Chapter 9 Love is like bluegrass, simple and self-sustaining

Song Dandan has experienced four relationships and three marriages.Five years of first love, but time sent everything away.In her first marriage, she kept a secret for Yingda; in her second marriage, she once called her the most satisfying life, but it still came to an end; in her third marriage, she was no longer as impulsive as she was when she was young.She said: "Originally I only wanted a hug, but I accidentally added a kiss, and then you found out that you need a bed, a suite, and a certificate... It was only when you got divorced that you remembered: You originally only wanted a hug."

(one) She flagged down a taxi, and when she got in the car, she realized that it was him who was driving! Ten years ago, they were close lovers.They met in college, she was attracted by his talent, and he loved her vivaciousness.They spent the past month and month, making vows to each other, and the two young hearts had infinite longing and enthusiasm for love. His family conditions are not good, his father died early, and his mother is just an ordinary worker, relying on meager wages and income from odd jobs to barely raise him.But she has a bright background, her father is a leader in a state-owned enterprise, and her mother is a university professor.

Naturally, it was impossible for her parents to agree to their relationship. The parents first tried to persuade her with words, but seeing that it didn't work, they simply issued an ultimatum.Under the pressure of her parents and the persuasion of her relatives and friends, she finally failed to carry out this love to the end, but chose to break up. The two have never met in the same city since then. She never thought that the opportunity to meet again would come so suddenly. She looked at his side profile while driving. He seemed to be older than before. The wind and frost of life had left traces on his face. She is no longer the green girl she was back then.She married the man her parents liked, had her own child, lived a stable life, took care of her husband and raised her children, and became one of the thousands of women who dedicated themselves to the family.

In the dullness of marriage, she would occasionally recall the days with him.That unforgettable period of pure love seems to have drifted away with the passage of time in the memory.Now, the man who can evoke those beautiful memories is right in front of him. "How are you?" "I'm fine, and you?" "I am fine too." After saying these few words, there was a wordless silence in the car.Neither she nor he spoke, because they didn't know what words to use to express their complicated feelings at the moment.She seemed to have a little bit of expectation amidst the surprise, maybe this encounter was destined.

But until they got off the bus, none of them mentioned the past again, they didn't even exchange a few words of pleasantries, or leave any contact information.She saw that he was still wearing the watch she gave her; when he got off the car, he heard the crisp and sweet sound of the little bell on her backpack, which was given to her by him... "Ten years later, we are friends, and we can still greet each other. It's just that kind of tenderness, and there is no reason to hug anymore." Lin Xi's lyrics are always written incisively and uniquely. resonance. When the former lover and the increasingly dull married life are placed at the two ends of the same balance, it is inevitable that there will be a slight tilt in the bottom of my heart.But ten years, more than three thousand days, how much can people change?Young love, buried in the silhouette of time, makes everything a thing of the past.

The beautiful emotional memory of the past is a test and a temptation. It is human nature to be moved, but it is a minefield when it is turned into action.Only a rational mind can help us.Cherish what you have in front of you, the love that has passed away is just a cloud that covers your eyes. Guard against arrogance and impetuosity, and face life with a normal heart. The truth of life is the same, and so is love. Zhou Libo said: "Don't take shortcuts, or you will run in vain; don't take a long way, or you will be late; don't take evil ways, or you will go to jail; don't take gangsters, or you will be stabbed; don't just want, you can't pay less; don't rush If you want, you must refrain from impetuosity; if you don’t ask for anything in return, it will come naturally; if you don’t rush to get it, you will have no troubles if you calm down; don’t be afraid of people laughing, see who laughs forever; don’t pretend to know, ask for advice if you don’t understand.”

There are always many tedious things in life, and how to face them all comes from the state of mind.Learn to be calm and self-sufficient, learn to be indifferent, learn to endure suffering with a peaceful heart all the time, to be considerate of lovers, to resist temptation, to trust loved ones, and to abandon some things outside of the body. Happiness is like a pyramid with many levels. The higher you go, the less happiness you get, and the harder it is to obtain happiness.The more you are at the bottom, the easier it is to feel happy; the more levels you cross from the bottom, the stronger your sense of happiness.Happiness is actually a kind of expectation and a feeling of the soul.

In the face of love, the heart also needs to be simple and self-sufficient.People often make some mistakes due to various reasons, and every imprint will be deeply engraved in the memory of love. The more times, the love will change.Only by maintaining a calm and indifferent attitude can love last forever. (two) One day, a woman asked a man: "What do you think is the highest state of love?" The man thought for a while and said, "It's life and death. Think about it, one person can die for another person, and give up all the things in life." Isn't the most important thing the highest state of love?"

The woman nodded, then shook her head again.At the beginning, she also thought so, because many loves are always connected with life and death when they are the most heroic. Those loves that have been passed down through the ages are all life and death. In short, most of them are sad. However, those soul-stirring love never appeared.More secular love but only ordinary love and hate, sadness and happiness. "Then what do you say?" the man asked. The woman smiled: "It's a habit. When you get used to the habits in a person's life, you will really fall in love with him."

Love is a person's recognition of another person's habits, and the highest level of love is to agree with his habits.A woman who is used to a man's snoring, from being unaccustomed to getting used to it to being unable to sleep without his snoring, is love; a man who is used to a woman's capriciousness, acting like a baby, and even making trouble out of nothing is love; a People will change and accommodate for another person, this is love.The philosophy of love is sometimes so simple, in the little things of life. If you still can't adapt to a person and all his habits, it only means that you don't love him, or you haven't reached the realm of love, because love lies in these details.When you are used to all the habits of your lover, such as his clothes smell of tobacco, such as his clean shirts, such as his getting up in the middle of the night to watch football, if you are used to all these, then stop asking such stupid topics as what love is.

Love, sometimes is so simple and simple, like a glass of boiled water beside us, within reach, drinking, although tasteless, is a necessity in life.Baby Annie said: "It's not about loving him, but about loving the day when you have him." Habit is the ultimate attribution of love, perhaps, it is also the highest state of love. Love comes from habit. In fact, love itself is not a complicated calculation problem.Love is like a trickling brook. Although it is not as magnificent as the sea or as endless as the river, it penetrates into the heart bit by bit, making the heart simple and pure.