Chapter 35 Chapter 2 Love--Let him live freely

The great British politician Disraeli said: "I may have made many mistakes and follies in my life. But I definitely do not intend to marry for love." Yes, he really didn't.He was not married until he was thirty-five years old. Later, he proposed to a rich widow, a widow who was fifteen years older than him, a widow with gray hair after fifty years of cold and heat. Is that love?No, it is not.She knew he didn't love her, but married her for money.So the old widow asked only one thing, and she asked him to wait a year.She wanted to give herself a chance to observe his character.At the end of the year she married him

These words sound dull and unremarkable, almost like a business deal, don't they?However, what makes it difficult for people to understand is that Disraeli's marriage is praised as one of the most happy marriages. The rich widow that Disraeli chose was neither young nor beautiful, but a woman who had passed through half a century, and of course it was far from it. Her conversations often make great mistakes in literature and historical deeds, and often become the object of people's ridicule.For example, there is such an interesting thing... "She will never know whether Greece came first or Rome came first." Her clothes are even more bizarre and completely out of line.As for the furnishings of the house, I don't know anything about it.However, she is a genius!

She was a great genius at what matters most to marriage -- the art of dealing with a man. She never lets what she thinks confront or contradict her husband's opinion.Every afternoon, when Disraeli returned home exhausted from chatting with those sensitive ladies, she immediately gave him a quiet rest.He had a place of quiet repose in the atmosphere of respect and respect in this increasingly cheerful family. Disraeli was happiest in his life when he was with this older wife.She was his good wife, his confidant, his advisor.Every night, when he hurried home from the House of Representatives, he told her what he had seen and heard during the day.And... the most important thing... She never believed that he would fail in whatever he tried to do.

Marianne... this widow who remarried at the age of fifty, after thirty years, in her opinion, the reason why her property is valuable is because it can make his life more comfortable.Conversely, she was a heroine in his heart.Disraeli was made an earl after her death.But when he was a commoner, he appealed to Queen Victoria to make Marianne a nobleman.So in 1868, Marianne was made the Viscountess of "Biekenfürth". No matter how stupid and clumsy she was in front of everyone, he never criticized her, and he never said a word of reproach in front of her...!If someone laughed at her, he immediately defended her vigorously.

Marianne wasn't perfect, but in her last thirty years she never tired of talking about her husband!She praised him, admired him!The results of it?This is what Disraeli himself said: "We have been married for thirty years, and I have never tired of her." However, some people think this way - Marianne must be stupid because she doesn't know history. As far as Disraeli was concerned, he considered Marianne the most important thing in his life, and he made no secret of that.The results of it?Marianne often told her friends, "Thank God for His love, my life is a long series of joys."

There is a joke between the two of them.Disraeli said so! "You know, I married you only for your money?" Marianne smiled and replied, "Yes, but if you propose to me again, it must be for loving me, right?" Disraeli admitted that was right. No, Marianne wasn't perfect; but Disraeli was smart enough to keep her what she was. Jam once said: "The first thing to learn about living with people is the way of not interfering with their own special happiness..." "Wooter" wrote in his book about family: "Success in marriage is not just about finding a suitable person, but how to be a suitable person yourself."

So, if you want your family to have a fulfilling, happy life, the second rule is: Don't try to reform your partner.