Chapter 4 love fades

An important reason for couples to break up is that two people stay together for too long, the relationship gradually fades, and finally dies without a problem.Neither of them realized that the other was not the right person, but they kept trying.The relationship between the two is neither salty nor weak. In order to enhance each other's goodwill, they have to find ways to maintain this relationship.They tried to transform each other, but they couldn't force it, so they had to change themselves.Unexpectedly, the more you want to improve the relationship, the worse the situation will become.In fact, they don't understand that although this person is close to the one you like, he/she is not your true love. It is unrealistic to try to transform him/her into your true love.In addition to being disappointed, it will inevitably increase their sense of frustration.Although their original intention was to improve and sublimate their relationship, it turned out to be the opposite, and they brought out the worst sides of themselves to each other.

This is why many couples become good friends after breaking up.When they are together, in order to achieve the purpose of marriage, both of them try to change their natures to cater to each other. This way of suppressing their natures will inevitably lead to deeper misunderstandings and contradictions between the two, so they quarrel and fight all day long.However, after the breakup, the two finally gave up the unsuitable relationship that they had worked so hard to maintain before. If you're desperately trying to drive a square stake into a round hole, no matter how hard you try, it's impossible to drive the stake in.In the same way, if you are really not suitable for each other, then no matter how you transform each other, you cannot make a pair by force.No matter how much you give and make changes, it won't help.In a word, when this happens, you must admit the gap between the two, give up bravely, and move on to a new journey.

Bill and Susan have been dating for three years.In the first two years, Bill wasn't sure if he really wanted to be with Susan, but Susan was very persistent, and she kept giving to make Bill believe that the two of them could have a good relationship.Over time, both of them burn out, and bad things happen.Susan is always suspicious, worrying that Bill will empathize with other women all day long.Despite the fact that Bill is loyal, Susan is not at ease and keeps pestering him.Call him at work and ask "what are you doing?".Ask him "Where are you going?" after get off work, and keep asking "What do you think of me?" when we are together.At this time, Susan has become quite closed and unconfident.Finally Bill couldn't take it anymore, he felt as if he was bound by this woman.As a result, he lost his temper at every turn, and became more and more indifferent to Susan.They would quarrel violently over trivial matters all day long, and this happened again and again, and finally, they both felt exhausted physically and mentally, thinking that the other party had failed their sincerity, so the two broke up painfully .

In the three years that Bill and Susan got along, the two did not show each other the best side, on the contrary, they exposed each other's worst side.All the while, they were arguing and bickering.Of course, they do lack good communication and communication skills, but that's not the problem.Here's the crux: Even the best communication won't save their relationship.Because the two of them are not suitable.At this time, another serious problem loomed in front of them: neither of them knew how to end this relationship.