Chapter 114 Volume Four 06 The Bridge of Dongxizhuang.2

Grandma, for this, we admire you What you could do 30 years ago, we can't do it 30 years from now ... The grandmother delivered the meat to the old lady Liubao's house smoothly. When the old lady Liubao sent her out of the house again, the two sat down on the splendid bridge of Dongxizhuang.At this time, Liu Bao, who was wearing an old man's cap, also said: "A piece of meat, my aunt still thinks about me." But Liubao Laojin, do you know that because of this piece of meat, we have paid a huge price for being played and deceived.Our young minds have been trampled upon viciously by conspiracy - only when this great wound is excluded from our memory 30 years later - just as we have excluded the sweet potato in 1968 from 1969 - Only when we can calm down and continue to describe your historic meeting──and only when we are calm can we compare with that splendid moment, we care about the reason for this moment──a small piece of Fagen's cooked meat—what a fuss again.Even, for the sake of this pretext, for this one-third piece of gen meat, we let our grandma spend so much effort to weave a conspiracy for us, we are all a little ashamed.This is the lack of historical vision and historical insight.Grandmother, Liubao old concubine, forgive those foolish and ignorant children 30 years ago.Please bless them with your spirit in heaven.Just like "friends come from afar", the meat is not important, it is your historic meeting that makes you stand out from the crowd.Meat doesn't play a big role in your conversations, you quickly move away from meat and talk about other aspects -- and, it's not your intention to avoid meat -- if that's the case, it's an underestimate of your quality and mutual friendship Yes, just like two people competing to pay the bill after eating in a restaurant, one rushed to pay the bill, and the other rushed to add a sentence:

"Next time, let me pay next time!" That's boring.This is a kind of avoidance among friends. ──But my grandma and Liubao old lady are not like this, but pay the bill naturally──Watching one person reach into the pocket for money, the other person doesn’t even need to say a word──Mutual understanding, mutual understanding, step by step Just step over the bill and the meat, and then start another peaceful heart-to-heart chat of their ramblings.Of course, it seems to be talking nonsense, but in fact, every sentence hits the point; after a conversation, it seems that nothing is discussed, but the world has opened up in all directions and channels in front of them.Although they are two rural women—who can't even read big characters—they understand the general idea; ──These two great and rare ordinary Chinese elderly rural women wearing oversized trousers, because of time and geographical barriers, have not talked and docked together for a long time, and now because of an unimportant reason, I finally sat down on the bridge of Dongxizhuang——I remember that the weather was so satisfactory that day, no wind, no fire, no clouds, and the sun in early spring shone warmly on my body.Originally the world was blocked, but now because of an ordinary chat, everything is unblocked──The glaciers thawed, the sun came out, all things recovered, and life started again in front of us with a new look──warm The scorching sun also left a thick layer of beads of sweat on the tip of the noses of my grandma and old concubine Liubao.

This is the first cheerful and serene sweat that appeared in our village in 1969.At this time, era and time are no longer important. Whether you are in 1069 or 1996, whether you are in a war-torn era or a peaceful era, in this dense layer exudes two kind old ladies. In front of the unique warm sweat mixed with vanilla and stove fragrance, you ─ ─ already seem insignificant. What is the eternity of time?this is the eternity of time Although life is full of unsatisfactory things, but when we know that there is still this moment in the world, we can use one as ten we stand in the minority Of course, all of this and this moment can be met but not sought after.Who can bring time, weather, opportunity, and reason—meat—all together?In this sense, although we were a little ignorant and aggrieved 30 years ago, we are generally still promoting this matter—we did not stubbornly obstruct Gen Rou in the face of conspiracy—this is 30 years ago. Years later we still have the only consolation that can be saved

... The external environment and your inner hearts seem to be so unified The blush of the setting sun hits your kind and kind faces what are you talking about calmly and completely relaxed You will smile knowingly and even correct each other at every turn ──Grandmother and dear old concubine Liu Bao, although we are so yearning for all these gatherings, we also know: There may be times, but not every day What hangs over our heads is still more cloudy A moment of warmth and joy, but a temporary reprieve from the clouds Because of this, it can only be a moment in the world ──Whenever we know this, we cherish that moment very much

This is the fundamental reason why I wrote this chapter It is also because of this, dear grandma and Liubao old concubine, would you please stay on the bridge of Dongxizhuang for a while longer? Thirty years later, when we came to this bridge again, everything on the bridge was changed.Because without you on the bridge, the bridge immediately loses its meaning and becomes a dead bridge.At this time, no matter how much we yearn for and miss you, we can't help but want to say a simple word to you.So let us take this opportunity to go back to 30 years ago, let us greet again: Hello, grandma.

