Chapter 31 1. "A whore is worse than a thief"

The system of prostitution is a freak of society. Anyone who has investigated and studied the history of prostitution in China will feel a little weird, and feel that some things in ancient Chinese society are really incredible.For example, ancient Chinese society paid great attention to "defense between men and women". When a married woman returned to her natal home, she could not eat at the same table with her own brothers, but strangers were allowed to flirt with each other in brothels. Shoulder to shoulder, flirting, casual sex; ancient Chinese society was extremely particular about women's "chastity", emphasizing that brides must be virgins, wives and concubines must be loyal to each other, and widows who remarry should be regarded as outrageous, but they allow even Some women are required not to keep their "chastity" and to act as prostitutes who are "as good as they can be", and the more lewd and dissolute the better; ancient Chinese society also paid great attention to men's "keeping their will", emphasizing a man with ambition, accomplishment, A man with ideals should not be lecherous, promiscuous, and not lose his mind. However, a man’s prostitution is regarded as a romantic affair, which is not vulgar and elegant, and can be written into poems and widely sung. The emperor sometimes wants to join in the fun and experience life.This really makes it unclear what the ancient Chinese society was advocating, opposing, advocating, and prohibiting.

In fact, if you think about it the other way around, you will feel that this is easy to understand and the reason is very simple, because the world has always been full of contradictions.Everything exists and develops in comparison with its contradictory opposite.Where there is isolation, there is openness; where there is chastity, there is fornication; where there is sexual taboo, there is sexual freedom.Instead of "prohibiting but not stopping", such as "slightly loosening", that is to say, under the premise of strictly implementing the "prevention of men and women", open a small hole and keep a small world for men and women to communicate freely, so as not to be overwhelmed by excessive taboos. Cause psychological disorder and social imbalance.

Therefore, under the condition of inequality between men and women, ancient Chinese society adopted the method of sacrificing some women's chastity and dignity to satisfy men's desire for free association with the opposite sex, so as to ensure social balance and stability.It must be pointed out that this practice is unfair and immoral. The "fair" approach may be to open brothels where women can come and go freely and buy male prostitutes at will.Unfortunately this is not possible.There were also male prostitutes in ancient China, but they did not serve women, but men with "homosexual" needs.What's more, even if a male brothel is opened to provide services for women, it is immoral.The truly fair and moral approach is equality between men and women, freedom of communication, first love and then marriage, monogamy, both parties abide by the law, and are loyal to love.Obviously, for ancient Chinese society, this can only be a "postscript".

Although the practice of opening brothels is both unfair and immoral, it has indeed played an equalizer role in the stability of ancient Chinese society.An undeniable fact is that prostitutes in ancient China never caused damage or impact on families.On the contrary, the prostitution system and the family system do not contradict each other, complement each other, coexist and co-prosper, the mystery of which is quite worth pondering. To illustrate this point, let us look at the attitude of wives. As I said before, many wives in ancient China were "jealous women".They have almost no tolerance for concubinage by their husbands.However, what is interesting is that they are quite tolerant of their husbands' prostitution.For example, the wife of Mr. Xie An from the Eastern Jin Dynasty mentioned earlier.Xie An wanted to take a concubine, but she sternly refused, but there were so many singing girls around Xie An, and he would always be accompanied by a geisha when he went out to have a banquet, but she ignored it.One of the reasons may be that concubines pose a threat to the wife's status and cause family disputes, while prostitutes do not.No matter how beautiful and flirtatious a prostitute is, she is outside the family and is "public property"; no matter how ugly and dull a concubine is, she is also within the family and is "privately owned" by her husband.The boundary between public and private, inside and outside, cannot be separated.The home is the territory of the wife, so naturally no one else can get involved.Wives don't care about the outside world, and they don't want to. "The outside world is very exciting", but the outside world is also very "helpless".All the wives believe that no matter how dazzled their husbands are, one day they will "turn their prodigal sons back" and return to their side and home.

Of course, wives can't say they are not jealous when facing their husbands who come back after looking for flowers and flowers, but most of them don't take it seriously.Because in their view, prostitutes are not human beings at all, but "things" like cats and dogs.For example, if your husband ran a horse and slipped a dog, are you also angry with him?What's more, as I said before, wives in traditional Chinese society are more or less motherly. Therefore, treating a husband who is a prostitute is like treating a naughty son. Even if you say something like killing your body, you still have a loving heart.So what about husbands?When I saw my wife, I felt a little embarrassed on my face.Seeing his wife being so tolerant, he felt apologetic and thankful from the bottom of his heart. For his wife, at least in a short period of time, he would be extra considerate and gentle, and use the skills and methods he learned from the brothel to serve his wife.The result is that wives feel that it may be in their own interest to let men go there in a controlled manner.

