: those who had a better economy took horse-drawn carriages; Zhou Peiyuan raised a horse and rode to school every time; Field; Chen Meng's family has an old bicycle; Wen Yiduo always walks in order to save money.He usually goes to the city to attend school two days a week, leaving in the morning of the first day and returning in the afternoon of the second day.Every day when her husband came back, Gao Zhen would clean up the house early, prepare meals, and go to the village with the children to wait for her husband.After a long time, as soon as the neighbors heard Gao Zhen calling the child, they imitated her voice and shouted: "Pick up Dad!"

In order to save money, Wen Yiduo switched to cigarettes and dry tobacco rolled from tobacco leaves.The dry smoke is too strong, it chokes the throat, and every time I smell it, I will cough continuously.Gao Zhen bought some young tobacco leaves, sprayed them with wine and sugar water, cut them into shredded tobacco, added a few drops of sesame oil, and patiently fried them on a warm fire to make a kind of shredded tobacco that is delicious in color and fragrant.Wen Yiduo was very satisfied and full of praise. Chang Mei happily introduced it to his friends: "This is cooked by my wife for me. It tastes really good!"

At that time, many meetings and activities of the Patriotic Democratic Movement in Kunming were initiated by Wen Yiduo, and many important documents were written or approved by him.At that time, there were no buses in Kunming, and there was no telephone at home, so I had to run errands to notify meetings or collect signatures for documents.Sometimes Wen Yiduo couldn't escape, so Gao Zhen would share the burden for him, going door-to-door to collect.