Hello, Mrs. Liubao. 1969 was the most glorious year in the world of my hometown—because it was reflected by your sweat on the bridge of Dongxizhuang ... Then the remaining question is: what kind of peaceful and intimate conversation did my grandmother and Liubao old concubine have on the bridge back then?Although it is rambling, it seems that nothing has been said──but because it didn’t say anything, it said everything, and this loose and relaxed content is what we are particularly concerned about──because you are not in the world. What a blessing—because it is still different to say and not to say—because 30 years later this talk no longer exists—just because it does not exist, how wishful thinking and guessing we will be 30 years later ──According to my guess about my grandma and old concubine Liubao, this warm and relaxing historical conversation will generally be:

First of all, it will not be an intense topic, nor will it be a topic that is too current.They will spread out and throw the hook back to decades ago──This kind of beginning has the courage of history. ──Maybe it will be rambling to the time when you were carrying long-term labor and driving cars for your boss?Grandmother is harvesting wheat for the owner—the fragrance of golden wheat spreads all over the land—until now, how much I still like another old song from 1969. One of the lyrics is: The good news of the harvest spreads everywhere ... My grandfather, who was also a man in his 40s at the time, was driving the car for the owner; the Liubao old lady, who was also a young woman in her 30s at the time, was cooking for the long-term workers.At that time, everyone was full of spring breeze, everyone was full of energy, and everyone had great strength—who would have thought that youth was just a drama, and everyone would grow old and disappear in a blink of an eye?Old lady Liu Bao said in a deep way:

"At that time, my aunt, the three-mile-long wheat trotter, never cut her head and never straightened her waist." ──This is also a great legacy left to us by my grandma. Whenever you encounter anything or wheat, you must lower your head and cut silently, and don’t straighten your waist; No one will cut it for you, it will only increase your inertia and disappointment.You can think of other things when you are harvesting the wheat --- you can exclude the wheat; when you are doing boring and repetitive labor, the wheat just leaves and makes room for your thoughts and emotions --- The longer the wheat trip, the bigger the world is left for you, isn't it? ──drops of sweat dripped down on your front, and finally your sweat poured like a ladle──Sweat poured like a ladle, and it was also a colloquial phrase that my grandma loved to say during her lifetime──At this time, from a distance, we You can only see your arched waist, and the wheat has flooded the rest of your body──Is this why you have a hunchback in your later years? ──However, grandma and old concubine Liubao, when you are looking forward to the youth of the past, we are betraying your physical movements 30 years later──What we often do is to see that you will never cut your hair under the scorching sun. At the end of the wheat trip, although we also heard the singing of "the good news of the harvest is spread everywhere", but for the sake of our own temporary peace and security, we would scold there regardless of the overall situation:

"Damn it, when will the wheat be harvested?" "Why does this wheat tree grow so thick?" even: "Damn it, why does the wheat harvest need to be plentiful?" ... This is the difference between us and grandma facing wheat and the world.I'm afraid this is also the reason why my grandma would play tricks and conspiracies with us there because of the meeting on the bridge.So I thought again, was my grandma a little lonely when she was with us back then? ──At the same time, what were you thinking in your heart when you harvested silently in the three-mile-long wheat field?How can you keep immersing yourself in your sweat and creation like no one else?Does your action of not straightening your waist for three miles also imply a strong condemnation of your friends? ──Although when you look back on those years, everything has become a passing memory; just like a general with outstanding military achievements recalling the battlefield of those years──Although the form is the same as that of a general, the content is still different.For the fallen general will murmur there:

"Everything is fleeting." ... The fundamental difference between my grandma and him is: She is a former laborer So her answer was different from that of the generals of the past──According to Chairman Mao's words: The noble are the stupidest, the humble the wisest Although this sentence has the characteristics of class theory, the truth of the world is: there are noble people who are stupid and smart, and humble people who are smart and stupid; it is closer to the core and essence of things than this: the same noble Or a lowly person, they are also smart and foolish at times──It is more likely that he may be smart for a while and foolish all the time.But if I put Chairman Mao's thesis on my grandma—please God forgive me—it would be extraordinarily correct and appropriate.Faced with the three-mile-long Mai Quzi, her answer after many years is that she is smarter, smarter, more broad-minded and forward-looking than the general many years later, and she is more in line with the peaceful, warm, splendid and brilliant atmosphere on the Dongxizhuang Bridge at that time. ──Even she didn’t complain about the current small four-wheeled tractor like my father who suffered from Alzheimer’s disease because of the “Dongfanghong” tractor back then──she didn’t say emotionally there:

