Chapter 3 More than loneliness is temptation

Everyone will encounter all kinds of temptations in his (her) life, some people see through, some people can't see through, struggling in the abyss.Many people believe in Buddhism, and belief in Buddhism is nothing more than two points: one is to resist the temptation in the world of mortals; the other is to find spiritual sustenance because I can't bear the loneliness of being alone. A little more than loneliness is temptation. Because I can't stand loneliness, I am tempted; on the contrary, I am tempted too much, and I don't realize how wrong I am when I lose it. I am lonely alone.

One step forward is the cliff, one step back is the endless desert.Do you choose to jump into the bottom of the unknown cliff, or trek alone in the desert to find a way out.The environment you are in, for you, is the gap between loneliness and temptation. (one) A man and a woman, who were originally childhood sweethearts, are also very affectionate after marriage.After a seven-year itch marriage, both of them cheated.The reason why a man cheats is that he plays every occasion for his career, so it is inevitable that he will not be able to control it two or three times, and after a long time, he will take it for granted.The reason why a woman cheats is that she waits for her husband to not return every day, and she can't bear the loneliness and pours herself out.She was worried that her husband was having a romantic relationship outside and raised a lover behind her back. The more she thought about it, the more unwilling she became, so she found a mutual friend of the two to confide. Long time loneliness, come together.

If you make a wrong step, you will regret it for the rest of your life. One is because of temptation, the other is because of loneliness.In the final analysis, it is all because of not enough trust and love for the other party.does he love herNature is love.But not firm enough.Does she trust him?Naturally, I also believe it.But it is too wishful thinking.Mistakes that should have been avoidable happen again and again, so that they feel taken for granted and become numb. He comforted himself: a man has a great career, and I will give her a life without worrying about food and clothing, and I will love her too, that's enough.She understands me... Which man doesn't play tricks on the spot and make fake plays come true?

She forgives herself: I only made a mistake this time, and I will never make a mistake in the future.I can allow him to make a mistake too.He doesn't know this, and I will never confess to him in my life... That man, I will never meet again in the future, just pretend nothing happened. However, one day, they still had a fierce conflict. In the same store, she saw her husband lead a strange woman to buy a brand-name perfume, and he saw his wife buy a pair of men's underwear, but the size was not his... Afterwards, the two began their first long talk after seven years of marriage. He said: "I was too busy with work to care enough about you. It was my negligence. However, you have not been faithful as a wife. I cannot accept you like this."

She said: "In the past seven years, I have spent many lonely nights without you alone. You seldom go home and always say that you are very busy at work. I can't believe that busy work has become a reason not to go home. Several times, I urged you to come back, and you came home reluctantly, drunk, straight down on the bed, and fell asleep on your back. I don’t want to sleep alone in a cold bed anymore.” In the end, the divorce agreement left traces of the two people's handwriting, just like signing a marriage certificate happily when they graduated from college. Loneliness is an empty city, temptation is its walls.Temptation is only a little more than loneliness, but it is always outside loneliness.If you can't resist the loneliness from the bottom of your heart, then you can't resist the temptation of the outside world.Temptation and loneliness are interlinked. If you can endure loneliness in life, you will naturally be able to withstand temptation.On the contrary, the same.

(two) She is a strong and independent professional woman, but her love is as plain as water.He and his boyfriend have been dating since college, and the time of more than ten years seems to be a stream that has become more and more gentle. Now even if a stone is thrown, it is difficult to stir up a wave.She couldn't feel the passionate love of her student days, and she had no reason to break up, so she simply maintained this relationship and devoted herself to endless work. Her excellent work performance and ability also attracted the attention of a man, her boss.The boss is a plain-looking, mature and sophisticated man who wields power.The boss's wife is a rich second generation, and the boss has achieved his current achievements because of marrying her.Although it is said that he does not eat soft food, what he relies on is everything that marriage bestows on him.

The boss offered her an olive branch, and often asked her to stay and work overtime with excuses, invited her to dinner, and bought all kinds of expensive gifts, implying that if she accepted his offer, she would get more job opportunities, promotion and salary increase. Not a problem.Between the temptation of morality and fame and fortune, she wavers. She knows what it means, so she can't make up her mind. It cannot be denied that her boss is very shrewd.He saw her wavering and gave her a chance to express herself.When she achieved a great success that she had never had in her career, facing people's envious eyes and the gains that followed, she tasted the sweet taste. She seemed to see that she could touch her former self in her career. The pinnacle that can't be reached even with all your efforts.So she took the first step.

She doesn't love her boss, the two only maintain a physical love between men and women, like a tacit transaction.The boss got a passion outside of marriage, and she, who made great progress in the workplace, soon became independent.Her boyfriend didn't know about this, but still cared for her. She couldn't help feeling guilty in her heart. When she was with her boyfriend, she tried her best to be as tender as possible, and compensated him with her tenderness.The boyfriend only thought that she wanted to find the beautiful relationship between the two of them, and even felt relieved and happy about it.She often feels that her utilitarianism is disgusting, but she can't stop her pursuit of the aura of success.

After all, the fire could not be contained in the paper, the boss' wife made a fuss in the company, slapped her in front of everyone, and told her, you are just one of my husband's many playthings, and I gave everything to him. Yes, don't think you can get anything.In the shocked eyes of others, she felt ashamed, she understood that this is the price, playing with fire will eventually set her on fire. The boyfriend naturally heard about this from other places, and she was ready to break up.Unexpectedly, her boyfriend accepted everything calmly and comforted her in turn.He told her that there will always be many episodes in life. If you go wrong, you just need to find out in time and return to the right path. I didn't pay enough attention to you before, which made our relationship enter a blind spot. Let's start again.

With tears streaming down her cheeks and shedding her burdens, she realized that her pursuit of fame and fortune was just floating clouds, and it was true love that could accompany her through the storm. The pursuit of fame and fortune will never end, and there will always be something that you feel you have not yet obtained. It is like a person tasting an indelible emptiness alone, which is the loneliness in your heart.Often this kind of loneliness is more difficult to eliminate, which is the bait of the temptation trap.