Chapter 60 Section 7

Out of conscience, Yang Hong found out a compliment: "You are so broad-minded, if it was someone else, I'm afraid you would have divorced early." "You think I haven't thought about divorce? How come I haven't thought about it? Who wants to live this kind of life? But there are many practical problems that are difficult to solve, such as children's affairs, house affairs, and the relationship of these years. It’s not that I can let it go. The key is that I divorced him. Who can I turn to? At my age, I would have been divorced or widowed. In the past, it was not easy to live well. Besides, unless you don’t find someone who works in the company, it is likely to be worse than my current husband.” The eldest aunt looked at Yang Hong and said, “You If your husband is in the same university as you, there shouldn't be any problem."

Yang Hong didn't know how to answer this question.The way for a woman to thank the other party for trusting her is to reveal her privacy.Although Yang Hong was moved and motivated by her eldest aunt, she had the urge to vomit quickly, but after all, it was a habit for many years. She felt that family ugliness should not be publicized, so she just said vaguely: "It's about the same." The eldest aunt finished cleaning the food, took a breath, and said: "So I have great hopes for going abroad this time. I plan to start organizing family visits for my husband and children as soon as I arrive at school. You can come to the United States within a few days. Some of my friends have helped me find out that it is easier for a professional like me to find a job here, and once you find a job, you can settle down in the United States.”

Yang Hong didn't understand the connection between staying in the United States and the story I just told. She just felt that the eldest aunt was also a person with jumping thinking. She jumped from Chinese men's infidelity to Chinese women's job hunting in the United States. . The eldest aunt continued to conceive of her grand blueprint: "Stay here, my husband doesn't have to socialize with his boss, he can stay in the university and do research honestly. Listen to my classmates in the United States. , They are living a good life between husband and wife, at least they are safe and stable, and there is absolutely no trouble that I encountered in China. You know, our major goes abroad, and there are at least a hundred students in my class. Ninety percent of them are abroad. In fact, it was easy for me to go abroad when I was young, but my husband refused to come out, so I didn’t move that heart, otherwise I would have taken root in the United States long ago.”

Yang Hong was a little unwilling: "But the person has not changed. He cheated, that is, he cheated. He didn't cheat in the United States because he had no chance to cheat, but isn't he still a cheater in his bones?" The eldest aunt laughed: "You are a person who admits death, and beat people to death with a stick. If I want to be so strict, I would have divorced a long time ago. Think about it, he can't do anything in the environment like China. To be honest, he At the beginning, it was my idea to jump out of Z University and go into business, because both of them stayed at the university, and the financial situation was not so well off. We still live in the two-bedroom-one-living room allocated by the school, and we can’t afford to buy a piano for our children. So sometimes I don’t blame him. It’s better not to face this kind of test alone, otherwise, we will It is very likely to be betrayed. It is very difficult to get out of the mud without staining."

Yang Hong suddenly remembered Zhu Peter's high-spirited talk about getting out of the mud without pollution. Hearing those words at the time, he thought it was another sensational burden of Zhu Peter, but now that he thinks about it, it makes sense. Zhu Peter said that those who boasted that the lotus flower will emerge from the mud without staining are either blind or open-eyed and talking nonsense.The fact that the lotus leaves the mud without being stained is because it has a long stem supporting it, which is far away from the mud. If you put a lotus into the mud, step on it, and then pull it out , You can see if it is dyed or not.It is more accurate to say that those who are close to vermilion are red, and those who are close to ink are black.If you want to stay dark, don't go to Mo's side.

Someone laughed at him at that time, saying that now that we are close to you, Zhu, why does it turn black instead?Peter Zhu explained with a smile, because my Chinese name is "Zhu Mo", when you get close to me, you are close to both Zhu and Mo, and you will turn black and red. It seems that the eldest aunt is treating the root cause of the disease, uprooting the eldest uncle from China, and then planting him in the United States, hoping to save her marriage in this way.If the eldest uncle is not allowed to get close to ink, he will not turn black.I don't know whether the United States is Zhu Shimo or Zhu Mo coexists, but she is a bit like the big aunt who criticized her for accepting death.She feels that a truly innocent person should be innocent everywhere, if not, then he is not really innocent.Once a person is innocent, he will never be innocent.

Yang Hong asked: "Then your husband is willing to come to the United States now?" "If you want to come, come; if you don't want to come, let it go." The eldest aunt said firmly, "I have made up my mind about this. If he refuses to come, we will leave, but my daughter must come to me. I heard that the United States This side is more tolerant of divorced women than China. Some Americans feel that they have made a profit by finding a woman who is a drag bottle. There is a big table for dinner, and there are many families with different surnames when asked. Everyone is surprised Strange, this way the children will have no pressure. In China, they dare not divorce, because they are afraid that others will look down on them, gossip, and the children will be bullied outside. If there are no such worries, what is so terrible about divorce? It’s not like women can’t support themselves.”

"You make a lot of sense in what you said. A woman can support herself without a man, but there is still no way to fill the emotional gap." "My husband is still unwilling to divorce, and he also misses the old friendship very much. He hides and hides when he can, and takes good care of his daughter from the outside parties. He also knows that the outside parties Women, how many of them are sincere with him? Isn’t it all for a few money, just playing around? Although a man is still a flower at forty, but when he reaches sixty or seventy, he is not as good as a woman. The stroke of a man has to be taken care of by a woman. Women in the field of love and moon are unreliable."

"Then what can he do here?" "My husband has a master's degree, so finding a job here should not be a problem." Yang Hong thought of Tracy, and then of the aunt in front of her, and suddenly thought of whether people would go abroad or stay in the United States, and it couldn't be measured by whether they were patriotic or not.Of these two women, one was born in the late 1970s and the other was born in the mid-1960s. One came to the United States to find a good man, and the other came to the United States to cultivate a good man. Both were motivated by women. The eldest aunt's plane took off within three hours. Yang Hong reluctantly sent her away, and sat down in a secluded place alone, recalling what the two of them had said.Tracy runs social news, and all she sees is the dark side of society, but Yang Hong also knows that those dark and dark things are becoming bright and positive, and people are no longer ashamed of them, but proud of them.This wind is blowing strongly towards the university, and Yang Hong himself has participated in dealing with a teacher in the courtyard who was caught by the police station for messing around outside.

Whether it was the resistance methods of the female prisoners interviewed by Tracy, or Tracy's own resistance methods, Yang Hong did not approve of them.Whether it is murder or self-killing, neither can kill a man who has changed his mind, nor can it solve the problem.Yang Hong also disapproves of women facing each other with flowers. In her opinion, women who have sex with men indiscriminately can only humiliate themselves; What love is there when they are counting who spends more? In today's society, men are becoming more and more self-indulgent, and women are also becoming more and more self-indulgent.The more a man indulges, the more he feels capable and rich; the more a woman feels capable and rich, the more she indulges herself.Yang Hong thought, how can a woman like me who is "running to four" neither have the capital to indulge, nor want to indulge, and is unwilling to let her husband indulge, how can she live without being tired?

Tracy and Auntie's way of dealing with these dark sides is to come to the United States, trying to find a good man who cannot be found in China, or save a good man who is polluted.Is America a paradise for women?