Chapter 10 open up

In the early days of dating, your hearts are not fully opened to each other, and you rely on whether you are attracted to each other and whether you are interested in each other to find the right person.Mutual attraction and interest in each other can only lead us into a relationship that satisfies our emotional needs.Once in this relationship, our emotional needs collide with each other and generate a spark of love, then our hearts begin to open up to each other, and we experience true love and intimacy like never before.Gradually walk into each other's life with sincere love, and get to know each other further, but we find it increasingly difficult to be sure whether he/she is the heart-to-heart partner carefully arranged for us by God.

Although at this moment, we feel the deep love from the heart, but this person may not be the only one for us.Even if your love has grown deeper and lasted for a long time, it doesn't mean that this person is your perfect match.Once people mistakenly think that they must marry someone if they are sure they are in love with someone, they will never be able to open their hearts to experience the love that is treasured in each other's hearts. This is because they have not confirmed this person before marriage. The person they want to spend their lives with. These two Catch-22s in relationships have always plagued men.The men are also caught in a dilemma because of this.At this moment, a man can clearly feel that a woman is always trying to find out if he really loves her.However, he didn't think so.His concern is that once she understands his love for her, she will look forward to the day he proposes to her and hurt her deeply if he doesn't.Of course, in romantic movies, loving someone means you want to marry her, however, in real life, this is not the case.

marriage is a choice Marriage is a choice, but unlike other choices, marriage is much more serious.You can't just marry someone you love and get married in a hurry.On the contrary, you must first discover the love for each other, and through communication, you will gradually have the ability to make the right choice.As we continue to explore and experience the emotional world, we will feel deeply in love with a person, however, this does not necessarily mean that he/she is your only one.The experience of true love connects us to our soul.It is this connection that allows us to understand what is longing for in the depths of our souls?

Choosing a partner who likes you is not as simple as "making a rational decision after weighing the pros and cons of a relationship"; it is also not an emotional decision to repeatedly compare "who is more satisfied with you"; look better" external decision.Choosing a soul mate is a deeper decision.When you truly combine with your like-minded partner, it is like fulfilling a predestined agreement in a previous life.You will feel: It seems that the two of you are destined to come together and share your whole life! When you combine with someone who is in the same mood as you, it is like fulfilling a predestined agreement in a previous life

When we genuinely want to marry our soul mate, it can feel as if we have no other choice.If we are honest with ourselves, we must.Marriage is a commitment to a lifetime of love.Marriage empowers us to make the sacrifices necessary to overcome the inevitable challenges that marriage presents.Of course, marriage also gives us experience unparalleled joy and satisfaction. Many people mistakenly think that marriage is the only way to love what I love.In fact, only when your hearts are open to each other, only when your hearts are filled with love, can you truly understand each other and know exactly what you really think deep in your heart.Only when your heart is open can you find your true love, and only when your heart is open can you know for sure that someone is not right for you.

Only with this clear understanding can you feel comfortable ending a relationship without guilt or anger.Only then will you not feel betrayed by your lover's rejection.Instead, you will replace it with the right awareness: "Yes, I believe you love me. But we are not right for each other. I am not the only one for you. Yes, I am disappointed and hurt. But I forgive you and I wish you happiness from the bottom of my heart. You don’t have to worry about me, I can finally find my true love now.” That might be a little vague, so let’s look at an example.