Chapter 68 everyone is an orphan

Why do we long for love?Why is there love in our hearts?My answer is: because of us. Of course, with very few exceptions, each of us is born with a father and a mother, and we all grow up under the care of our parents.However, if you think about it carefully, how accidental it is for our parents to conceive us.In the vast world, how can you say that the man who later became your father and the woman who later became your mother will definitely meet each other, marry each other, and have sex at the right moment to conceive you?And if they don't know each other, or if they know each other

Bonding, or bonding without making love at that moment, there would be no you at all!This goes all the way up, as long as one of your ancestors didn't have sex at a certain moment, there wouldn't be all the generations that lead to you, and there wouldn't be you.From this point of view, each of us is an extremely accidental product in the vast universe, and good fortune just borrowed the bodies of our parents, which are also accidental products, to produce us from nothingness. Parents are neither the inevitable basis for our birth in this world, nor can they be a reliable barrier to protect us from all kinds of suffering in the world.Perhaps for a brief time in childhood, we believe we find infallible security in the arms of our parents.However, one day, we will understand that all the suffering that befalls us, whether it is disease, spiritual sorrow or social setbacks, we must bear it ourselves, and our parents who love us are powerless.Finally, when death calls us, there is no parental embrace in the world that can save us from death.

Therefore, from the perspective of the vast universe, each of us is indeed a helpless orphan who came into the world by chance and left inevitably.It is precisely because of this fundamental lonely situation that there is the value of love, the reason for love.Everyone is an orphan, so everyone longs for someone to love, and everyone wants someone to love.We don’t only need love from our parents when we are young, even when we are older, from our lovers, from our juniors when we are old, and the secret desire of orphans to find their parents is always with us, we still look forward to parental love .On the other hand, if we consider that anyone temporarily living with us on this planet, including our loved ones, is an orphan in the universe, a great compassion arises in us, and a greatness arises from it. love.I believe that the deepest foundation of love is in this great compassion, and nowhere else.For example, sex is of course inseparable from the impulse of sexual desire or congenial interests, but if you don't have the mood to love your lover as an orphan, I dare to conclude that your love is relatively selfish.Even if it is the love of children for their parents, the most unforgettable factor is not the gratitude after being raised, but the despair that cannot stop the parents from getting old. In this despair, the image of parents as orphans that no one can protect is clear. unfolded before your eyes.

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