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Chapter 2 Two Heroes of the Rivers and Lakes

Chinese man and woman 易中天 5657Words 2018-03-18
If the aforementioned images of timid, little knowledgeable, weak and fearful of responsibility are "useless men", then the second type of images in ancient Chinese operas and novels may just as well be called "sexless men". ’ or ‘Ruthless Man’. These characters who are at the other extreme from the previous images are the so-called "red-faced men" or "jianghu heroes".Most of them are tall and strong, with thick eyebrows and big eyes, beautiful beards and long beards, fully showing the sexual characteristics of men in physique.They are bold and majestic, far-sighted, powerful, and responsible, and they are worthy of being seven-foot men in terms of personality.In short, their faces are black, their blood is hot, their bones are hard, and their wills are strong; they dare to rush, fight, do, and act, they can make meritorious deeds, they can establish careers, they can gallop on the battlefield, and they can go through the rivers and lakes. He can be called a man, a real man, a real hero, and a true hero. In any nation in the world, he is the object that women desire to worship and secretly promise.

However, these Chinese heroes do not seem to like women. For some reason, ancient Chinese legends seem to have a strict division of labor and boundaries: Those who talk about love only talk about love, and those who talk about heroes only talk about heroes.There are few heroic deeds in love legends, and it is difficult to find the color of love in hero legends.In love legends, it's either a desperate love, a chaotic Lai, a life-and-death cry, or a bad fight, all of which have nothing to do with heroes.In the legend of heroes, there are only swords and swords, blood-stained heads, dark nights for killing people, and high winds and fire days, without any romance and warmth.Therefore, the whole story talks about love, but there is not a single hero; there are heroes everywhere, and it is hard to find even a little bit of love.

This is really a strange thing, and it is very different from the western legend that where there are heroes, there must be beauties, where there are beauties, there must be heroes, heroes save beauties, and beauties love heroes.Of course, we do not intend to confuse love saga with hero saga, and there is nothing wrong with the absence of heroes in love saga.However, there is no love in the legend of heroes, but it makes people feel a little bit wrong.Because "beauties love heroes since ancient times", our Chinese heroes must be loved by no one, right?In fact, Li Shishi was interested in Yan Qing, and Pan Jinlian also fell in love with Wu Song, but unfortunately they were just "hot peaches with shaved heads".This cannot be attributed to the "improper" relationship between men and women such as Pan Jinlian's love for Wu Song and Li Shishi's love for Yan Qing, because even the "legitimate" relationship between men and women is not described in hero legends.For example, Zhou Yu and Xiao Qiao, one is a young commander, and the other is a famous lady from Jiangdong. Their combination should be the most enviable thing.Just a sentence of Su Dongpo's "Looking back at the time when Gong Jin was married, Xiao Qiao got married for the first time", I don't know how many associations and fascinations it can arouse in future generations, but there is no story spread. "The great river goes east, and the waves sweep away all the romantic people of the ages", but their romance is only on the battlefield, not in love.

Because I don’t know when, China has an unwritten rule: a real hero should and must be "not lewd". This rule seems to be very strict in Jianghu. Song Jiang once said: "But only a hero commits the word 'slipping the bone marrow', which makes people laugh." The so-called "slipping the bone marrow" means "lusty".In the eyes of the people in Jianghu, a hero can disobey the king's law, murder and steal goods, and occupy the mountain as king; he can also change his position, recruit security and surrender, and climb another high branch; but there are two rules that cannot be surpassed, one is not to appear as a friend, The second is not to be greedy for women.

It's easy to understand friends who can't appear on the stage, but it's a bit puzzling not to be greedy for women.Because here, the so-called "greedy", "good", "near", "feminine" and so on are all vague concepts.They include both "improper" relationships between men and women (adultery, rape) and "proper" relationships between men and women (marriage, love).In other words, if a person rapes his wife and daughter, he is certainly not a hero (and an asshole), even if he just has a tryst with his lover and makes out with his wife, he is not a hero either.It can be seen that what is forbidden in the world is not only adultery and rape, but all relationships between men and women.Since all relationships between men and women are prohibited (or not advocated), naturally there is no such thing as love, and those beauties who secretly love heroes in their hearts have to be "hanging" aside, without their "use of force" "place.