The brothel thus becomes a wonderful addition to the home.Men enjoy the freedom of sex to the fullest in the brothel, and when they return home, they continue to play the roles of good husbands, filial sons, and strict fathers with a "clear conscience" and complete the tasks of "marriage" and "inheritance"; The prostitute turned a blind eye, as long as the husband didn't bring the "slut" into the house, as long as he could keep his orthodox position in the family, he didn't mind letting it go.The brothel and the family coexist peacefully like this, and there is nothing wrong with each other.If a wife becomes so jealous that she goes to a brothel to make a scene, then not only will she not get any benefit, but it will make people laugh.

It can be seen that one of the prerequisites for the existence of brothels is the lack of love in marriage.If this problem is not fundamentally solved, brothels may revive at any time. But the problem is: love is rare between husband and wife, but is it very affectionate in a brothel? Obviously not. On the surface, in an era when men and women were fortified everywhere and husbands and wives were indifferent, brothels could really be described as "the scenery here is the best".The madam greets her with a smile, which is closer than meeting a son-in-law; the prostitute makes a promise with her body, which is more affectionate than meeting a lover.The sound of warblers and swallows can be heard endlessly; nephrite jade is warm and fragrant, often filled with bosom.Twenty-four hours of all-round service, 360 days of all-weather service, come and go as soon as you call, not bound by morality, not responsible for the law, no need to behave like a ritual, no need to respect each other as a guest, out-and-out The "liberalization" of China is an out-and-out "living fairy".

It's a pity that this fairy must have the spell of "turning a stone into gold". Everything in a brothel, from food and wine to music and dancing, from service with a smile to indulgence, all of these have to be bought with money.Including obsessive love, life-and-death love, they are nothing but carefully packaged commodities, which must be paid according to the market as they go.So, when you give generously for all these, can you still believe that "love" is true, loyal and not adulterated?When you look back, can you not feel a sense of being cheated? Indeed, it is possible to have real love between a prostitute and a courteous man.But such cases are rare, and most likely to be hit and miss.One has a conscience, one is devoted to love, one is sympathetic to women, and one is devoted to righteousness and talent. In addition, the madam is more "enlightened" and the wife is more "virtuous". Maybe they can form a good marriage, otherwise they are just a bamboo basket. Nothing.Therefore, in most cases, both men and women are just playing a love game seriously.

The reason is also very simple, because they are all wary. First of all, the cheater is wary.As long as you are not a real "taken advantage", everyone knows that "gold has a price, but a bitch is ruthless".People who are prostitutes do not know how many men they have to receive in a year.Welcoming and sending off, giving birth to Zhang Shuwei, recruiting guests from all over the world, and receiving people from all over the world, if you have affection for everyone, wouldn't you become a "goddess of love"?How can there be such a good thing in the world!Therefore, when a prostitute says "I love you without asking", if the hooker is clear-headed, he has to discuss with himself whether she loves herself or her wallet?Unfortunately, this cannot be negotiated.The love shows performed by prostitutes are often as exciting as the song and dance shows they perform. You really can't tell which is "acting" and which is "serious". "When a fake is true, it is also a fake", there is no way, in order to prevent being a "fool", we have to treat it as fake first.

Second, prostitutes may be more wary.A man with power, power, money and talent, why not marry a lady from a famous family?Why would you want such a "bitch" like yourself?This alone is enough to dispel all "wrong thoughts", it is better to stick to one's duty, strike while the iron is hot, and take advantage of him when he repeatedly shows love, which is serious.If you know that you are a vulgar person, but you want to climb another branch, then you are daydreaming, thinking of good things, and being passionate! With this double precaution, in the brothel, even if there is a possibility of falling in love, it is inevitable that they will miss it.No wonder there are so many prostitutes who died in love in history, or both prostitutes and men who died in love, because this kind of love is too rare and precious, and it is worth dying for.

