Chapter 8 art of connecting with people

The art of dealing with people depends on personal skill (which requires long-term training), just like attending a banquet. If there is a hungry person sitting at the banquet, any food is a treat for him. Delicious, (as the devil Mephistopheles said: "The worst society ever experienced.") But after all few people are hungry like that!well!See how hard our companions digest! There are several principles in dealing with people: The first principle is: we must have the courage to grasp everything boldly like when we encounter misfortune, and at the same time, we must be able to appreciate ourselves, and we must be able to put all the things we hate in our mouths and swallow them hard.

The second principle: "improve" the other party.For example, you can use your compliments to make him narcissistic; or you can grasp some of his advantages or "interesting" qualities and gradually dig out all his virtues. The third principle: it is self-hypnosis.When interacting with people, keep your eyes fixed on them, like a doorknob, until your sense of pleasure or threat wears off.Then he fell asleep unknowingly, turning a deaf ear to everything, motionless.This is a family prescription, which is most suitable for couples or relatives; the result of many experiments is considered to be an absolutely effective magic weapon, but it has not been scientifically sorted out and formulated.Nietzsche once gave it a most suitable name - that is patience.

Everyone in the world needs to interact with people. The correct way is to dress up first, so as to win the favor and respect of others, so as to gain a foothold in society: that is, we blend in with a group of people who pretend to be themselves, and those who carefully make up Like the prom guests, we dispel any curiosity that isn't just about our "dress." Of course, you can also use other means or methods to get close to people.It's like a ghost, if you want to scare others away, it's really easy.It's like a person who catches that ghost but can't hold it tight, it will definitely scare him.Ghosts can pass through locked doors, or appear after lights have been extinguished, or appear after death, which is a posthumous trick played by the best of the best.