At the same time, the heroes who are "not close to women" also become "asexual men".They either never marry for life, and they don't seem to have had sex outside of marriage;For example, Song Jiang, when he married Yan Poxi for the first time, he used to "rest and lie down together every night" (this later became a "stain" in his life), but later "gradually slowed down", the reason was that " Song Jiang is a good man, he only likes to learn how to wield a gun and stick, and it doesn't really matter when it comes to female sex."As a result, Zhang Wenyuan took advantage of the loophole and hooked up with Yan Poxi to commit adultery.The same is true for Lu Junyi. Although he has a wife, he "only cares about his strength and does not have sex with women" on weekdays. As a result, Li Gu took advantage of his loopholes and "did together" with his wife.It seems that the two leaders of Liangshan are not too "excellent" on this point.The ones who are more "hard" are Chao Gai and others, who simply "do not marry a wife, and just work hard all day long".Most of the 108 people in Liangshan belonged to this category.

There is only one person who is really "lusty", that is, Wang Ying, the dwarf tiger.But this man was by no means a hero.He is short and stubby, with ordinary martial arts skills and no charm at all. He will never make women fall in love with him like Wu Song, so he had no choice but to go down the mountain to grab women.Song Jiang's "punishment" to him was to marry Hu Sanniang, who was both more beautiful and heroic than him.This is a bit like a joke: a general doesn't eat chicken, and if his subordinates make mistakes, they are punished to eat chicken.As a result, Wang Xiaohu, who was the sexiest but also the least handsome, became the one who took advantage of Liangshan.Wang Xiaohu is a special case among men in "Water Margin", and Hu Sanniang is a special case among women in "Water Margin".In this sense, they happen to be a "couple".

On Liangshan, Li Kui was the most resolute and thorough in implementing the principle of "not lustful".Regarding this point, it can be seen from Li Kui's attitude towards Song Jiang. In terms of personal relationship, Li Kui and Song Jiang have the best relationship.When Song Jiang said about Li Kui, he said, "He has the most affection for me"; when Li Kui said about Song Jiang, he said, "I dare not scold him in my dreams! When he wants to kill me, let him do it."This kind of relationship is well known on Liangshan.Therefore, when Shi Qian and Li Kui went to Zengtou City to make peace together, they said to Chief Zeng: "Although Li Kui is rough, he is a confidant of my brother Song Gongming. Don't be suspicious when he is specially envoy." So there is no doubt.Therefore, although Song Jiang tried to kill Li Kui again and again because of Li Kui's repeated troubles, he finally did not kill him; although Li Kui was always dissatisfied with Song Jiang's surrender route, ten thousand unwilling, he still followed Song Jiang to surrender, and even in the end, Song Jiang When Li Kui was about to be poisoned to death for his own sake of "clearing his name for the rest of his life", Li Kui just said, "Come on, go on, go on! Serve my brother in life, and be just a little devil under my brother's subordinates when I die!" , it can be seen.

However, it was precisely this Li Kui who was willing to be killed by Song Jiang, but once he really wanted to kill Song Jiang.The reason is that they believed the rumors that Song Jiang had robbed Taigong Liu's daughter at the foot of the mountain.In Li Kui's view, this is a much more serious problem than writing anti-poetry or surrendering to the court.Writing anti-poetry is nothing more than becoming a "bandit"; being recruited is nothing more than becoming an "official".Whether it is an official or a bandit, they are still human beings.If you rob the women of the people, it is a beast.So when Li Kui met Song Jiang, he was "in a ball of anger" at first and couldn't speak.When Yan Qing finished speaking, he began to curse: "I often treat you like a man, but you are an animal!" Li Kui respected Song Jiang and loved Song Jiang. If he was not extremely angry, he would not be able to swear such words. of.

Li Kui's anger cannot be simply understood as sympathizing with the weak or fighting against injustice.To be honest, Li Kui is different from Lu Zhishen in that he doesn't sympathize with the weak, and he doesn't like to fight against injustices in his spare time.Do you think he killed many innocent people indiscriminately when he robbed the execution ground in Jiangzhou?It should be said that the life and death of the two weak women is not in his eyes or in his heart.What he really cares about is whether his elder brother Song Gongming, who he respects, loves and deserves to die for, is really lustful?But precisely on this point, he had doubts and worries, and he once discounted it in his heart, and then it was on the verge of breaking out: "I respected you as a good man who is not greedy and lustful, but you turned out to be a drunkard." Disappointment, or in other words, it was the verification of this suspicion that made Li Kui feel cheated, and his anger reached its peak.Therefore, at the time of extreme grief and indignation, the long-buried dissatisfaction with Song Jiang on the issue of "female sex" also blurted out: "Kill Yan Poxi, it will be a small sample; go to Tokyo to raise Li Shishi, it will be a big sample" On the surface This is used to prove that the rumors are credible, but in fact it is just to vent the "dislike" that I have already had.