Although rare things are precious, they cannot meet the needs after all, not to mention "fake and inferior products" are inevitable?What's more, those who have the conditions to work with prostitutes are either officials or businessmen, rich or noble, not princes and grandchildren, but talented scholars and literati.What's more, after all, prostitution is only a man's business, and it has nothing to do with women, and women actually need love more than men.Since marriage in traditional Chinese society is a "loveless marriage" and brothels can only provide one-sided and false love, then the impulse to love has to find another way out. This is the so-called "stealing is worse than whore". "Prostitutes are worse than stealing", also known as "prostitutes are worse than stealing", which means that "sexing with prostitutes" is not as good as "stealing in love".Why is cheating the most desirable?Just because what is "stolen" is often the real thing.In traditional Chinese society, marrying a wife is fair and aboveboard, taking concubines is reasonable and legal, and prostitution is a bit of a lowly act, but it is tolerated, even regarded as an elegant thing, and passed on as a good story, but cheating has risks.Wouldn't it be a mistake if you took a huge risk and the "stealing" was actually a "fake product"?In fact, most of those who want to have an affair really like the other party, and if the other party has no true intentions, most of them will not take the risk to agree.Cheating is by no means irresponsible like prostitution, but both parties have to bear the risk together.In other words, prostitutes cost money, and cheating requires risks. Comparing the two, of course it is "risky" income, which is more reliable than "spending money" to buy, not to mention that this risk is taken by both parties together? Cheating is desirable because it is the only true free love, the only true independent choice.The wife is chosen by the matchmaker of the parents, so it is the most difficult to produce love.A concubine would be better off, with more or less the initiative, instead of "marrying a daughter-in-law", it might be "finding a lover", so "a wife is not as good as a concubine".However, taking a concubine still requires "reporting for approval", and it is far less free to "take over" the maidservant, so "a concubine is not as good as a maidservant".However, taking concubines and taking over houses are both unilateral initiatives, which are certainly not as good as the initiative of both parties, so "a maidservant is not as good as a prostitute".However, although sex with prostitutes is an active act of both parties, but this initiative is driven by money, so it is not clear whether it is "active" or "passive".At least the prostitute's initiative inevitably has an element of drama, how can it compare to the risky affair between the two parties?That's why there is the last sentence: "It's better to steal than a prostitute." From "a wife is not a concubine" to "a whore is worse than a thief", there is both sex and love.But even if it's just sex, it's always more fun to be active than passive.This is especially true for women. In traditional Chinese society, women have the least freedom of love.The husband is appointed by the parents and the matchmaker, and has no right to accept male concubines, male servants, or sex with male prostitutes.In this way, the only way for women in traditional society to experience the freedom of love, the autonomy of sex, and to be their own home and master is to have an affair.Therefore, in cases of adultery, cases of women taking the initiative are not uncommon, and emerge in endlessly, and most of the reasons are here. In this sense, cheating is a kind of rebellion against feudal ethics, and rebellion is also one of the reasons why cheating is so desirable. Indeed, rebellion itself is attractive.What is rebellion?Rebellion is actually doing what others dare not do.It takes courage and risk, but it is fascinating to overcome timidity and risk.I do not know since when, people have had this kind of understanding, that is, the more you need to take risks to get it, the higher its value, the so-called "infinite scenery is on the dangerous peak".Therefore, those who climb mountains are afraid that the mountains are not dangerous, and those who surf only hate that the waves are not high.Since cheating is risky, of course it must be interesting, not to mention "stealing" is "love"? In fact, the charm of brothels also has such elements to some extent.Because although sex with prostitutes is not illegal, it is recognized that it is not something a "decent" person should do after all.This is somewhat risky (for example, being regarded as "indecent"), which greatly tantalizes people's appetite.It is not difficult to imagine that if prostitution is as "right and aboveboard" as marriage, I am afraid that only the hungry ghosts in sex will go to brothels like restaurants. Still, going to a brothel is ultimately risk-free, which is far less exciting than having an affair.In fact, many people's cheating is neither for love nor for sex, but just to experience the taste of "tasting the forbidden fruit".To be precise, it is not for the "forbidden fruit", but for "stealing".In fact, if the forbidden fruit had not been banned, it would have no taste at all.Just because it is "forbidden" and the way to taste it is "stealing", it is delicious.Mr. Lu Xun said that the most delicious Luo Handou in his life was stolen when he was a child on the way back from watching a social drama. This is the reason.Arhat beans have to be stolen to be delicious, let alone "love"?Therefore, cheating, there are those who steal because of love, and those who love for stealing, but no matter what the situation is, it is rebellious and takes risks, and of course there will be unforgettable experiences.