Chapter 33 Section 32

Wu Gang left angrily, making An Jie very embarrassed.Thinking back carefully, it seems that Wu Gang was wronged a bit.The matter of the scholarship was brought up by her, and she didn't pay attention to the date of the photo, but for some reason at that time, she felt that Wugang came to court her for the scholarship.Wu Gang showed his love to her today, and it would be enough to hurt his heart if she didn't accept it, and adding such a crime to him would definitely blow his lungs. Worst of all, he might think she didn't love him because of it, and he'd be determined not to take the money just to prove his innocence.If Wu Gang really doesn't want the scholarship from her brother-in-law, then he can only go back to China, so why bother?

She wanted to make a phone call to persuade Wu Gang, but she was afraid that he would mistakenly think that she was begging him and was anxious there when Mu Yahua came back.An Jie wanted to talk to Mu Yahua about Wugang, and asked Mu Yahua to persuade Wugang to go to D University to study, and not to lose his future in a fit of anger.But before she opened her mouth, Mu Yahua said: "It's unlucky today, I met that bastard Zhong Xin, I didn't expect him to go to that kind of occasion—" An Jie asked with concern: "What's the matter with him? Did he bother you?"

"He told me that the school's annual medical insurance plan is about to start. If I still want him to buy insurance for me and Xiaohua, I will move back honestly. Otherwise, he will not buy insurance for us. It's-" "What's the big deal if he doesn't buy insurance? Don't you know how to buy it yourself?" "Of course I would buy it myself, but the price is different. He bought it at the school, which is a GROUP plan. The school shared a large part of it. If I bought it myself, it would be much more expensive. I don't have much for myself. I can participate and use the school's The medical insurance plan for international students is not very expensive, but it is different for children, medical insurance plus dental insurance, a good plan costs a few hundred dollars a month—”

An Jie thought, a few hundred yuan?That's too expensive, Mu Yahua's monthly scholarship is only around 1,000 yuan, and an insurance cost a few hundred, so it's very tight. Mu Yahua said: "Do you think he is immoral or not? Even if he doesn't buy it for me, he should buy it for his own children, right? If he quietly buys insurance for me and Xiaohua, I say Maybe there will be a day when I change my mind. Now that he threatens me with this, I will definitely not be afraid of him——I will immediately go to court with him—” "Didn't you say that going to court is afraid that the judge will give him visitation rights?"

"Just visit him. After I graduate and move far away, let's see where he goes to visit—" "But Xiaohua can't see her father, isn't it sad?" Mu Yahua said impatiently: "What's so sad? You always think that divorce is not good for children. You never thought about it. A noisy family, a father who doesn't care about the children, and a man who is messing around outside Dad, what good influence does it have on the child? Over the years, Zhong Xin has seldom cared about Xiaohua, no matter whether it is life or study, he never asks, Xiaohua has his father as if he doesn't have a father—"

An Jie looked at Mu Yahua a little timidly, not knowing where he had pissed her off. Mu Yahua probably realized it too, and calmed down and said, "I'm sorry, I didn't lose my temper to you, but to those who used children to persuade me not to divorce. At church today, some Several people came to persuade me, saying that divorce is not good for children, so let’s make do with it. I really don’t know what is the basis for saying that divorce is not good for children. Do you think Xiaohua can’t live with her father? Are you unhappy?" An Jie muttered, "I don't think——, I think Xiaohua is doing well. Don't pay too much attention to what others say, as long as you feel good—"

"A father like Zhong Xin can be said to be less than successful and more than ruined. He doesn't care about the children himself, and he doesn't let you care. He always picks his nose and eyes in everything you do. Plus his mother, it can be said that he never Since I was pregnant, I have been picky. I gave birth late, and my blood pressure was relatively high in the middle of pregnancy. The doctor repeatedly told me to take more rest. But Zhong Xin’s mother’s old point of view said that pregnant women must move more and move their bones Only when I am loose can I have a baby, so I was forced to leave all day long, telling Zhong Xin not to buy vegetables, not to buy rice, but to let me buy it so that I could walk around, which made my blood pressure rise sharply in the end, and I was a few dozen ahead of schedule. I was admitted to the hospital in the next day—"

"Why is the mother so ignorant? You don't listen to the doctor?" "That's right. I didn't know how many troubles I had about this matter. When I gave birth, it was the same. I was determined not to let the caesarean section be born naturally. I was in pain for more than ten hours, and almost killed me. In the end, my mother followed me. They quarreled, and they agreed to let the doctor perform a caesarean section on me, otherwise, adults and children would lose it.” "Did you—did you faint from the pain? You—couldn't you ask the doctor to give you a Caesarean section?"