Obviously, this dispute is undoubtedly a good thing for the relationship between Song Jiang and Li Kui.Because in the end it proved that Song Jiang did not rob Liu Taigong's daughter, which also proved that Song Jiang was not "lusty".Moreover, Li Kui's private doubts about Song Jiang, all kinds of dissatisfaction with his suspicion of being "lustful" about marrying Yan Po and cherishing Li Shishi, etc., as a kind of thing that has been suppressed to the deepest level of psychology, has also been vented by finally speaking out.From then on, Li Wei will follow Song Jiang to the end without any psychological burden, go through fire and water for Song Jiang, and even follow Song Jiang to surrender. However, perhaps no one (including Li Kui himself) would have thought that deep down in Li Kui's heart, he did not really become relaxed because of this.On the contrary, the matter of "taking back the daughter for others" was not over, but instead became a "complex" deep in Li Kui's psychology. This complex finally turned into a dream of Li Kui in Chapter 93.In this dream, what Li Kui dreamed were indeed his "dreams": being rewarded by the emperor, killing four treacherous ministers, seeing his dead mother, etc., and this series of dreams began with such a dream, ——Li Kui broke into a manor house and encountered a dozen strong men who wanted to snatch other people's daughters, so Li Kui hacked the dozen strong men to the ground one after another, saving the family of three.This is not surprising, because Li Kui has done such good things before, such as helping Liu Taigong take back his daughter and so on.If his dream ends here, it is nothing more than a kind of "hero remembering the past".The strange thing is that in this dream, the ending that never happened in real life appeared-the mother of the rescued woman actually wanted to marry her daughter, that is, the rescued person to Li Kui.This is really unheard of, and I dare not even think about it, so even Li Kui in the dream was startled, jumped up as if electrocuted, and shouted: "Such a picky and crooked thing! But it's what I want!" Murder your daughter, kill these birds? Quickly pinch the beak, don't fart that bird!" After finishing speaking, he fled out the door. This dream is really a rare and true stroke in the movie, because it truly tells us that the "sexual heroes" represented by Li Kui actually still have "sexuality" in their hearts.As long as people with normal physiology have sexual requirements and impulses, it is abnormal and abnormal if they do not have them.Therefore, it is normal whether the rescued daughter in real life wanted to marry Li Kui out of gratitude or admiration, or Li Kui dreamed about such a thing.Li Kui dreamed of this incident, indicating that deep down in his heart, he somewhat hoped that such a thing would happen.Moreover, according to routine, common sense, and common sense, this kind of thing should happen, or should not happen.However, such a thing has never happened in life, so Li Kui would have such a dream.But, on the other hand, as a hero who "does not covet women and does not seek repayment", he absolutely cannot accept this arrangement of taking the rescued woman as his wife, even if the two of them really fell in love at first sight.The demands or impulses in these two aspects were so strong that even Li Kui was taken aback, so he had no choice but to run away and continue to kill people in his dream.It seems that a so-called hero like Li Kui who has suppressed his sexual needs will eventually become a machine: either a machine that kills and sets fire, or a machine that drinks and eats meat, at best it does "good deeds" machine. Perhaps, there are only a few people like Li Kui who are "envious of sex" or "envious of sex", but it is also true that most heroes in the world do not value female sex.They either don't think about it at all, or they don't take it seriously at all, in short, they take it very lightly.They may joke and flirt (such as Wu Song), or they may be very romantic (such as Yan Qing), but they are not "real". The "style" in the city is just to lure Li Shishi to the bait.Yan Qing once said to Dai Zong: "If a husband forgets his origin for the sake of wine and sex in life, how is this different from a beast?" So even though he moved to live in Li Shishi's house, Li Shishi also had interests in him, but in the end he did not offend the river. Let Master Li look forward to it in vain. The reasons for the "color refusal" of heroes may be quite complicated.For example, they think that "sex hurts the body", that getting close to women will hinder martial arts training, or that women will only add chaos and bad things because the risks in the world are too high.But two ideas have undoubtedly had an important influence. One concept is that "heroes are short of breath, but sons and daughters are long-lasting".This sentence can be interpreted in three ways.One kind of understanding is: heroism is always very short, and the relationship between children can last; another understanding is: it doesn’t