Chapter 24 love

Some time ago, the circle of friends was swiped by "Once Upon a Time". A group of single girls who didn't know who Mu Xin was at first forwarded the poem arrogantly and aggressively, pretending to despise instant love, comforting themselves, if no one would have to wait longer Feelings. I offered my knees for their strong hearts, and maliciously speculated that most of them just started to make excuses for themselves because they couldn't find love. Unfortunately, love never comes slowly. If you want me to say, love as soon as you want.Love, of course, cannot stand the test of time.

I know what you want to say, the longer you get along, the deeper the love.Well, long time produces love, what produces is emotion, not love. In fact, all love is love at first sight. Back to today's topic, it is to talk to Seoul about how long it takes to fall in love and get married. Of course, Seoul is in favor of slow cooking and slow work. I said, whether a job is good or not, speed is not the only criterion. Then, she said, love will ferment. I said that love does not ferment, it only evaporates. Then, Seoul ignored me. I am serious. As I said a long time ago, marriage and love are not the same thing.

If you have to define it, marriage is not the crystallization or sublimation of love, but a derivative. Love is fire, and two people are ingredients.Marriage is the dish that reaches the degree of heat they need. Whether it will be successful or not depends on how long the fire lasts. However, the nature of the fire will not always exist, it will always go from the most blazing to slowly cooling down, turning into a small flame, and finally extinguishing.The ever-present little fire that you hoped for would not exist. My point of view is - start the pot as soon as it is at its peak. You don't have to worry about it being underdone, but at least it's hot to the touch.

Lin Xi wrote in "The Era of Farewell" that hugs are all for farewell rehearsals, which is not cool. It is because this is a fast era, people get acquainted quickly, meet each other quickly, go to bed fast, cheat fast, love comes and goes faster, you are still busy commemorating the last paragraph, and everyone is over the next paragraph. And speaking responsibly, in essence, apart from character and general direction, it doesn't matter who you marry. Of course, this point of view will lead to attacks from girls who regard marriage as a sacred belief. But you can't deny—

There is no one who never tires of watching, no matter how handsome or beautiful. There is no one who never blushes, no matter how gentle and tolerant. There is no one who is only attracted to you all his life, no matter how honest and affectionate he is. On this planet, there is no such thing as the so-called most suitable person who is waiting to be with you in the vast sea of ​​people. They only live in the lust of "chicken soup authors". In the end, the person you choose to marry does not meet all your previous requirements, but the result of compromise after you constantly change your standards.

Compromise is an ugly word, but it is objective, so don't be so unwilling. Because when you thought about all the requirements before, you forgot to look in the mirror first. Nothing compares to what's in front of you. If you want to say that a person's judgment in love is irrational, yes, but at least it comes from the heart. There is nothing wrong with instinct. It seemed sensible for two people to stay together for too long, but that was already a game played in the name of love. Many girls, including Ms. Seoul, told me that the reason why they must talk about a long-term relationship before marriage is because they need to get to know each other seriously and make sure that this is a person who will be with them for a lifetime.

If so, then among those who have been in a long-term relationship and married, there will not be so many divorced in the end. What is understanding? I have always believed that it is essentially impossible for a person to truly know another person, not for a long time. Those hidden, unopened inner secrets are the reasons why we are different from each other. Moreover, people are subject to change. Growth, setbacks, turning points, and temptations cannot be guaranteed by oaths and certificates. The so-called understanding is self-deception. Get married when you love the most, instead of letting the relationship grow so long that it is indistinguishable from a dull married life.

This will allow love to work longer, and its freshness, which can offset the friction of mutual adaptation at the beginning of marriage, will more easily transform into family affection when it fades and disappears. Those long loves are like a marathon, which looks as beautiful as running in the sunset, but most of the people in it are constantly wanting to give up, exhausted, not for the finish line, but for running. At my age, I have seen too many sworn promises become lies in the face of time.Most people can't stand the test. The so-called persistence is nothing more than insufficient temptation.

More people who have no conditions to be tempted are advocating the rationality of the long-distance love race. To put it harshly, they don't even have the chance to make mistakes. The only real strength is to believe in yourself. When you fall in love with someone, it is not because of the companionship of the years and changes, but because of the heartbeat of the electric light and flint. I believe that you will adapt to each other because of love and become better people, instead of throwing yourself and your lover on the balance of time after the love fades away. Things that you don't believe in won't happen to you.

Therefore, tea must be drunk while it is hot, and people must love it while it is hot. If you want to get married, you have to get married as soon as possible.