Chapter 109 The Distressing Problems of Modern Women

Everything in the world cannot be perfect, and there is no such thing as a good horse that does not eat grass.Humans are rational animals, so when they encounter all kinds of difficulties, they will make rational judgments and choose the most reasonable one. Mencius said: "Fish: what I want. Bear's paw: what I want. You can't have both. You can give up the fish and take the bear's paw." This kind of choice is the best choice of ordinary people's rationality; because Fish are common but bear's paws are rare.But Mencius also said: "Sheng: what I want, and righteousness: what I want. You can't have both, and you can give up life to choose righteousness." This is not an easy choice for ordinary people's rationality; Because the goodness of life and righteousness is much more complicated than the goodness of fish and bear's paw, and the relationship is too great.It must be a person who thoroughly understands the meaning of life and the meaning of righteousness, and then can make a reasonable choice between the two.

So when encountering a choice like this, the question is whether the chooser has a thorough understanding of the meaning of the two things in front of him.In other words, there should be a thorough understanding of the priorities of the two. Regarding our current problem (that is, should modern women abandon their responsibilities as wives and mothers and concentrate on studying knowledge and transforming society? Or should they temporarily put aside learning and social undertakings and focus on the responsibility of being a good wife and mother?) An answer, of course, must first have a thorough understanding of the priorities of the two!

But this problem is not simple.There are great reasons to say that the responsibilities of being a wife and mother are sacred and extremely important; but there are equally great reasons to say that the responsibility of pursuing knowledge and transforming society is sacred and extremely important.Just as the public says that the public is right, and the woman says that the woman is right, both sides are reasonable.I feel that if everything goes into the circle of theory, if you talk about it in a vacuum, you will often talk more and more, but you will not be able to solve it in the end.Of course we cannot completely underestimate the theoretical aspect, but we must not forget the facts either.However, you are absolutely true in theory, but when you don't allow it in fact, it is tantamount to talking in vain.In particular, a problem waiting to be solved must not stick to the theory without asking the facts.The result is that the problem is stuck in an unresolved solution.

Therefore, our proper attitude towards this question should be to set aside theory and ask facts.In other words, we can temporarily admit the argument that women should fulfill their responsibilities as wives and mothers, but at the same time we have to ask whether it is actually possible?Take the same attitude towards those who advocate that women should join social movements.If it is true that modern women cannot—that is, there are various external obstacles preventing them from fulfilling their ideal (!) responsibilities as wives and mothers—then our theoretician’s argument is really nothing but nonsense, and we should let others do what they want. Try another way out for the girl!

I feel and believe that modern women cannot feel at ease, or be allowed by the environment, to fulfill their ideal responsibilities as wives and mothers.Please briefly state my opinion as follows. We must first pay attention: the premise of our discussion is the "ideal" responsibilities of being a wife and mother, not the ordinary responsibilities of being a wife and mother!This so-called ideal responsibility of being a wife and mother is exactly what Mr. Xia Gaizun said in the article "Feeling the Songs" in the seventh issue of this magazine, and the general idea is as follows:

For several years women's liberationists have only attacked the external system, It is not always very effective without seeking change in women's own attitudes.Place The so-called "women's own attitudes seek to change", that is, to make women feel that they are The status of oneself is not inferior to men, and is more important than men. Being a wife and mother is a god holy and glorious things, not slavery; when you are busy, do not I humiliated myself instead of being busy. I want to develop myself, realize myself, and show myself in this busy time. Show your own superiority, so that the national society and your opponent's men are busy in this

recognize your value and recognize your status. Let the men of the country, society and your opponents recognize your value and recognize your status in this busy life; develop yourself and realize yourself in the busy life of being a wife and mother: this is the aphorism of Mr. Beggar Zun, and it can also be said that it is What Mr. Beggar thinks is the way to liberate women!In pure theory, I have no objection to Mr. Beg Zun's argument, but in fact, even if men in the national society and opponents recognize their value from the "business" of women as wives and mothers, they may not necessarily recognize their status; Just as capitalists know the value of laborers from their blood and sweat, how can they recognize the status of laborers.

Taking a step back, we don't care about the value and recognition of women's "busyness" by the country, society and men, and look at whether women can develop themselves and realize themselves from the "busyness" of being a wife and mother.We naturally admit that we can give full play to women's self-realization of women's own busyness, not the unconscious "busy" of women as wives and mothers that has been passed down through the ages, but the so-called busyness that is close to Ellen Kay's ideal of motherhood in another realm .Well, in fact, our women who are wives and mothers are only busy with ordinary "busy" rather than ideal busyness, and the environment will never allow women who are capable and capable to achieve some ideal wives and mothers. busy!If a promising woman wants to do some ideal work within the scope of her duties as a wife and mother, then old ethics, old habits, all laws, even political forces, military and police force, will interfere. It's on her!This is also no wonder.For the old morality, the devil that oppresses women, and all the laws and forces that support this devil, only recognize the old wife and mother, and this old wife and mother are women's chains; In the old busy life of being a wife and mother, women can never develop themselves and realize themselves!

Therefore, in order to truly enable women to develop themselves and realize themselves in the busy life of wives and mothers, and not be in the status of slaves, the important prerequisite is to reform the environment!The conclusion then falls to the female side to fight for her own interests, and on the other hand to engage in political campaigns with homogeneous men to transform the environment! The iron palm of fact breaks the ideal garden.We have an old saying: "Ideals are the mother of facts." But here we see an unbreakable iron rule, "When facts do not allow, ideals are just nonsense!" So modern women's miserable life is based on the current facts Take the actions they should and have to do!