"Everything is just a passing cloud." "The current small four wheels are not as powerful as the "Dongfanghong" in the past. " When she heard Mrs. Liu Bao's praise and exclamation about her past youth, she just smiled there and wiped it away like the reason for the meeting—big meat.Then he said softly—suddenly, as if shyness and blush appeared on his face when he returned to the time of a little girl—: "It's all in the past, so what's the point of mentioning it?" What a smart answer.Because the question of retaining the old concubine has already made the scene very embarrassing - when someone praises you for your youth, you are already gray-haired; it is as if someone praises you for having many suitors when you were young, and you have become a grumpy old man. Mrs. same. ──In a sense, we can even doubt the motives of the praisers. You made this scene a little scary──But for the challenge of Liubao, my grandma still has a plan in mind, she still talks and laughs freely, and she still has her own soldiers in her chest Millions, just like the general commanding a great battle back then, faced with complex and unpredictable situations, he resolutely issued an order: action At this time, it was raining heavily like a ladle.The Army, Air Force and Navy are all struggling in the mud.But do you understand this truth: When you are inconvenient, is the enemy convenient?So my grandma started to act──and she didn't use the three armies, she just used a seemingly plain refusal to break the horror and deadlock── Only after writing this did I realize that the brilliance and brilliance on the bridge is not just a kind of peace, but the peace is also full of dark clouds and swords and swords. ──Besides, after the refusal, my grandmother did not stop here with the answer, and then came back to fight back, and from the perspective of "history", she found a factual basis that is more historical than this past── He smiled again and said: "I'm used to it. When I was a little girl, I climbed eight big elm trees at the age of seven, and picked elm money for my mother to cook." Grandma, when you held Chairman Mao's class theory in one hand and your childhood in the other, you were invincible.Your answer is just right, and your answer has a lot of history.Your answer left your questioner speechless.If it is a drama, the line you answered will definitely attract a storm of applause.At this time, a beam of warm chasing light hits your body.The audience has to cheer again for you to come to the curtain call. ──But this is just the beginning. ──The conversation between my grandma and old concubine Liubao has only just begun.It was just unintentional, and suddenly hit the jackpot—you are the only ones applauding and cheering, but our old concubine did not start cheering—she has already made such a smart answer to an old friend. As expected, she smiled knowingly—you are her good friend—you are equal opponents. ──For this, 30 years later we still have to say: This kind of seemingly dull and wonderful dialogue is indeed rare in the world The conversations, negotiations, and conversations of the most talked-about politicians in the world are just the stupidest, while the conversations of two ordinary old women in crotch panties sitting on the East-West bridge are the strength that sustains our language ... After one round, they were evenly matched.Then it's up to my grandma to say something back to her good friend for keeping her old concubine. ──My grandma is smart because she is smart. She continued to be magnanimous and wise, and she didn't create any problems for Liubao. Instead, she continued to move forward according to her friend's thinking, and dialed her own channel on the friend's channel ──What is the greatest respect in the world? This is the greatest respect in the world; what is the way to be a friend?This is the way to be a friend; what is the greatest wisdom and the greatest hidden in the world—that is: use your own lack of thinking to drown your own thoughts, and use your own kindness to hide your own views—then After the answers from Maizi and Yuqian passed, my grandma followed this line of thought and began to mention and transition to the noodles and rolling pins of the old concubine Liubao—this is also the proud work of the old concubine Liubao.It also uses a kind of cracking method and Pi Li Yang Qiu. ──Of course, this sounds like a compliment to each other by borrowing history.You have just complimented my wheat, and I will compliment your rolling pin next. ──However, if you really think so, you have been fooled by my grandma and old concubine Liubao. ──It seems to be a compliment, but it is not a compliment; the form is the same, but the content is different.For the conversation between grandma and old concubine Liubao, they are just an attractive piece of cooked meat—just