Chapter 9 Wisdom from Wife - Do You Have a Special Husband

Men who work irregular hours, such as taxi drivers, railway staff, and ship employees, as well as men who need special care at work, such as pilots, all need a wife who can be more adaptable in order to maintain a harmonious marriage. The marriages of many famous entertainers are because their wives cannot accept that their husbands live an irregular life all day long in order to be successful, so that they have to come to the brink of rupture in the end. If your husband is also a man with special occupational conditions, then the most important thing to note is that life cannot be perfect, you must face the facts bravely and accept it, and then try your best to be happy within the constraints of working to support your family live every day.

Men who are prominent in "glamorous" professional circles -- movie stars, singers, musicians, writers, for example.Their wives are the envy of many women. My sixteen-year-old dream was to marry a famous explorer. At that time, I didn't stop to think about it.In fact, the burden of being a wife of this kind of person may be heavier, and it is not as simple as it seems on the surface, that is to say, it is not just wearing a designer fashion and posing in front of the camera.The example of Mrs. Lovie Thomas can prove this point. Mr. Lovie Thomas - famous newscaster, author, university teacher, sportsman, adventurer, spends most of his time at home in the wilds of the Himalayas, or in front of the news cameras.I think there are few men in this world who are more famous than him.

Lowe's wife, Frances Thomas, was a woman of brilliance and charm.Literally, almost like a chameleon, changing herself according to her husband's needs at any time. After the First World War, Mr. Lowe traveled around the world, lecturing on "Lawrence of Arabia" and "Allenby's Battle in Palestine".She followed her husband, acting as his assistant manager on trips, and composing music for Islamic prayers. After returning to live in America, Frances Thomas was undoubtedly one of the busiest hostesses in the country.At their country home, she was to entertain the various characters who kept coming to visit.These people had all appeared in her husband's books, adventurers, astronauts, and many other remarkable people.Weekends in their house were often bustling with parties of fifty or two hundred guests.

When her husband had to go on a long journey, Frances Thomas became extremely anxious, because her husband often had accidents.For example, during the revolution in Germany after World War I, the newspaper called her to say that her husband had been fatally attacked while covering a street chaos.Another time, when the plane that Lovie Thomas was on was passing through the desert of Andalusia, Spain, it suddenly crashed, and Frances could only stay in Paris anxiously waiting for the news.What's more, Lovi Thomas was seriously injured while passing through a certain mountainous area in Tibet. Fortunately, he was rescued by local Tibetans and he left the Himalayas more than 20 days later.In all these marital accidents, Frances Thomas heard only that her husband had been badly hurt.Other than that, I couldn't get any news, and I suffered all kinds of mental torture.Can we bear this painful experience?

Now Mrs. Lovie Thomas's only son, Lovie Thomas Jr., is following in his father's footsteps of exploration, and Mrs. Thomas is going to worry about him again. For a character as provocative as Lovie Thomas, do you still find it easy and pleasant to be his wife?A simple statistic about such wives will tell you that extraordinary husbands can only be accommodated by extraordinary women. When those noble ladies holding roses in their hands and sitting in the car are driving on the street, do you also look at them among the envious crowd, have you ever thought about changing places with them?

The lively, robust Mr. McKerdin was the Governor of Maryland, and his wife, Mrs. Hilde McKerdin, was a very gentle and quiet woman, with all the noble and elegant femininity, a perfect wife.However, she once said to me: "I am in a very uncomfortable position. Since we moved into the governor's mansion, my life has completely changed. My husband wakes up early every day and starts to deal with business. The heavy workload keeps him busy. I hardly ever see him, and I don’t come back to bed until late at night. The only time I can mitigate these distractions is when I accompany him on trips and out-of-town speeches.”

"Happily, we enjoy traveling more than many couples who stay at home together. It's like going on vacation somewhere, and enjoying every amazing experience that happens while traveling is really satisfying." There is a lot of excitement, and travel makes those experiences more memorable and more precious.” Men are undoubtedly fortunate to have wives like Mrs. Lowe and Mrs. McKerdin, for their wives bring not only glory, but also the inconveniences of fame and position without complaint. If your husband's unusual occupation is causing a lot of inconvenience, you can apply the following rules:

1.Each of us can endure one thing for a short time.If this situation is very short, you might as well smile and be patient. 2.If the situation is going to go on for a long time, you'd better accept it and try to improve, as Mrs McKaydin did. 3.Always remind yourself: Your husband's success also means your success.If this kind of work is necessary to his success, then you should accept it.In addition, if you cannot accept your husband's job and leave him, it has constituted abandonment from a legal point of view, and it represents a defect in emotion from a logical point of view.

4.We should understand that there is no job in the world that is completely happy and happy.Any kind of life style has its advantages and disadvantages.Even in the most ideal of circumstances one must be critical of the man who constantly complains of the imperfections of his life.