"A caesarean section requires the signature of the husband. If Zhong Xin does not sign, the hospital will not take the risk." Mu Yahua continued to complain, "After the child is born, it is the same fucking old way. The mother can't wash her face, brush her teeth and take a bath. The child You have to cover it, you can’t open the windows and doors at home, and men can’t wash diapers and empty the urine tank. There are countless rules and regulations. My mother raised a different opinion, and they quarreled with my mother. People were almost pissed off." "Did you—didn't think about getting a divorce then?"

"Why didn't I think about it? Others always talk about children and persuade me not to leave. At that time, I was also afraid of the pressure in the country, so I just dragged it down." Mu Yahua sighed, "Forget it, don't say it. By the way, saying this scares you little girls, and you are too scared to get married. But life is like this, no matter how good a relationship is, in the end, these family conflicts will wear down your feelings, let alone your original feelings. People with weak foundations." An Jie was really a little frightened, especially the part where she gave birth and signed the contract, it was as if her own fate didn't count, and it was completely controlled by her husband.

Seeing her stunned look, Mu Yahua smiled, and said: "Scared you? Actually, it's nothing. The main thing is to open your eyes wide and see people clearly before marriage. You must learn my lesson: don't just look at him How good it can be depends on how bad it can be. In the words of our old Kang, it is not only to look at BESTCASESCENARIO, but also to look at WORSTCASESCENARIO, to see what the LOWERBOUND of his life is. I used to be I only think about the former and forget to pay attention to the latter.” When An Jie heard Mu Yahua mention "Lao Kang", her thoughts jumped to DR. CANG: I don't know how bad he can be?WHAT IS HIS WORSTCASESCENARIO? Mu Yahua said: "I used to hear people say: Don't look at friends to me, only to look at friends to people. It's a pity that people like Zhong Xin still look good to friends, so at that time I thought it didn't matter whether they had friends or not." Love, being with him will never be so bad, even if he only treats me as a normal friend, it should be good, right?" "Is he mean to his friends?" "Let's put it this way, when there is no major conflict of interest, of course it's okay. When there is a real conflict of interest, it's not the case. So I said it's not just about how well he gets along with his friends. What kind of face does he have when he's not getting along with his friends, but what kind of face does he have when he doesn't get along with his friends—" "Family is better than friends, right?" "After two people have been together for too long, the love will gradually fade away, and eventually even hatred will emerge. If you meet someone who turns out to be bad, it's your fault." An Jie thinks, if love has to go this far, it seems that there is nothing attractive about it.But without love, she seems very lonely. Although she can't say that she has love now, she at least thinks that there will be love in the future, and she has hope and longing in her heart.If it reaches the point where Mu Yahua is, it can basically be said that he has given up on the future.She said: "I really don't know, if a person knows that he will never have love again in his life, how can he live?" She was afraid that Mu Yahua didn't understand what she meant, so she wanted to explain, but Mu Yahua said: "I was like you when I was your age. I felt that no matter when and where in this life, there must be a boy to love. I can only survive by myself. When I first had conflicts with Zhong Xin, it was also very painful. I always felt that it was my shame that he didn’t love me. Why can other women get the love of their husbands, why can’t I? But after these years, I gradually got used to it. To put it bluntly, which couple is not like this? The love has long passed, and the rest is just living, but some conflicts are less, and some conflicts are more." An Jie only cared about making Mu Yahua angry, but forgot to talk about Wugang with Mu Yahua.It was only when she was in bed in the middle of the night that she remembered this, but she comforted herself by saying that Wu Gang must have lost her temper for a while, so how could she really withdraw the scholarship?Not that stupid.As a result, early the next morning, my sister called and asked her if she had a conflict with Wu Gang. She stated: "Wu Gang and I are just ordinary friends, why don't you always believe it? You always talk about conflicts and conflicts, as if he and I are boyfriend and girlfriend." My sister said: "He sent an email to your brother-in-law, saying that he didn't want the RA's money. I think he also sent an email to the computer department, and CC gave your brother-in-law a copy. Sorry, he can't accept the RA position. I called him and asked him what's the matter, he seemed aggrieved, and said he didn't want you to misunderstand him—” An Jie was a little annoyed: "Why are you calling him? Maybe he thought our family was begging him to be that RA." "I'm not begging him, I just feel that there must be some reason why he suddenly changed his mind. I'm afraid there may be a misunderstanding among you, so ask clearly—" "Forget it, don't worry about it, I will talk to him clearly." She hung up the phone, called Wu Gang a little angrily, and asked him why he had withdrawn the RA from D