matter if heroes are short of breath, anyway, there is still love between children;The heroes in the arena obviously take the last understanding. This is probably based on the lessons of history, because almost all the heroes in history who love their sons and daughters are short-tempered.They are either failed heroes (such as Xiang Yu), or short-lived heroes (such as Zhou Yu), or problematic heroes (such as Lu Bu).These people, without exception, are loved by women, loved by women, and even dedicated by women.Moreover, these women are all great beauties, such as Xiang Yu's Concubine Yu, Zhou Yu's Xiao Qiao, and Lu Bu's Diao Chan.However, instead of bringing them good luck, these beauties brought them big troubles.Xiao Qiao brought disaster to Zhou Yu and the entire Jiangdong, because it is said that Cao Cao's motive for leading troops south to attack Soochow was to kidnap Jiangdong Erqiao and hide her beauty on the Tongque Terrace, and Zhou Yu was there at this time He died short-lived in the war; Diao Chan ruined Lu Bu's reputation, and as an unjust villain who killed his adoptive father, he was forever nailed to the pillar of shame in history, and was finally killed because of this; Yu Ji was defeated by Xiang Yu Time has become a burden and a burden: "What's wrong with Yu Xi, Yu Xi?" How much has it affected King Xiang's fighting spirit and strategy?In the end, he had to kill himself in Wujiang.These few are all heroes who love each other, but they all end up short of breath.Then, Chinese heroes, if they want to ensure their "heroic spirit", they have no choice but to do the opposite, to achieve "sons and daughters love each other". It's a pity that the thing of love between children is usually indispensable.Once glued, it will inevitably be lingering.Therefore, the Chinese heroes had no choice but to "overcorrect" and simply cut off the relationship between their children and kept away from women. The second concept is that "a good man is not lustful, and a lustful man is not a hero".This is a logical conclusion of the former concept.Because Chinese heroes have made up their minds to sever and bid farewell to their sons and daughters, then those who do not sever this affection are no longer heroes, but just bears or cowards.Even, going one step further, it is more likely to be hooligans and gangsters. The reason is also very simple, because the hero, like everything else, also has its own opposite, and exists because of the existence of this opposite.The reason why there are heroes in the world is because there are villains and bastards in the world.What heroes have in them must be found in bad guys and cowards; what heroes and heroes do not have must be found in bad guys and cowards.Since heroes are "not very important in women's sex", then villains and cowards must be "very lustful"; since heroes and heroes "do not know how to be women's sex", then villains and cowards must be "good at it". In fact, in ancient Chinese literature and art works, those who think of women in their hearts and can fully display male sexual characteristics and sexual charm in front of women; those who have sexual desire, sex appeal, sexual ability and sexual skills; People who are good at womanizing methods, house skills, and sex art are either scum or gangsters, traitors or villains, litigators or villains, literary ruffians or gangsters, such as Zhang Wenyuan, Ximen Qing, Pei Ruhai, etc. flow.There is no problem with Ximen Qing and his like being gangsters.There is no problem with Ximen Qingzhi's death.The question is, why is it that Ximenqing, a rogue with more than a death sentence, possesses sexual charm and makes women feel attracted to him, and why does he have sexual ability and makes women feel happy? This undoubtedly involves Chinese culture's views on a series of issues such as sex, love, marriage, and family, which can only be elaborated in the future.What I want to say is that it is not a good thing to give sex as a "patent" to bad guys, bastards, and rogue villains.For those bad guys, it really makes them "take advantage of too much"; for the good guys, it's "not worth the loss".Because according to dialectics, both contradictory and opposite sides can only exist when the other side exists.If there were no women in the world, there would be no men.Therefore, a woman without a man in her heart is not a good woman, and a man without a woman in her heart is not a good man either.Is it worth it or not for heroes to lose (or partially lose) their identity as men in order to be heroes?Even Chinese women had no choice but to admit that they were unlucky and lost their love for heroes.Because none of the Chinese heroes love or are able to love women.Since Chinese women have no heroes to love, they have no choice but to love "sick people", "stupid people" or so-called "honest people", such as the stupid Dong Yong, the silly Xu Xian and the sad and sickly Zhang Sheng,— —If they don't want to commit themselves to Ximen Qing and his ilk. What a tragedy!
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