Chapter 15 when you hesitate

If you're the type of person who expects everything to be perfect, if you're careful not to be the first to open up, then you'll probably never be happy with anyone.The secret to success when you're dealing with someone who is indecisive is this: You have to give the relationship a chance to develop, open up, and be genuine until you clearly "know" if he/she is a good partner until.At this time, if you find that this person is the right candidate, then congratulations, you can get engaged first!If not, then you should propose a breakup resolutely and resolutely. After the breakup, remember not to stay in the memory all the time, and don't look back on the emotional history of the past year.Now let's look at a real example.

Richard is forty-seven years old today, and he is still unmarried.But his dating experience is definitely rich.He has seen countless women.He was attractive in person—successful, handsome, and most of all, he wanted to get married.Among his many love songs, he also encountered some special movements. Some women really left him with indelible memories, but he still couldn't settle down, and always felt that there was still something missing.Here's how he described these special women: Sarah is absolutely wonderful.She was bubbly and charismatic, which I didn't have.How I love the wonderful feeling of being with her!At one point we were both about to get married, but for whatever reason, neither of us wanted to go on, so the relationship died down.

Carlo loved me with all his heart.No matter what I do, she always loves me deeply and is always there for me.She wanted to be with me and we had a lot of good times together.She is indeed excellent, she has paid a lot for me, I really can't ask her anything more, of course, she is not as lively and charming as Sarah. Mary is the most beautiful woman I have ever seen.She is intelligent and successful in her career.I take her with me to attend public occasions, and she always attracts everyone's attention, which makes me feel very honored.I thought about marrying her, but she wasn't as nice as Carlo was to me.Carlo loved everything about me, my strengths and weaknesses.When I was with Mary, I felt I had to accommodate her in everything, to do everything her way.I love the feeling of being of service to her, of giving for her, but I don't think I'll be happy if I live my whole life with that feeling.

Richard could go on talking for hours, making comments and comparisons of the women he met.In short, he expected the emergence of such a perfect goddess who combined the best qualities of all women into one body.The more women he hangs out with, the more he expects better qualities from his soul mate.Because of the pursuit of perfection, Richard is always in constant comparison.He wants everything he can get.