a pretext and a form for the conversation. ──At the same time, what two people in the world don't start with mutual compliments and flattery if you want to get a happy ending? ──If they did, there would be no disgrace to the meeting of two ordinary Chinese rural old ladies. But they just didn't do it──Although the opening is the same, like the first move of a great chess player looks like There are also some vulgar ones, but the first hand is the same, the second hand is the same and the third hand is the same. After ten steps, a different pattern appears-at this time we are confused by the vulgarity and the sameness of his opening. ──There is a big difference between the mutual compliments between grandma and Liubao old concubine and the general vulgar mutual compliments, and they have their own special features. The main difference between the mutual compliments and flattery between the grandma and Liubao old concubine and the general mutual flattery is that the general flattery is all about the content, and they are very particular about the content. Up to the point, flattery doesn't necessarily bring freshness to flattery. If compliments and flattery are nothing but leftovers, how can the person being flattered and flattered get excited? ──You may not be able to flatter the horse when you shoot the horse, maybe it will hit the horse's hoof in one shot──If you can't shoot me the idea, you can't flatter the ass, but you can shoot the horse's hoof, why should I give it to you? What about shooting ideas and flattering?If you don't make me comfortable, I won't make you comfortable either. I'd like to retaliate with an eye for an eye and treat him in the same way; so when he compliments me back, I deliberately don't flatter or itch Scratch everywhere, deliberately pat your sore spots──It looks like a compliment, but the effect is to make you sick and make you dumbfounded; The tone of the banquet──was also used in Cunfa and Piliyangqiu, but in the end everyone couldn't be happy.Don't think that if you start with mutual compliments and flattery, you will have a happy ending—it's quite the opposite: two people start with mutual flattery, and in the end they often end up breaking up and turning against each other.The touting ended, and both of them were full of complaints.Both of them felt that this meeting was so boring and a waste of their emotions, intelligence and fighting experience. In the end, it was a lose-lose for both. When they were saying goodbye, the two of them pretended to be affectionate and continued to act there—one grabbed the other's hand and said, "It's a pleasure being with you!" Another said excitedly, "I hope to see you sooner next time!" ……Grandmother and old concubine Liu Bao compliment each other but they are different from them; the difference is not only that the end of the flattery will be happy, but also that: All these people who have turned against each other in the ending are those who pay special attention to the mutual compliments and flattery between them-some people who take lies seriously, so they go straight to the content; What they are flattering and complimenting is no longer important and indifferent. The mutual flattering and complimenting between them is just a pretext to attract the atmosphere of the conversation-there is a phoenix coming, it is the morning omen, and the evening lights are blooming. This is also one of the reasons why they have to ramble about when they talk-what is said is unimportant, but what is kept in the heart determines the direction of the conversation. So they come out not only from the form, but also from the content. The content is no longer important to them. So the attachments and pretexts, flattery and flattery are extremely easy-it doesn't matter what you flatter, the important thing is that you flatter there.Their only concerns at the beginning were: Let us not be too divorced from the masses. Or to a vulgar opening bar. Let's start with your reaping. Let's start with your rolling pin. Is it important to say what? What matters is an emotional flow that floats and overlays the saying. There is content on top of content. There is also floating above floating. There are white clouds in the blue sky. What matters is the white clouds, not the blue sky. What matters is the extension, not the base. What matters is what is not said and not what is said. ... So they complimented each other and flattered each other, saying that after wheat and elm money, it was only natural for the grandmother to transition to noodles and rolling pins.All the shackles of the world have been released in front of you; you can say whatever you want, and you can get what you want—therefore, dear grandma and old concubine Liubao, you leave us and continue on without any hesitation. Say your own.Although when we agreed with you, when we tried to repeat and trace the shining wings of your great talk, in fact, we have betrayed you again──At this time, we began to pay attention to the content of your talk and pursue Wheat and a rolling pin.We still haven't come out from the content. ──However, maybe only in this way can we better reflect your atmosphere, white clouds, extension and non-speaking──A person who values ​​what you say can only be closer to what you don’t say and