University.Wu Gang said hoarsely: "It's nothing, I just don't want to be misunderstood by you—" "Just make it clear, why do you have to be so angry?" "I'm not angry. I want to stay in the United States so much because of——you, since you see me like this, why should I stay in the United States? I'm making fun of myself?" She was still very moved when she heard his confession like this. Of course, if this was said by DR. It's still feelings, she feels a little comfortable in her heart, and she is even more unwilling to bring Wugang back to China.She persuaded: "Now I know that you are not that kind of person, and you don't need to return the scholarship. How about this, I will call my brother-in-law and ask him to go to the department to talk about it, and I will say that you--will Be his RA?" Wu Gang was unwavering: "I will never do this RA. If you want me to stay in the United States, I will find another way. Even if my identity is blackmailed, I will stay in the United States—" These words scared An Jie again, she thought, how could it be that I would like you to stay in the United States?If I say "yes" now, don't you blame me for your poor life in the United States in the future?Or if you stay in the United States, but I don't want to be your girlfriend, don't you want to be fooled?She carefully explained: "I am just advising you as a general friend. It is up to you to decide where you go. Whether others want you to stay in the United States is irrelevant." "I know that you care about me as an ordinary friend. I won't be so affectionate as to think that you are reluctant to let me go back to China. I just want to clear my name, so that you don't think I'm doing it for Qian Cai—the one chasing you—” She blurted out, "Are you chasing me?" She heard Wu Gang say angrily: "It's fine if you don't feel it--I know I'm not qualified now, so I didn't think about telling you now, I'm going to say this after I'm ready to become famous-- " She didn't expect him to have such a grand plan, she was a little moved, and joked: "Then if you spend your whole life without being famous, why don't you settle down?" "Then I'll keep it in my heart for the rest of my life—" Wu Gang seemed to be a little relieved because he finally said the words "would" in his heart, and said boldly, "Don't measure me to death, maybe I One day you will be successful and famous, I am afraid that you will already have a famous flower at that time—but I am not afraid of having a famous flower, I will compete with him based on my strength—” These few words are quite pleasant, she likes someone to rob me for her, she chatted with Wu Gang on the phone for half an hour without knowing it, and couldn't remember what she said afterwards Just like chirping and quacking, she seems to be holding a fish to tease the kitten, she lowers the fish for a while so that the kitten can jump up and grab it, and then raises her hand so that the kitten can't reach it.Just teasing and teasing like this, Wu Gang expressed his feelings bit by bit, she would dodge and instigate for a while, and finally even felt that it was too dangerous for herself, so she hung up the phone hastily. Then she called her sister, told Wu Gang what she meant, and also told her sister about Wu Gang's pursuit of her.My sister smiled and said, "You are just friends, why are you still so happy when others say they are chasing you?" She was a little embarrassed: "It's always fun to be chased by someone." My sister said: "Actually, I think this Wugang is pretty good. He pursues him very sincerely, and he is quite smart. You have to send others back to China to be happy—" "Where did I send him back to China? He said that as long as I want him to stay in the United States, he is willing to blackmail his identity." "What good does it do you if he blackmails his identity?" "It's no good, but it proves that he—loves me—" My sister laughed loudly: "After all, it's a little girl who thinks about problems so illusory and unrealistic. She shoots herself in the foot. If you don't love him, it would be too cruel for you to send him back to China like this; if you still Those who love him, when he returns to the country, it's up to you to enjoy the separation of the two places—" She said uncertainly: "How do you know if you love someone or not? At first I thought I didn't love him, but when he said he liked me, I was very happy. Who knows, maybe I I love him? Otherwise, why don't I want to drive him away with a word? " "Do you want to know if you love him or not? Let me tell you a few things, you can check them one by one, and if you match any one, you love him: 1. If you are not with him, you will feel bad; and once you are with him Together, you become interested in the most simple and ordinary things, then you are in love with him." She thought for a moment and said, "NO." "2. If your reason tells you that you shouldn't be with him, but you still want to be with him in your heart, then you are in love with him." "NO." "3. If for him, you are willing to give up what you are least willing to give up, and if you are willing to do things you are not willing to do, then you are in love with him." She laughed: "Forget it, I definitely don't love him, and nothing you said is right." My sister said: "Wait a minute, there is one more thing: You know you don't love him, but you still want to tie him by your side and let him love you, then you are—" "Fall in love with him?" "NO, then you are a vain girl, you are playing with fire, and you will get into trouble sooner or later."