Chapter 51 my father mother

For a long time, I never thought that I would have brothers and sisters, let alone that my parents had experienced so many turbulent love and hatred. After Dad returned to Hong Kong from Australia, I found that he sometimes took some money from the company and sent it back to the mainland. He even went back in person, but he didn't say why, and I didn't bother to ask.I am a person who is not interested in gossip. One day I saw a letter in the company that said "Dear Father", and I wondered why I didn't write a letter to my father.I took the letter and asked my father: "Who is this? There are still photos in it, who are the people in the photos?" My father didn't answer me, but said vaguely: "Oh, why are you asking so many questions?" I don't think my father would like to Nevermind, I don't care anyway.In fact, there were still many people in Hong Kong who married several wives at that time. I think this is probably the case.

Later, I heard rumors that my surname is not Chen, but my surname should be Fang. I thought, "No way? How could that be?" Then I found a chance to ask my father this question, and he smiled and said, "Oh, you Why do you ask so many questions? I can’t finish talking about this matter with you for a day, so I’ll tell you slowly when I have a chance.” After hearing this, I felt very curious, what is it? Finally, one day, my father and I were driving on the road in Hong Kong, and he said, "Son, let me tell you something when I find time. I'm getting old, and I'm afraid that one day I will fall asleep and won't be able to wake up. Then you won’t know your background.” When I heard him say that, I thought it must be a complicated story.If that's the case, I'm going to take pictures of what he said and keep them forever.

It just so happened that I invited all the members of the Hong Kong Directors Guild to dinner. During the dinner, I was watching to see who could do this.It seems that Zhang Wanting is the most suitable one. I told her about it and asked her if she was interested in making this documentary. She was very excited when she heard it and readily agreed.So we agreed. The shooting process was not as smooth as I thought.Every day the film crew sets up the machine, lights up, and after making all the preparations, it depends on Dad's mood that day.He often said impatiently, "What are you recording?", turned around and left, and everyone had to wait there.Sometimes he suddenly said to me: "Oh, let me tell you..." At this time, I would immediately shoot him.Sometimes he stopped talking while talking, and I asked: "Dad, what else?" He became impatient and said: "Oh, don't disturb me fishing." The documentary was shot on and off for three years.This film was shot on film, think about how expensive it is!

My father was born in Shandong in 1915 and lived in Anhui and Jiangsu successively. He started learning Hongquan at the age of 16 until he was 19. At the age of 20, he started working as an orderly of the Kuomintang in Nanjing, and later worked in the Intelligence Department. Following the Japanese invasion of China, my father also returned to Anhui, where he married his first wife and gave birth to two sons, Fang Shide and Fang Shisheng. His wife died of cancer shortly thereafter.After the war of liberation began, his father was in an unsafe situation at that time because of his previous status. He had to reluctantly leave his two young sons and start a life of homelessness.The two older brothers lost their parents when they were 8 years old, which is very pitiful.They were hunted down once, but they were dismissed because their father could not be found.Until August 2013, when I finally returned to Anhui, I saw my two older brothers and many family members from my hometown, and I was very moved.

My mother was a posthumous woman, and my grandmother loved her very much and raised her as a son.Grandma ran a grocery store at that time, and her financial conditions were good.My mother's first husband was a shoe store owner. Unfortunately, he was injured by stray bullets and passed away during the Japanese invasion of China.At that time, her mother-in-law saw that her son was gone, so she wanted to sell my mother. My mother escaped from the house, and Dai Xiao began to run a single business to help her two daughters to study. After my mother left her hometown, she came to Shanghai alone, where she worked as a servant in a foreigner's house and taught herself English at the same time.At that time, my father, who was avoiding being tracked, also came to Shanghai to "fight the dock", that is, to guard a place as a thug.

The first encounter between the two of them was very interesting. At that time, my father was in charge of the investigation and caught my mother in the opium business. She should have been arrested, but seeing her as a woman wearing a filial piety and still doing such a business must not be easy. He secretly let her go.Later he learned that his mother was already well-known in Shanghai at that time, and she was known as the "Third Sister" in the venue, smoking and gambling was common. The two became more and more familiar with each other by chance. Once my father saw that my mother had a lot of pawn tickets, so he secretly took them away and redeemed them all.My mother never gambled after seeing him like this.After her life became more stable, her mother brought her two daughters to Shanghai.

In 1949, many Kuomintang troops withdrew to Taiwan one after another.Dad also changed his name from Fang Daolong to Chen Zhiping, and fled to Hong Kong with the brigade.Two years later, my mother smuggled from Macau to Hong Kong. At that time, the cabin was crowded with many people and the air was thin. Five people on the same boat died. My mother was about to pass out when she finally landed, but she survived tenaciously in the end.After coming to Hong Kong, my father was introduced by a friend to work at the foreign consulate on the top of the mountain.My father, who had never been in a kitchen and did not know how to do housework, began to work as a cleaner, a gardener, and began to learn to be a chef. Later, my mother also worked as a servant in the consul's house.