what you don’t pay attention to if you value the content truthfully Actually.We hold on to the wheat, the noodles, and the rolling pin, and you will lose the wheat, the noodles, and the rolling pin. ──So we said that the fragrance of wheat in June and the good news of the harvest all exude an invincible charm on the youthful grandma and Liubaocai old lady.In Changgong's lower courtyard, there is a spacious and clean kitchen, where Liu Bao old concubine burns a fire.The smoke rises out of the chimney, and its fragrance can be seen and smelled in the fields ten miles away.On the three-foot-long case, the old concubine Liu Bao was there swinging and slapping a large piece of dough as wide as a yard; the rolling pin hit the chopping board, and the knife rose and fell on the folded dough pieces like the Great Wall, and then pulled out. A continuous stream of noodles like a waterfall──The sound and sight both tugged and lingered in our hearts.You don’t need to process anything, you don’t need to imagine anything, you don’t need to analyze anything, you don’t need to add branches and leaves and embellishments—if you do that, it’s just to make us tired—so my grandma returned the old lady’s sentence Compliments and flattery are: "Back then you were cooking with a guy, a rolling pin. It could feed 40 guys—garlic noodles (that is, noodles)! The angle of compliment is also the same as the one adopted by Liubao just now: the compliment is still on the physical strength and patience of the other party.With the same intentions, the same effect is achieved.Our old concubine understood right away.It is a friendly response and retaliation—that is, vulgarity and superficiality, flattery and flattery—the charm of ordinary life and conversation.It's perfect for grandma and old concubine Liubao to sit together.Therefore, there is no need for our old concubine to set a new precedent when answering compliments. Just like my grandmother answered the compliment to Maizi just now, she also smiled slightly—even as shy as a little girl: "It was young at the time." When my grandma used to go deep into the history of Maizi to find yuqian as an argument, out of respect for my grandma, Liubao took a step back deliberately, instead of looking for history, she dragged it to the present, and began to say in a modest tone: "It can't work now. It's hard to tear a piece of dough as big as a palm." Then he went back to the year in a superfluous way: "At that time, the main thing was that the boss had a big case, and they stretched their strengths and stretched their strengths." And said: "Dozens of couples are working together, and it still seems to be prosperous──The human energy is also brought out." Although it is superfluous, although it is a bit hypocritical, it is also a kind of atmosphere. ──The superfluous superfluous at this time is also different from superfluous superfluous elsewhere. It will not make the atmosphere go into misunderstandings and deteriorate, but will only hang a dispensable auspicious cloud on top of the atmosphere.It doesn't hurt the big picture and doesn't go out of the way, so it doesn't add extra burden to the conversation.A slight smile is just right—it’s not a big laugh. If it’s a big laugh, we feel that the exaggeration is too much. Then the flattering ending seems powerless—in front of the truth, I didn’t take another step forward—now it’s set off The effect is effortless, and this is the essence of rambling.You guys push the fun to the extreme without letting it go overboard and rot.Why you can maintain friendship for decades, we didn't understand in the past, but now we understand: it lies in the grasp of proportion.Whether it's a politician or a philosopher - over time it will be assigned; whether it's a hooligan or a rogue - over time it will be fighting; whether it's a literati or an actor - over time it will be jealous, jealous and Personal attacks; no matter if it is a wife or a lover - over time, you will turn a blind eye and have a marriage change; whether it is new realism or avant-garde and postmodern - over time, you will change. ──Looking up the history of the world, those who can maintain friendship for decades without fading, you are unprecedented and unprecedented; the ideals that human beings cannot realize in large aspects are now given in advance by you two ordinary Chinese rural women Achieved.As far as conversation is concerned, you have reached the realm of freedom from a realm of necessity. What you say is no longer important, what you say is a kind of mood and a slight smile.There was still wind in the sky, but now there is no wind--if the weather is artificial, you smile at this artificiality--so the whole afternoon of the conversation was calm, and the sun was always warm Hitting you warmly. ──A slight smile makes you feel as full of meaning as the wheat tripper who was three miles long back then.If the old song from 1969 was: The good news of the harvest spreads everywhere Then your conversation is: Smile all creatures Granny's compliments to Mrs. Liubao passed away, and then it was time for Mrs. Liubao to open up a second topic and a second battlefield.At this time, her compliments and flattery to her grandma will be changed from another angle. The pushing and pulling last time have been in place-the wheat and the rolling pin did not leave much room for the established path, and she will use the old policy to go Complimenting and flattering my grandma seemed too direct and incompetent, so she abandoned direct compliments and began to take the route of saving the country with curves and using disguised methods.She abandoned her mother-in-law and stopped complimenting her and began to turn to her husband, my grandfather. When the wife complimented and flattered her husband, didn’t the flattering ball of yarn still hit the wife after a tortuous flight?How insightful you are to recognize heroes, how well you plan strategies and win decisively from thousands of miles away──you have found the right person, even: the reason why she can behave like this is not the result of your training? ──Grandmother and old concubine Liubao, you are also heroes, cherish heroes, you are also heroes, you see the same thing. ──Then the old concubine Liubao said casually: "At the beginning, my uncle (that is, my grandma's husband) drove a cart for my master, and everyone knew that he was a good cart driver. When the hairiest animal was in his hands, it would be as docile as a cat after three whips." Immediately, my grandfather drove a mule sedan, and began to gallop smoothly and heroically on the dirt roads of the Chinese countryside in the 1930s; behind the car, a long puff of smoke rose—like a faded black-and-white film, showing before our eyes.Although the conversation was thrown out, now they are glued together again; originally they were stragglers, but now they have become a new army;Although the compliment was not her but her husband, but she was more excited and intoxicated than hearing the compliment──At this time, my grandpa had passed away for 11 years──My grandma really smiled happily── It seems that the introduction of the grandpa's car not only opened up a new topic, but may even set off a climax in the peaceful conversation here. ──Grandpa, who has been dead for 11 years, has been revived on the earth in the 1930s after being saved by the old lady, and began to bravely whip the whip to make the earth and the cars of the year gallop on the road? It turns out that its real meaning is resurrection Although everything is in a smile However, a slight smile is not lukewarm water.It also calls for waves and orgasms If the conversation reaches this level, won't the shocking and weeping effect begin to appear in the calm conversation? In this sense, if you say that your conversation has not been carefully planned in advance, we will not believe it if you kill it. But we also clearly know that you just didn’t plan—you just planned the big meat and excuses, but not the talk itself; you just did things that ghosts and gods couldn’t make it happen in your freedom and randomness you opened our eyes you are - everyone Compared to yours, 30 years later all our smarts and out-of-character acts are laughable ... Of course, Liu Bao's wonderful second serve also put forward higher requirements for her to fight back.Now people are not complimenting you, but your husband; you can smile when you are being complimented, and now when you are complimenting others—by complimenting others, you are being complimented—what attitude should you take?It seems too much to accept it all, and it is a bit hypocritical to be indifferent to everything—a little carelessness in grasping the scale, the former will have the effect of greedy credit, and the latter is suspected of exalting herself by belittling her husband.The question is good, but because of its goodness, it has become an unprecedented problem in front of my grandma.But my grandma is a grandma after all, and she still did it so appropriately without destroying the essence and original flavor of the matter.She adopted an attitude that neither rejected nor belittled; she not only admitted that he was a good driver, but also humbled her husband who had passed away for 11 years - which in turn increased her virtues - and excluded herself Being outside makes oneself more in it because of being outside.she says: "He drove smoothly in reverse!" "He's trained cattle!" "But he can also drive a car!" "What else does he do besides driving the car?" "Besides training animals, what else can he train?" ... Immediately, the two seemed to be young women in their twenties again. Because they were doing needlework together and bored, one praised the other's husband. After asking and answering, both of them were a little embarrassed. Then began a shy "giggle" together - this is how after a small smile they began to have a small orgasm in sound and volume.During the climax, the grandmother even got carried away, and even decided to add another section at the end of the climax—she couldn’t help but say: "He drove to meet with his boss's family. When he came back, he always said that meat is nothing but broth!" After speaking, the old man suddenly realized something, hurriedly returned to reality and changed the topic, saying: "Liu Bao is also a good man. He said he picked up a 200-jin luke, and it reached his shoulders with a "huh"!" Obviously, this compliment was countered with a little panic—this question was not as clever as Liu Bao's old lady, who is a good person and strong. What does it matter?At this time, the