Two sons and daughters who had been displaced for many years in troubled times finally got married in Hong Kong and gave birth to me in 1954. Looking back now, the deepest impression my mother gave me since I was a child is frugality.I've seen her use Dad's torn underwear to mend other underwear, and when the underwear is rotten, she doesn't throw it away, she just washes it and puts it there.When the other one is rotten, she will use that one to mend this one, and she can mend many pieces.I see a lot of patches on the back of Dad's panties. When I was a teenager, my mother was still wearing the clothes she wore when I was a child.She saved up all the tips she got as a servant, with all her savings over the years.I remember when I was in Australia, she used to pull out a box and tell me there was a bracelet here and a few hundred dollars there.Suddenly one day, she asked me, son, can you give me 130 yuan?I asked why.She said, "If you give me 130 yuan, I can just make up 1,000 dollars." I watched her take out the box, which was full of 2 yuan, 5 yuan, and 10 yuan bills, which she had saved for 10 years Tip, about 870 yuan.I was very sad, so I gave her 10,000 US dollars in exchange for her 1,000 yuan.

On February 28, 2002, my mother passed away. On February 26, 2008, my father also left me.When they died, I couldn't be with them. In the final stage of my mother’s illness, my personal doctor told me, it’s too bad, the next step is to endure it for as long as it can last.I said in my mother's ear, I'm leaving, the movie hasn't finished shooting yet, and I'm still needed on set.I don't know if she can hear me, but I know she understands me.If I sat here every day, next to her, touching her hand, talking to her, so she could wake up, I would be here.But this is impossible.

At that time, I was filming "The Rebirth of the Dragon" in Thailand. When I was setting up a scene, someone said to me, "Brother, I have a call from home." I answered the call, and there was a servant there. Two sons and daughters who had been displaced for many years in troubled times finally got married in Hong Kong and gave birth to me in 1954. Looking back now, the deepest impression my mother gave me since I was a child is frugality.I've seen her use Dad's torn underwear to mend other underwear, and when the underwear is rotten, she doesn't throw it away, she just washes it and puts it there.When the other one is rotten, she will use that one to mend this one, and she can mend many pieces.I see a lot of patches on the back of Dad's panties.

When I was a teenager, my mother was still wearing the clothes she wore when I was a child.She saved up all the tips she got as a servant, with all her savings over the years.I remember when I was in Australia, she used to pull out a box and tell me there was a bracelet here and a few hundred dollars there.Suddenly one day, she asked me, son, can you give me 130 yuan?I asked why.She said, "If you give me 130 yuan, I can just make up 1,000 dollars." I watched her take out the box, which was full of 2 yuan, 5 yuan, and 10 yuan bills, which she had saved for 10 years Tip, about 870 yuan.I was very sad, so I gave her 10,000 US dollars in exchange for her 1,000 yuan. On February 28, 2002, my mother passed away. On February 26, 2008, my father also left me.When they died, I couldn't be with them. In the final stage of my mother’s illness, my personal doctor told me, it’s too bad, the next step is to endure it for as long as it can last.I said in my mother's ear, I'm leaving, the movie hasn't finished shooting yet, and I'm still needed on set.I don't know if she can hear me, but I know she understands me.If I sat here every day, next to her, touching her hand, talking to her, so she could wake up, I would be here.But this is impossible. At that time, I was filming "Dragon Rebirth" in Thailand. When I was setting up a scene, someone said to me, "Brother, there is a call from home", I answered the phone, and the other side said "Mom is gone".I put the phone back, turned around and said to everyone, "Put the camera over here, keep shooting."No one at the scene knew what happened. After filming that scene, I randomly grabbed a jeep on the set, opened the door, sat in it, and burst into tears.I cried for a long time in the car, and flew back to Australia the next day to arrange a funeral. Dad's last days were in Hong Kong.He was in the hospital at that time, and I went to see him every day, seeing his body getting weaker and weaker.When he was still able to talk, I half-jokingly said to him: "Dad, after you leave, I won't beg you." Dad said: "Okay, don't beg, it's useless." At that time The little house was sitting behind me, and I turned my head and said to him: "In the future, after I leave, you don't have to worship me. If you are really filial, do it now, and don't wait until people leave to worship me." Sometimes I also ask myself, should I be by their side every day in the last days, watching them, sending them away until the last minute, and finishing everything, is this called filial piety?In fact, I can say with a clear conscience that I am a very filial son.When my parents were alive, I was very kind to them, and I tried to accompany them as much as possible, so that they can enjoy all they can enjoy in their lifetime.Many people will say the old saying, "The son wants to support but the relative does not wait." Yes, it is to treat the elders well while they are there, and don't wait until they are lost to get that set of formalistic things, such as burning Paper money, will he really receive it if you burn it?That's all fake, it's just a kind of psychological comfort, or it's for others to see.Until now, I don't remember my parents' birthdays, because I treat every day as their birthdays. The stories of mom and dad are ordinary and extraordinary. I can imagine how many similar stories would happen in that era.I'm so lucky to be their son and know they've always been proud of me.