old lady Liubao seemed to be even more generous than my grandmother. In order to relieve my grandmother's embarrassment and helplessness, she accepted Liubao in full—the old uncle Liubao died in 1954—and good people were accepted, as well as strong Accept—smile as if accepting a compliment.Then the two of them suddenly realized something, and they "giggled" again like a young daughter-in-law. ... The memory and imagination of history, the creation and resurrection of history are always the highlights of their conversations.But this does not prove that they cannot get out of the past history.When history really became a passing cloud in front of their eyes, and when they also felt that if they were only limited to history, they would have formed an obstacle to the extension of their thoughts and conversations. The brilliance and radiance of the meeting appear to be single, and the way for ordinary people to deal with and correct the singleness is to change the tricks in one line of thinking, so his whole life is struggling in the single channel of the world, and the final result must be fifty steps laughing at one hundred steps, or They are only changing their conversations and lives with the waves of changes in appearance, so their life and conversations have only one puberty, and it is normal for their lives and conversations to approach aging quickly—since the discussion of history and the conversations of the 1930s just now Not bad, can't we continue the discussion in this way?I have already complimented and flattered each other and my husband, so why not flatter my son?I have already complimented your wheat and rolling pin, so why not compliment your rice and steamed buns? ──Of course there is nothing wrong with it. According to the development of this line of thought, the conversation on Dongxizhuang Bridge in the afternoon cannot be said to be wonderful. Maybe it is because of the single idea and channel that make people feel more fluent, because the topic is familiar. It feels like seeing an old friend in life──Because of the excitement of reunion, they hold each other's hand and giggle there. ──If it were two ordinary people in the world—whether politicians, philosophers, writers, or artists—sitting on our bridge, they would do that, but my grandma and Liubao old lady didn’t do that. They and these The main difference between people is: Others just treat a conversation as a conversation and the charm of the conversation itself shines bright enough 而她们不但要把谈话当作谈话，还要把谈话和会见当成一种自我修炼的方式，于是她们重视的就不仅仅是外在的光芒而是内在的流动和更新 于是别人在一场谈话和一场人生中只有一个青春期就够了，在一个河沟和一条渠道里游泳就已经够畅快的了，而她们却觉得仅仅开辟一个话题和一个战场就使谈话受到了束缚，她们要的不是在河沟里游泳而是向往着大海，这时最好的办法──如果你有胸怀和眼光又不怕吃苦的话，是在话题上来一个战略性的转移 这时仅仅在话题的延续上加上儿子、谷子和稻子再加上窝窝头是不够的，因为它们仍然是河沟而不是大海 生活中的谈话光芒总是短暂的，只有当谈话出现创造上升到艺术的高度，它才能放射出永久的光芒──如果我们仅仅把这桥当成一种生活中的物质存在，我们并不能看出这桥和另外桥的区别；只有当我们把它当成一种创造的艺术来看，我们的桥才是姥娘和留保老妗的桥呢──如果上升到艺术的角度来看，当我们看到艺术中的老朋友，就不像看到生活中的老朋友那么激动了 这才是姥娘和留保老妗在话题上进行战略转移的根本原因 于是姥娘和留保老妗，还有东西庄的桥，就青春长驻和永放光芒了 生活中的桥是一片灰色 当我们３０年后再看这座生活中的桥时，我们觉得它是那么地丑陋和简单，我们怀疑它能承受当年姥娘和留保老妗那次历史性的会见和交谈吗？ 当我们相信自己的眼睛时，我们就不会相信这段历史；只有当我们相信她们当年谈话的创造已经上升到艺术的高度时，我们才突然醒悟： 在丑陋和简单的生活中的桥之上，原来还有一道飞架东西的辉煌无比的艺术彩虹，正是它接通着历史和现在，接通着姥娘、留保老妗和我们的心 从这个意义上来说，当年你们话题的战略转移对于你们那场历史性的谈话又是多么地重要呀。──它也告诉我们一个道理，当你在一个话题上感到没话可说的时候，你起码要有勇气及时地说： 我该走了。 你放下你的杯子就走。这比你在一个话题里没话找话要强得多 因为，谈话是靠主题的变换来决定的而不是靠找补来填充的 当话题要走进死胡同的时候，你最好的办法是及时进行战略转移；当大车冲向泥淖的时候，你最好的办法是及时将大车调转方向；当大船已经快触礁的时候，你最好的办法是将它领航到新的海域 从这个意义上来说，姥娘和留保老妗当年对于话题的转移和大车大船的磨转和调度又是多么地及时、自然和驾轻就熟呀 从驾驭大车和话题的才能上来讲，她们赶得上３０年代给东家赶大车的俺姥爷了 ... 于是当话题还在３０年代的历史中有回旋余地的时候，甚至当话题只是说了题目的一部分──这部分当然是主要和精髓了──剩着的一半还留待续说的时候，当事情还处在顺畅和鼎盛的时期，当仅仅说了麦子、杆面杖和丈夫还有谷子、稻子、窝头和儿子可说的时候，我们的姥娘和留保老妗就志同道合齐心协力地开始将话题和大船转移到他方了。当你们用筷子将碗里的精华夹走之后，你们马上就把筷子转向了另一个饭碗──让你们出席宴会的都是一把好手。从这个意义上来说，你们又是不同于我姥爷的人： 你们是不在乎肉汤的东家 于是你们就开始撇开历史的菜碗转向现实了。接着令我们尊敬的是，当你们转向现实的时候，你们对历史的拋弃又是多么地彻底呀──你们就像一个成熟的伟人一样，你们对于昨天没有亲情般的留恋，你们看着昨天的朋友和战友，就和狭路相逢的陌生人没有什么区别；我们仅仅因为和昨天的亲情藕断丝连而成了高不成低不就的芸芸众生。你们对过去充满着背叛──当你们开始走向现实的时候，就好象刚才你们没有说过历史；而我们遇到麻烦的时候，我们却从来不敢把自己的麻烦交给时间。当时间像黑社会的教父一样对我们说： 孩子，把一切麻烦都留给我，你快乐去吧 我们对时间的回答却是： 我已经被吓得尿了裤子，我不敢 ... 而姥娘和留保老妗告诉我们──接着她们也要议论她们的目前和麻烦了，原来她们把话题战略转移到了这里，从这个话题的转移来看，她们又是多么家常和平易近人呀──当我们议论目前和我们的麻烦的时候──历史都交给了时间当然从来没有麻烦──我们不能解脱──当她们在目前遇到麻烦时，却能和时间携起手来，把目前的麻烦仅仅当作一个话题来处理，这时麻烦和烦恼就成了一个被议论的对象她们就能从自身之中解脱出来隔岸观火；当她们像拋弃冠带家私一样对目前进行了拋弃她们就又可以微笑着看世界了。──这就是俺姥娘和留保老妗在处理目前的形势和任务──一切进行了战略转移接触到现实所采取的方式和策略──和与我们的区别。把自己当作别人，把自己当作一个对象，和别人一起去解说和评论，去嘲笑和怒骂──还不能从谈话中得到解脱和超然吗？也许你会说，这不是一种阿Ｑ的做法吗？同志，你可以说自己是阿Ｑ，但你千万不要在东西庄的桥上说俺姥娘和留保老妗是阿Ｑ──你要这么说我可跟你急。姥娘和留保老妗在这里针对自己和拋弃自己的根本前提和阿Ｑ的不同之点在于： 阿Ｑ是承认自己的于是就钻到自己里出不来，然后才有不拿自己当回事的种种表现──其实这个不当回事是更当回事 而俺姥娘和留保老妗已经认识到自己早晚是不存在的──在这样一个前提下把自己当成了别人 前者是一种沮丧的精神胜利，后者是一种超然的灿烂和温暖 前者是阴雨连绵 后者是无风无火 前者是以阴雨说阴雨 后者是以晴天笑看太阳下的片片阴影 她们的心里永远是春天 虽然我们知道生活中的姥娘和留保老妗也做不到 但是现在当她们都已经不在这个世界上了我们把她们重新放到东西庄的桥上的时候，她们在创造中却已经完成了 ... 于是她们在议论现实中的种种麻烦和烦恼的时候，现实中的一切烦恼都成了她们评论和超然的内容，成了Pass和解脱的一种谈资。不谈还窝在心里，一谈出来不就舒畅了吗？留保老妗说──说这话的时候也不妨叹一口气──就好象在生活中我们要时不时长出一口气一样──但叹气之后是超然，长气之后是解脱──留保老妗叹一口气说： 「婶子，我已经活不下去了──俺家的孙媳妇常敲着尿盆骂鸡狗，借着鸡狗在骂我──你说，我是一只老狗吗？」 这还用安慰吗？还用解释和证明她不是老狗吗？不过是一种倾诉和解脱的过程和手段罢了。于是俺姥娘会意地说： 「年轻人，有什么正性。」 「听着当没听着。」（──一句多么普通和深刻的话呀。） ……于是，两人一笑，Pass，解脱，就当这事没发生，就当这话没听着。多少天在心里窝的怨气，一句话化为乌有。这就是朋友的能量。接着姥娘不管是从安慰的角度──当朋友在你身边讲苦恼的时候，你有义务告诉朋友他这苦恼在世界上不是独一份，同样的苦恼或另外的苦恼，也在我身上发生着呢，不过是形式不同或内容不同罢了──还是从遵循朋友谈话总要一问一答一还一报的原则就好象你讲了麦子我总要说一说面条一样，接着姥娘也在那里叹气了──虽然我们知道现在的叹气不过是两个人交流的一个由头和借口，但是她们配合得又是多么地天衣无缝啊──： 「俺家那几个小捣子，没有一个是懂事的，没有一天不让你费心。」 虽然说的有些笼统和应付──为了这个笼统，没有将我们的具体缺点暴露在世人面前和光天化日之下，３０年后我们都感谢您呢姥娘──当然，我们也不能高兴得太早了──也许姥娘这样说的原因，是因为我们平时的毛病和缺点太多，怎么说怎么具体都难以概括，罄竹难书还不足以道其万分之一，一说起来就永远收不住车和煞不住闸了，一说起来就不知从何开头和从何下嘴了，于是在那里迷茫和为难： 「一切从何说起呢？」 于是就只好笼统地说一说──这个时候笼统才是全部，笼统才是概括。我想当时留保老妗听到这句笼统的话时，一定上了姥娘的当真以为我们是罄竹难书呢，姥娘的日常苦恼一定要比她大得多呢，于是她马上得到了安慰也就从自己的泥潭中站起来反倒要安慰更不幸的朋友了。──从这个意义上说，姥娘，你为了解脱你的朋友，可把我们给害苦了。你对我们慈祥的时候，原来是这么恶毒，就好象因为一块肉非要将我们扣到阴谋之中一样。我们在日常生活中是那样不懂事吗？我们是那么罄竹难书吗？肉不是已经让你拿去了吗？──但是姥娘又一次取得了她预料的效果。留保老妗马上反客为主地安慰姥娘： 「孩子家，何必跟他们计较？（──你们是没有跟我们计较，你们在跟我们玩阴谋。）谁家的孩子不是这样呢？」 ……于是，一笑，Pass，解脱。──这时我们倒是死而无怨了。只要你们能把这个下午轻松和温暖的气氛保持下去。为了大局牺牲局部，为了西瓜牺牲芝麻，我们也是死得其所──姥娘和留保老妗，放开你们的脚步，张开你们的翅膀，就在我们这块青嫩的草地上跑马吧。──但是，姥娘和留保老妗又是适可而止，接着倒是马上拋弃了我们──当我们还在这感情和烦恼的纠缠之中──又开始转移到另一个话题上。当然这个时候的苦恼话题也就有些大同小异了。似乎是为了一种惯性而在那里滑行。留保老妗说： 「我家的一只小羊让孩子们给放丢了。丢了倒没有什么，只是它一生下来，老羊就死了，掰口磨牙地喂它长大，就跟自己的一个孩子似的，乍一丢，想起来让人伤心……」 姥娘马上说： 「就当它当初没生下来。」 「别说是一只羊，就真是一个孩子，丢了又怎么样呢？」 「就当它是咱的前世冤家，上辈子欠着它什么，现在来给你要帐了。」 于是，一笑，Pass。可这是一条生命呀，你们是不是也笑得太随便了。但气氛就是这么要求的，这时别说丢了一只小羊，就是丢了一个江山，她们也都会付诸谈笑之中。这就是苦恼和它到了倾诉阶段的区别。姥娘说： 「上个月一直犯头晕，倒到床上就爬不起来了──不知道是不是高血压的老病又犯了。」 留保老妗马上着急地问： 「现在怎么样？」 姥娘轻松地说： 「这几天倒好了。」 留保老妗像小姑娘那样娇嗔一声： 「这不就得了！」 于是，一笑，Pass。 ... 当然，谈话绝不会到此为止，天上的太阳还老高呢──时间给她们留下了充分的余地。这时沉重的话题已经说完──不管是历史或是现实的苦恼，都已经让它们像流水一样流到了身后，都已经一笑了之和Pass了──接着就该谈些轻松的话题了──对于东西庄桥上这个不可多得的下午来讲，大体上前半个下午的谈话是沉重的，后半个下午的谈话是自由和轻松的──就好象我们去三矿接煤车到了三十里坡一样，前十五里是上坡，后十五里就是下坡和欢乐了──姥娘和留保老妗及时把握着波涛中的大船，这时在话题上再一次进行了战略性转移──而自由和轻松的谈论，莫过于在话题上彻底拋弃自己，真正隔岸观火地说一说别人──身外的世界，万千别人的苦恼，令我评说；看到别人处在苦恼和深渊之中，自己站在岸上不也有些侥幸和怡然自得吗？──历史和现实中的自己已经说够了，现在该说一说别人说一说张家长和李家短了──也许这些你知道我不知道，我知道你不知道，我们就把它们当作新闻来谈论吧──说之前往往还要问对方一句──留保老妗会问： 「婶子，这事你知道吗？」 姥娘马上说：「不知道呀。」 留保老妗马上兴奋地说：「那我告诉你！」 或者是姥娘：「她婶，这事你知道吗？」 留保老妗：「不知道呀！」 姥娘马上兴奋地说：「那我告诉你！」 ──为了气氛的烘托和话题的正常运作，我们甚至怀疑这个时候你们就是知道也会故意说不知道。对方也就明知故犯地开始兴奋和叙说了。──这些叙说对于你们无关紧要，仅仅是兴奋和磨牙的一个话题──但对于当事者本人却是沉重的灾难呢──你们在叙说的时候，甚至用的是谈论轶闻趣事的轻佻口气──张家的媳妇不但敲起了尿盆骂鸡狗，还一巴掌掴在了公婆的脸上呢；李家的小捣子们不但淘气，上次还相互打得头破血流呢；张家不但把小羊丢了，上次赶集把骡子也丢了；李家不但患了高血压有些头昏，甚至还患了食道癌──你们是多么地隔岸观火和坐山观虎斗呀，你们是多么地心旷神怡和知足常乐呀。这时温暖的阳光，就放射出一缕自私和个人化的色彩，充满了庸俗和幸灾乐祸的光芒。两个深明大义的老太太，一下又还原成两个斤斤计较和将自己的欢乐建立在别人的痛苦之上的农村老妇了。 自私和私情，个人化和排它性，在一定的场合下，也会放射出温暖的封闭性的光彩呢 ... ３０年后我们又突然醒悟，我们这样分析，还是低估３０年前姥娘和留保老妗的伟大──原来她们这样做并不是为了她们本人，还是为了谈话本身──因为：你要使谈话感到亲切，就要在谈话结尾的时候，显出你庸俗市侩的一面。 这是你能和朋友保持下次来往和分别后想念的前提 当我们回想和想念朋友的时候，我们想起的往往不是他高大的一面，而是想着他世俗和庸俗的表现而会心一笑 当我们看到一个人骑着自行车在那里突然一笑时，我们就应该知道：他一定又在那里想到朋友的缺点了 ... 这时我们突然明白，原来通过私情和个人化的渠道，同样可以达到深明大义雄才大略和坐而论道的境界。它们之间并不矛盾有时恰恰十分相通。同时，当姥娘和留保老妗在东西庄的桥上开始露出她们庸俗和市侩──亲切和温暖──的一面时，这种话题转移的本身，也开始显露出它另一方面的深刻含义。它在向我们说明：历史和现实的沉重是微不足道的，张家长李家短的隔岸观火和幸灾乐祸才使我们的心更加相通，我们眼前出现的，才是广阔、宏大、前瞻和放眼未来的夕阳。They are: Rolling Yangtze River East Passing Water 浪花淘尽英雄 是非成败转头空 青山依旧在 How many degrees of sunset red 白发老太小桥上 惯看秋月春风 一杯浊酒喜相逢 古今多少事 都付谈笑中 ... 这时夕阳已掉到山凹里了。接着剩下的就是如何把谈话结束和收场的问题了。整个下午的谈话都是成功的，最后如何把这谈话和下午的温暖时光给揪断然后像捆谷草个子扎香肠的头尾和系住布袋的口一样给它们归拢到结束呢？香肠是不错的，布袋里装的货都是货真价实，但是如何让这香肠和布袋、下午和谈话由中段向尾部过渡，由粗向细过渡，由有向无过渡，由波涛滚滚过渡到如线的游丝，余音缭绕又突然掀起一个意外的高潮和盘石压住它们，给谈话者双方，往往也提出一个难题呢。揪断和告别，又不让人感到突兀，并不比谈话内容的操作让人轻松──有时更需要雄才大略呢。越是精彩的下午和谈话，往往越是难以收场和扎口呢。话不投机你可以站起来就走，亲密无间话越说越多线越扯越长香肠眼看着越来越粗布袋眼看着越胀越大──弄不好就要胀破了──形式已经容不下内容了──这时你怎么办呢？──面对一场投机的谈话双方已经将心窝子话和肺腑之言都掏出来了，你怎么好站起来就走呢？这才是我们经常遇到的人生难题。我们不怕话不投机，我们就怕掏心窝子──就像我们不怕阴谋诡计就怕光明正大一样。──这样一个灿烂辉煌的下午，这样一场温暖和开阔的谈话，姥娘和留保老妗，你们该如何收场呢？──我们都替你们担心。因为稍有不慎，你们就会使一场精彩的谈话变成秃尾巴鹰──这是有历史教训的。──当然，按照我们在生活中的经验，结束这种谈话的最好方式就是来一个外在的硬插──当你在饭店的大堂和一群朋友进行亲密无间谈话的时候，你无法突然离去──如果你生硬地离去就对这种气氛、场合、情感构成了破坏成了这个临时结伴的小团体的叛徒。这时你多么盼望你的呼机突然生硬地响起来啊，你是多么盼望你的无线电话突然蜂鸣啊；一般情况下你的手机是不开的，现在你已经把手悄悄伸到口袋里把它打开了。但是你的BP机还是没有响，你的手机并没有蜂鸣，这时你对不在你面前的其它朋友是多么地仇恨和暗中求救呀──平时你们打来的电话不是很多吗？用不着你们的时候你们电话不断，用得着你们的时候怎么一个都不来呢？当你听着面前的朋友还在那里兴致勃勃和情绪激昂谈话的时候，你还不能做出分心的样子，还得做出那么倾心和点头地呼应：「哼，哼。」 或是：「好，好。」 或是：「请说下去，请说下去。」 ... 但是这个时候你是多么盼望能有一个意外和生硬的插入让你体面和天衣无缝地脱身和解脱呀。哪怕是一个毫不相干的人从你身边路过随意地看了一下表，你都能暂时放下呼机和无线电话找到一个意外闯入的理由： 「哎呦，几点了？」 接着你就可以看自己的表了，这时你可以做出夸张和意外的样子： 「我的天，都凌晨一点了，可该结束了──当然，这也证明我们一个晚上的谈话是多么地投机和投入呀──咱们在一起的时间怎么就过得这么快呢？──但是，今天该结束了，咱们改天再找一个时间谈好吗？」 既果断地结束了这场谈话，又不使朋友失去面子。一场美好的关于谈话和交流的记忆，就开始永远地刻在我们心间。非得说到凌晨三点吗？非要说到精疲力尽把一场谈话像嚼甘蔗一样嚼到没有一点水份和意义的时候才结束吗？非要等到臭名昭著的时候才由人民赶下台你自己就不能见好就收和激流勇退吗？──那样对你要好得多呢。──但是，要恰到好处地结束这一切，在世界上并不是那么容易呢──除了要求你自己有远见卓识之外，还有你自身不能把握的外在插入是否会适时到来──谁知客观给你提供不提供意外的插入呢？当然意外的插入你可以自己创造，你可以事先约定让另一个朋友在凌晨一点给你打电话，但是问题在于，你怎么能事先知道这场谈话的精彩部分会出现在凌晨一点之前呢？一切都是不可预料的，世界上的一切见好就收也是可遇而不可求──好的前段和中段的谈话和事物比比皆是，就像我们好的童年、少年和中年是容易寻找一样，但是好的结尾和结束，就像我们好的老年和下场一样就寥若晨星了。就真是天空中的凌晨一点了。而我们的姥娘和留保老妗在将自己和别人都付诸谈笑之后，在她们的谈话和交流到了两情相洽和恰到好处的地步，她们是如何收场的呢？──再不能向前走一步了，谈话已经到了三十里坡的顶点，再往前就开始走下坡路了；包括温度，太阳就要下山了，环境也已经没有热情了──３０年后我们想，当时姥娘和留保老妗虽然都意识到了这一点，但是因为她们谈话的列车刚才过于急速现在还需要一个缓慢的滑行呢──强行煞车并不能起到预想的结果；但是任着滑行就破坏了刚才谈话的筋骨和维生素──就像一把嫩绿的菠菜一下倒入滚烫的开水之中──这时她们也像３０年后的我们一样，多么盼望现在有一个意外的强行插入好让她们把这灿烂辉煌的下午和谈话体面和同样辉煌地给结束掉啊。──也是天作其便，再也没有那么凑巧和自然──世界的各种偶然，共同创造了这一个下午的辉煌──就在姥娘和留保老妗下午的谈话达到恰到好处灿烂辉煌的顶点的时候，一个震天动地的插入就那么前无古人和后无来者地出现在她们面前──在她们走投无路和找不到结尾和意外的时候，东庄和西庄的村子里突然──当时也让姥娘和留保老妗吃了一惊呢──响起了震耳欲聋的大锣。──这就是可以结束的信号。而这个信号提出的结束理由又是多么充分和毋庸置疑啊──一个中年男人，也就是我们村的支书王喜加──开始随着锣声在那里喊： 「妇女们赶紧回家做饭，大家吃过饭，都在东庄土台子前看样板戏了！」 接着村中的大喇叭就开始了重复的广播： 「今天晚上有戏！」 「吃过饭一给牲口添槽，马上就开始！」 「剧团已经进村，剧团已经进村！」 ... 再也找不到这么精美绝伦和巧夺天工的理由了。于是姥娘和留保老妗像听到上帝的福音一样，都不约而同地从桥上站起来，马上抓住这个契机和理由，干脆利落地结束了这场谈话──为了这个插入，３０年后我们又是多么感谢当年的王喜加表哥和样板戏呀──３０年前姥娘和留保老妗对于历史机遇的适当把握和当仁不让，让３０年后的我们从另一个方面对你们又是多么地崇拜呀──３０年后我们因为自己的迟疑让多少历史机遇从我们面前白白流过──姥娘和留保老妗斩钉截铁地说： 「婶子，咱们今天就这样吧，咱们赶紧回家做饭！」 「他妗，今天就这样。晚上大家还等着看戏呢。」 ... 结束得毫不留情和毫不拖泥带水。就像谈话之中现实对于历史的拋弃一样。连一个让人遗憾和惭愧的过渡的空间都没有留。姥娘和留保老妗，你们是大将风度。从此，一个精美绝伦的下午，像那灿烂的夕阳一样，开始保留在我们东西庄的桥上。同时，当姥娘和留保老妗果真急急忙忙分了手回到家，回到家赶紧做饭，做了饭我们一群小捣子赶紧「呼噜呼噜」地吃饭，吃了饭赶紧看戏──在看戏的过程中，为了这共同的利益和兴奋我们甚至都忘了下午因为一块艮肉而和姥娘的面和心不和，这是不是也是这精美绝伦的下午和谈话、收场和结尾的一个余音呢？